I just wasted a good portion of my young life...

[Brighty]

On the computer...

I've noticed that I play a lot of computer games and it really made me socially awkward in situations because I simply had not experienced it before. I'm wondering what I'm suffering from, I'm starting to lean towards Social Anxiety disorder built up from spending so much time on the computer. The sad part is is that I'm a regular looking kid, first impressions usually result in the girl saying I'm attractive, so I wasn't using the computer to escape reality... I just sort of became addicted to it with no other hobby... and ALL OF THAT TIME WASTED. And because of this I've been known to be awkward in social situations I know this sounds so cliche, but I always figured that this would never happen to me, I always figured I could balance it out... but it got the best of me.

However, I've made a pact today to stop this bull**** and save whats left of my high school life (I'm a junior). And really, I guarentee I was in the same position as many of the users here (maybe not in this section, but rather in the HS section) and if I could pass on anything to them... My god, I sound like a druggy at a DARE class... and its pathetic..... but it would be really take a step back and look at yourself. Are you playing too much computer games? Are you on it too much? If you even think you are and you aren't happy with your current social state, DO SOMETHING.

I still need your help though, I need hobbies, something, anything to keep me distracted from computer games this winter break on those days when I have nothing to do. I will beat this addiction. I have to, I won't look back and regret my High School years when I'm older. Do you guys have any suggestions at all?

 

[Dongfu]

On the computer...

I've noticed that I play a lot of computer games and it really made me socially awkward in situations because I simply had not experienced it before. I'm wondering what I'm suffering from, I'm starting to lean towards Social Anxiety disorder built up from spending so much time on the computer. The sad part is is that I'm a regular looking kid, first impressions usually result in the girl saying I'm attractive, so I wasn't using the computer to escape reality... I just sort of became addicted to it with no other hobby... and ALL OF THAT TIME WASTED. And because of this I've been known to be awkward in social situations I know this sounds so cliche, but I always figured that this would never happen to me, I always figured I could balance it out... but it got the best of me.

However, I've made a pact today to stop this bull**** and save whats left of my high school life (I'm a junior). And really, I guarentee I was in the same position as many of the users here (maybe not in this section, but rather in the HS section) and if I could pass on anything to them... My god, I sound like a druggy at a DARE class... and its pathetic..... but it would be really take a step back and look at yourself. Are you playing too much computer games? Are you on it too much? If you even think you are and you aren't happy with your current social state, DO SOMETHING.

I still need your help though, I need hobbies, something, anything to keep me distracted from computer games this winter break on those days when I have nothing to do. I will beat this addiction. I have to, I won't look back and regret my High School years when I'm older. Do you guys have any suggestions at all?

Start an approach journal. Get a job and get a normal hobbie for the break. Dont forget to balance it out with some excersize and finish your milk and vegetables.

 

[foomee]

This sounds like me in high school. What you should do asap is take up some kind of sport. You'll slowly get used to being around more people, you'll be in almost a kind of community/family of the team you're on and you'll learn to let go and just be yourself. Start out slow and work your way up.

 

[cyp6]

get a job dude. and don't make women a hobbie like stated above. get a normal hobbie.... kk choi.

 

[Dongfu]

get a job dude. and don't make women a hobbie like stated above. get a normal hobbie.... kk choi.

Hey, are you copying my answer? :crazy:

 

[DJVladdy]

like my dad sometimes says: "i wish i had YOUR problems"

get ur ass off WoW, and do something more productive... I dont see why is this so complicated - u make it harder than it is bro

 

[cyp6]

Hey, are you copying my answer? :crazy:

lol sorry dint see your post! but clearly your advice is spot on

 

[Dongfu]

lol sorry dint see your post! but clearly your advice is spot on

Well, clearly great minds think alike.

 

[James Bondage]

I think the key here is moderation. Nothing wrong with playing computer games, so long as you are active in the other areas of your life. For instance I like nothing more than a bit of GTA after a hard day's work which is a good thing cos it keeps me amused and entertained, but I try and balance it with an active social life/work life as well.

If you enjoy doing something like this there's no need to stop doing it completely, because it will only make you miserable in the long run. Just make sure you make an effort to go out and meet people and 'do other stuff' at least as often as you play computer games, and you should be fine.

 

[Obsidian]

I didn't really outgrow my overuse of computer games 'til I got to college and starting becoming way more outgoing (altho it took me a full year at college before I discovered that I was an AFC). I think it's something a lot of guys have to go through. It's good that you've gotten it out of your system so early on in life...I know have some friends who still play video games constantly.

I wouldn't really call computer games a waste any more than I would call drinking, television, or reading seduction literature a waste. You just get diminishing marginal utility from them -- the same as with almost any other activity. But yeah, play a few less games and become more social, and you'll probably be happier.

Even Pook plays video games, though.