I haven’t had s3x in over half a year…and I don’t miss it

[SW15]

Life (e.g. work, family stuff) sort of creeps in and fills whatever spare time that might have existed due to lack of dating.

I cannot stress what I am about to say enough to all unattached men. In terms of how you allocate time, you must conduct your life as if you are dating someone. If you don't, others will take advantage of your unattached status.

I was talking with my dad and buddy about how I'm actually busier than a lot of married guys with kids that I know. They go on all these trips/vacations with the family.

I'm not and I am grateful for that.

I'm working all weekend as I'm typing this. I have weeks of vacation time banked at work that I will probably never get to use. Like SW mentioned in another post, the single, no kids guy at work probably gets taken advantaged of lol.

When I was 29-30, I had a job at a company. The executive managers were married men with stay at home wives. The person I reported to was one of these men. He was bothering me about not working enough hours. He had the privilege of a stay at home wife to manage his household. I did not. I had to run a household, date, etc. I learned from that job to be extremely vocal about my life's time commitments. Forming and maintenance of romantic relationships is one of my time commitments, but I also have to run household operations, exercise, have hobbies, etc. I'm not the dumping ground of work for "privileged" married people with kids.

Do you know what the crazy thing is? The guy who is unattached or has shorter term relationships actually has to spend more time on romantic relationships than the married person. In theory, it is easier for the married person to get sex because they are living with their sexual source. The unattached male has to create something from nothing, which takes time. It also takes a lot of time to lay the foundation of a romantic relationship that can last a little bit of time.

In my white collar jobs, I have been both an individual contributor and a middle manager. I've had male bosses (mainly betas to some degrees) and some "you go girl, feminist/careerist" bosses. With the "you go girl, feminist/careerist" bosses, you can get some empathy by playing up the household manager card. A lot of them are household managers, unless they are married to some stay-at-home husband. I think I earn respect when I am extremely vocal and detailed about my time committments.

 

[HaleyBaron]

Why would I lie about something like that? The egym app says so.

Your egym app can't explain why you're not horny. That is why you are here.

 

[SW15]

Do you mean vocal in opposition to their requests for overtime, or vocal in random conversation around the office?

Overtime doesn't exist in white collar work. We're mostly salaried workers. I'm meaning to be vocal with your managers/executive managers about your time commitments away from the workplace.

This has nothing to do with random conversation. I would recommend not conversing much around the office. Too much of a chance for harrassment or frivolous sexual harrassment accusations. Keep #MeToo away. Also, never hit on women who work for the same company that you do.

 

[SW15]

I see.... In response to their request you'll be vocal/adamant. When you were hired in, what kind of time frames/ hours of expected work were discussed? I'd bring that up also.

The interview process is a good time to discuss those things. The interview process has some similarities to dating, though not entirely.

For instance, I know guys with STEM great jobs (mainly Engineering) who can't manage to get their penises wet. The difference between what an employer wants in an employee and what a woman wants in a sexual/romantic partner aren't entirely the same.