I just can't seem to approach

[JohnElDonJuan]

Alright whatsup guys I have been coming here reading all the information here and still nothing changed. The only opportunity I have with women are cold approaches and I just can't seem to approach every time I try I either make up a excuse or just freeze then I talk sense into myself and then they're gone. Sometimes I see them and then they see me and I mess up by not smiling I can't get myself to do it while everyone on the bus/street/room is there able to see me smile. Then I go home and think about it and destoy my confidence. Then I go on this site read some inspirational threads then go outside and the same thing happens and the vicious cycle continues. I get lucky sometimes and the girl approaches me but thats sometimes and I usually take advantage but the phone call never turn intoa date. In the game of numbers im losing badly. The bad thing is, is that deep down I know I am worthy and I am the catch....

excuse my grammer and my spelling im really tired.

 

[GlutusMaximus86]

Sometimes I see them and then they see me and I mess up by not smiling

I've had that problem A lot lately. I just blank out for some reason and forget to do anything. Then I realize I just missed a great oppurtunity as soon as she's gone. The only Advice I can give you is go out there grab your balls and do it. when your looking into the girls eyes remember to smile and start talking to her. There are many ways to remember this one way is to just tell yourself something like "I will smile and I will talk to her when she looks at me" before you go into a place where there are girls.

 

[Vincent]

Some people are more outgoing then others.

Just remember YOU ARE THE MAN, don't let anything stand in your way. Just another confidence reminder, but you need to tell yourself this not us.

Just keep at it and never give up, a don juan never gives up, and afc does. Which are you?

 

[aBAzLLnA]

cold approaches are tough, truly are. have this mindset when you go out next time:

nobody on the street knows me, and they probably never will...so why not do whatever the **** i want?! whatever i do will never be remembered anyway.

"grabbing your balls and do it" is not what you should do. but just doing it is what you SHOULD do.

hopefully this helps.

~ivan

PS: hate to break it to ya, but u arent THE MAN, you are a man.

 

[JohnElDonJuan]

Here I go again

I was at the Y playin basketball and I was wearing my wife beater(it's a white tank top thingy if yall don't know what a wife beater is) and all my muscles was exposed 2 girls walked by me one of them was a 2.5 the other was a solid 7. The 2.5 said hi to me(I knew there was interest there). I turned around to think up a quick game plan. and this is almost exactly how my mental dialogue went/game plan thinking went:
1.alright man I don't want the fugly one I want her friend...
2.whats the plan?!?!
3.Alright ima wait for her friend to leave...
Right there I should have known the waiting for the right moment rarely works. But guess what happens her friend leaves for good.
4.Alright man it's my time to shine!
5.but what if she tries to play me?
6.im a brush it off!
7.alright man call her over here.
8.everyone's around she might try to play me...
9.Hmmm... can i do better than her?
10.alright here we go again I give up.
she leaves.....

my ninth thought was pure b.s. If I was a real dj I would have never used that as an excuse to give up...

can anyone here relate with how im thinking? I wish I could stop being a *****

 

[aBAzLLnA]

dude as i said before...

when goin out nobody knows you and youll prolly never see some of those ppl again

OR

they wont recognize u the next time they see you.

so just go take risks. sounds a **** lot easier said than done, im sure u can relate. but keep fighting those ***** thoughts and youll win in the end.

~ivan

 

[MetalFortress]

Try to think less about it. The more you think about it, the tougher it will be to actually do it.

 

[Microphone Fiend]

Enroll in the bootcamp in the main forum. It progresses on aspects of losing your intimidation and shyness towards others, by doing tasks each week with varying difficulty...

 

[Oxide]

lol u got a fvckin battleplan for every person you meet?


me, i go "sexy, not sex, sex, not sexy"