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I have to spice up my relationship

inzone50

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We've been in a serious relationship for a year. I can't explain this, but it's feels like it's slowing down sort of getting dull. I know this is very vague.

Anyways I need to spark interest level back to high on both sides.

I'm afraid pulling back and being distant isn't going to do anything.
 

penkitten

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it is very vague.
what kind of stuff do you usually do?
in what ways would you like to spice it up?
 

inzone50

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penkitten said:
it is very vague.
what kind of stuff do you usually do?
in what ways would you like to spice it up?
It feels like we are growing a part. Time spent together. I want her to look forward to seeing me, like she used too.
 

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It's not very vague at all. You don't need to explain your situation. The 1 year mark is a very common point in which relationships start to get old. You get into a daily routine; missionary sex at night, breakfast in the morning, weekly dinner out, etc, etc. The list goes on.

How do you light that spark that was once there? It's very hard to spice up your relationship all the time. But you do need to have moments every now and then that remind both of you why you are together in the first place. Whether it be a great night out with friends, or a great night of wild sex.

Try doing different things. Instead of going through the same routine, try to switch things up a little bit. If both you and her are doing new things, there will be new reactions to everything both of you do. Things aren't as predictable. Women don't particularly like predictability, no matter how much they say they do.

Seeing her a little less is also an option, but be careful no to distance yourself too much. This just adds to the fact that you two are growing farther and farther apart.

Most of all, think of how you two acted when you first started dating. Think of things you did back then that you no longer do. DO THEM. Whether you tell her or not, just do them. After a year some men feel that they can settle down and just take it easy. This is rarely the fact of the matter. If your woman is a quality woman at all, she will demand at least a little bit of excitement every now and then. Best of luck.
 

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Don't forget how to flirt, just like a first date. Tease her like she was your buddy's kid sister, make her laugh, play-fight, and enjoy yourself. Fun is the opposite of boring. Be fun.
 

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inzone50 said:
We've been in a serious relationship for a year. I can't explain this, but it's feels like it's slowing down sort of getting dull. I know this is very vague.

Anyways I need to spark interest level back to high on both sides.

I'm afraid pulling back and being distant isn't going to do anything.
Have interests outside of sleeping with her, such as:

Make money, make new friends, get a job, learn a language, learn how to cook, learn how to play guitar, learn how to rap, learn how to play poker, start your own business, take up rock climbing, join a dance class, buy a new car, buy a new suit, go on vacation with her, get a six pack, get a four pack, learn karate, read a book on the American Revolution, take a skydiving course, take a scubadiving course, learn how to make her explode when you kiss her...

Once you do those things, she'll get interested in you again and the spark will come back.
 
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inzone50 said:
I have to spice up my relationship.
Smash the ho with a spice rack on top of her head - it worked for me!!!!!
 
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