I learnt some scary things

[kk2004]

My gurl told me yest that she had messed around with alot more guys than i thought she had. She hooked up with like 10 guys and had sex with like 6 of them. She told me she never told me bcuz she thought i wud think she was trash. She told me all this bcuz i told her I lost my virginity to her. I mean im 18 when I did lose it to her. SHe lost hers at 14. Its crzy. I was soo upset. I felt like a used rag, like i was any other guy. She tells me that im special and diffrent and that she loves me and wants to marry me, and the thing is that I luv her too, but i just dont respect her anymore. Respect means alot to me. I know what u guys are saying, but the way she loves me, no gurl has ever loved me like her. I dont want to lose her but im mad now, bcuz of two reasons.
1) I dont feel special to her anymore, i feel like im all the other guys she has had
2) I feel like i didnt earn her love, its as if she will just love anyone, that makes me feel like i didnt earn it or have to work for it.

I dont know im so lost, but i know that I love her, and I know its not stupid love either, its real love, unconditional, cuz even after all this I luv her. But its hard to sort out feelings and make it feel okay. One thing that wud help me is knowing how many ppl mess around as much as her, if most gurls these days mess around ALOT, i think its alot, then i might not be so harsh on her, but otehrwise i dont know. plz help

 

[Big Eee Zee]

from what you said it seems like you have a solid grasp on who you are and how you feel so there's not much we can do. I sympathize. My girl was around a bit before I got her and it does suck, but think of it this way. At least she knows how to show you a good time...

 

[kk2004]

hmm.

lol. thx, she told me she made a mistake. AND BOY DID SHE CRY, when she told me, she CRIED FOR 10 MIN STRAIGHT SOBBING.

She said " I feel like a worthless piece of ****...i feel like my own bf wnt believe me that the things i did were mistakes and that i love him...and worst of all i feel like ur never gna let this go"

But it still doesnt change the way i feel, what can i do?

 

[HereToImprove]

Its a paradox. We want these women to sleep with us when we approach them, but we want them to do it for no other man in their life.

We can either have a society of women who guard sex and play into every societal conditioning, or we can have women who do what they feel.

Its not going to happen that YOU get to sleep with every woman at the drop of a hat but all of these women say no to every other guy.

 

[PeeGee]

How 'bout you try not owning the women you date? Then they can sleep around like you would like to sleep around and nobody judges each other hypocritically.

Or is a part of DJing being unconfident and worrying over trivial things? I wasn't paying attention on that part.

 

[kk2004]

Yes

Statistically there need to be women for the men to f*ck. But i wish it just wasnt my women. YOu know. Its more about feeling than reasoning. Feelings are moer powerful than reasoning. If u want to fight a guy, if u reason it out that u need to kick his ass, or u feel like kicking his ass and u are mad. I think the second one wins.

 

[Black_Italian]

OH NO she has had a sex life before she met you. Surely you would have thought shed lived in a bubble her whole life with no human contact till she met you. Man I don’t know what you should do i mean YOUR GF HAS HAD SEX WITH OTHER PEOPLE before she met you. Bottom line is she is evil scum i mean what kind of a human being would have SEX.

Your an IDIOT sex is a natural thing everyone does it WE WERE BORN TO DO IT just because she has done it more then you that is no reason to get jealous. Seriously man she’s a girl they want sex more than us if you can’t accept that then you should really think about becoming a homosexual or suicide because that’s the world we live in. If you want a virgin who has never been touched before save some money and go to Lebanon and find a hot Muslim girl.

Ninja out

 

[spider_007]

Look at it this way, every guy wan't his gurl act like a porn star, BUT ONLY WITH HIM. unforionalty this is the new ara, and gurls sleep around as much as guys.

-assume there is an equal amout of guys and gurls on the planet. If the average number of gurls every guys has slept wit is 15, then the average number of guys a gurl has slept with is also 15. You see all those people who are getting laid left or right, those gurls have to come from somewhere......

I'ts normal what your feeling, she would be feeling the same thing if it was the other way around.....

 

[kk2004]

yeah

thx spider, Black italian always got some negative things to say but he got one thing right, Im jealous, if I had messed around with as many ppl she had it wud have been diffrent. I giess i got to accept the fact that women have sex and do whatever they want, i mean logically it makes perfect sense i just feel jealous and its just there. I guess it okay for a male, hes a stud if he has sex, but a female is a ***** if she goes around

I just wish i had messed around as mcuh as she did. I was never cool, or fitted in with the popular kids in HS, i was never invited to parties and neither was she and i feel bad that i wasnt wild, my ego hurts. I feel so uncool that i wasnt a stud while she was cool enough to go mess around and have tonns of connections and mess around whneever she wanted to. Now that i have a gurl, and i know she is special, shes not like everyone else, i dont want to lose her, plus i wouldnt gain anything , I wudnt hook up with anyone. I just feel like a loser cuz she had so much sex and she messed around so much that I never had a chance too.

 

[spider_007]

Remember this too; gurls have more oportunities and more pressure on them, They don't have to be cool to get laid....

unfortionetly it's the otherway around for guys; we have to be cool, we have to go out and put in a lot of effort.....

