when I call a girl, I keep the convo to a minimum. slight initial chit chat and then to the point. most of the times I just tell tell them that perhaps they`d like to join me in hanging out while I wait for something or in doing something else as well (like I am going to do whatever Im going to do wether they come or not and Im just asking them to come along) etc.
anyway, the thing is, girls always cancel. they say they have to do something else or that they are busy or something like that.
it is very hard for me to actually get a date.
like this girl I met at the gym like 2 months ago or something.
well, I got her number that same day quite easily.
I called her once and she told me that her mom had told her she had stuff to do. ok. I say, well suggest another date then.
she says, `we`ll see, ok. I think to myself, "bullsh!t".
like a 2 weeks and a half go by or something and I run into her at the gym and shes like "why havent u called me?" (anyone get this behavior?) so blah bblah blah "lets get together for a coffee she says. so anyway, I call her and set up the day and shes like, I`ll call you back to know if I can, so Im like ok but I tell her that Im really taking into consideration wether she calls me or not.
so she calls me the next day and says she cant but that she does keep her promeses and blah blah blah. she says she has to go but that shell call me next day (friday) to talk some more. she doesnt call on friday, but she calls on monday. I wasnt home so they told me the next day. I called her and she was like oh I left early from school and had some time and blah blah. she says shes also out early on thursday so I tell her lets go out thursday. she says, Ill call you wedenesday to tell u the time my exam is over. she doesnt call, so I call thursday just before I leave for my afternoon classes and she says she has this back rubbing thing cause she has problems with her back or something. and Im like ok, but she says, u should go to my house on saturday to my brother`s party like in the afternoon. and thats where Im going tomorrow.
what do u think of this whole phenomenon?
this is a recent example but its like this with most girls. they are always saying, nope I have to do this, and oh I have to do that, and we`ll see ok and no I cant and blah blah blah.
what is wrong here? how do I help myself?
anyway, the thing is, girls always cancel. they say they have to do something else or that they are busy or something like that.
it is very hard for me to actually get a date.
like this girl I met at the gym like 2 months ago or something.
well, I got her number that same day quite easily.
I called her once and she told me that her mom had told her she had stuff to do. ok. I say, well suggest another date then.
she says, `we`ll see, ok. I think to myself, "bullsh!t".
like a 2 weeks and a half go by or something and I run into her at the gym and shes like "why havent u called me?" (anyone get this behavior?) so blah bblah blah "lets get together for a coffee she says. so anyway, I call her and set up the day and shes like, I`ll call you back to know if I can, so Im like ok but I tell her that Im really taking into consideration wether she calls me or not.
so she calls me the next day and says she cant but that she does keep her promeses and blah blah blah. she says she has to go but that shell call me next day (friday) to talk some more. she doesnt call on friday, but she calls on monday. I wasnt home so they told me the next day. I called her and she was like oh I left early from school and had some time and blah blah. she says shes also out early on thursday so I tell her lets go out thursday. she says, Ill call you wedenesday to tell u the time my exam is over. she doesnt call, so I call thursday just before I leave for my afternoon classes and she says she has this back rubbing thing cause she has problems with her back or something. and Im like ok, but she says, u should go to my house on saturday to my brother`s party like in the afternoon. and thats where Im going tomorrow.
what do u think of this whole phenomenon?
this is a recent example but its like this with most girls. they are always saying, nope I have to do this, and oh I have to do that, and we`ll see ok and no I cant and blah blah blah.
what is wrong here? how do I help myself?