LIFE ISN'T FAIR

 

[BlackJackal]

Re: yeah

Originally posted by kk2004
thx spider, Black italian always got some negative things to say but he got one thing right, Im jealous, if I had messed around with as many ppl she had it wud have been diffrent. I giess i got to accept the fact that women have sex and do whatever they want, i mean logically it makes perfect sense i just feel jealous and its just there. I guess it okay for a male, hes a stud if he has sex, but a female is a ***** if she goes around

I just wish i had messed around as mcuh as she did. I was never cool, or fitted in with the popular kids in HS, i was never invited to parties and neither was she and i feel bad that i wasnt wild, my ego hurts. I feel so uncool that i wasnt a stud while she was cool enough to go mess around and have tonns of connections and mess around whneever she wanted to. Now that i have a gurl, and i know she is special, shes not like everyone else, i dont want to lose her, plus i wouldnt gain anything , I wudnt hook up with anyone. I just feel like a loser cuz she had so much sex and she messed around so much that I never had a chance too.

Wait, are you jealous of the guys she slept with, or are you jealous of her for being popular enough to sleep around as much as she did? And really man, you cant judge her for having a past you were never involved in. If you had the benefit of sleeping with all the girls you wanted in your past, you wouldn't want your girl to judge you for it either.

Women have sexual needs to. I dont see a point in having a problem with women sleepin around.

 

[kk2004]

jealous

im jealous of her being so cool that she hung out with so many ppl of the opposite sex when i didnt

 

[zerocelcius]

That is not that many people!

Are you really going to allow the person you care about feel like trash?

 

[frivolousz21]

dude, first off

dont say its because u were uncool....thats BS!


did u have a car?

I was uncool at my school..because i wasnt a racist hick like the rest of them..but I dated women from other schools as well as my girl at my hs..

damn ive been out since 2000!


**** HS..now ur in college...fyck ur girl.

if u become single..then be cool on ur OWN terms:cheer:

 

[kk2004]

oh no

oh no, she tells me straight up that im the best she's ever had and that I beat any guy she has had sex with. Im not worried about my performance and sex. I just want to know that the other gurls like me too, this makes me feel like more of a man, thats why the small makeout sessions and sex randezous would make me feel loved and liked but my gurl told me that they never give u what u are looking for. Im looking for happines with myself, i wanna feel good about myself and one would be to get alot of diffrent pus*y, but my girl made me realize that its only temporary and that u still feel low no matter what unless u find someone who loves u back. I mean if i do stay with her she wud be the only girl ive ever had sex with. She told me that the reason why she wud go around like that wud be to try to find someone that wud make her feel loved sexy and liked, and she said im the first person to do that and im the first person she has ever fallen in love with. But at the same time a part of me wants to go and **** every woman I see, so that i fills my desire to be cool. Im not horny, i just wanna **** diffrent women to feel good about myself and fill that gap of self esteem that yes ppl still like me, thats why i want to have lots of friends cuz then that would make me feel good about myself. She also made me realize that a few friends who u care about are better than many ppl, cuz they dont care for u, when u havve a few freinds that do care, it means much more than being popular. But yet at the same time i want to be popular bcuz i want that feeling that everyone likes me and i want to feel accpeted and i want to feel like belong. Its realli confusing.

No i dont have a car. thats a big problem. all my friends live far

And NO im not gonna let her feel like crap, we made up and im gonna see her tonight and im just gonna hold her and look into her eyes and tell her i luv her like i always do.

Thats the hard part, its believeing im cool unless i have other ppl telling me I am, ppl tell me that im not all my life so i believeed it, now i need ppl again to make me feel i am. Its realli ahrd to be cool on ur own terms. Its hard. feelings are hard.

 

[spider_007]

Re: oh no

Thats the hard part, its believeing im cool unless i have other ppl telling me I am[/B]

No, it's acctually easy, say to your self; I AM GONA PROVE THEM WRONG. ONE DAY I'LL OWN THE WORLD, AND THEY ARE GONA BE MY BICHES....

 

[kk2004]

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See im diffrent avon, I cud see myself being satisfied by having sex with just one women. But only under one condition, that i knew that i could **** other women, if i ever wanted to, that i knew that i had the skill and confidence and ability. Its just that I never had sex with any gurl before this one and i feel like i got alot to prove, but this girl means so much to me, she loves me and i feel like no one wud ever come close, cuz she has everything that i always abd ever wanted in a women, and i think she is hot too. hotter than any women i have ever dealt with. I feel like if i loose her that i wud be losing something realli special. I guess i feel like I have alot to prove becuase I have a low self esteem and messing around makes me feel like im the man. I dont know.

thx spider, i told my gurl that the other day, but actually believeing it takes a long time when ur whole life uve been told u where wierd or ugly. Its hard to just forget that voice. I try to face everyday with new courage but its hard, it takes time to build that feeling inside that u dont care about ppl and that u are gonna feel good about urself no matter what.

 

[bullmoose]

Remember the scene from Clerks?

"My girlfriend sucked 37 ****s!"
"In a row?"

 

[Black_Italian]

Re: yeah

Originally posted by kk2004
thx spider, Black italian always got some negative things to say but he got one thing right

I have negative things to say WHEN THEY NEED TO BE SAID. I dont hold back.

Ninja out

 

[Centaurion]

I just got two things to say,

1) ENGLISH, MOTHERF*CKER DO YOU KNOW IT!!???? Seriously, learn to spell.

2) Just accept that your girlfriend has been boinking around. This is the 21st century. Most chicks have had more c*cks stuffed up them than you can imagine. It's just like in the movie American Pie. Always multiply the number of sex-partners a chick claims to have had with 3 and round up to the nearest 5. That's a pretty good estimate of how many c*cks she's been around.