Buddha_Mind
Master Don Juan
Hello DJers,
I have been reading your forum for a little under a year -- and believe it is now time for me to join your community -- to learn and to grow myself. To be honest, I must say that when I first engaged in this material, I was questionable -- felt that in some ways these tactics were manipulative, not reflective of "true" romance.
Well my friends, I have learned that "romance" is a very subjective term, and the world of relationships and sexual interaction can be complex and at times elusive. The articles posted on this site has given be a great deal of aid at times, and has helped me make some gains towards my goals. However, I am still an amateur, and am in need of experience, direction, practice -- and most importantly -- changing my mindset.
I am learning that there is an art to relationships, to interacting with the opposing sex -- and that like any art, there is tact and game. There is nothing wrong with this. In fact, hard work and critical thinking are the only ways I've ever made significant changes to my life. My relationship to women shall be no different.
I thought I'd use this thread to first and foremost say hello, and express my appreciation for the ways a lot of you have worked to capture helpful information. We know how much it sucks to be failing in an area of our lives that we believe we can succeed in. Secondly I thought I'd post a bit about myself to help those understand me a bit better.
I also have a story called, “Karma Girl”, which I will post shortly (in a day or so), that details a recent experience of mine, where I went right, where I went wrong, and perhaps where random chance threw in some variables.
But first a bit about myself -- I finished school with a degree in Environmental Science, had been working on an organic farm and teaching outdoor education. I work to keep my body, mind, emotional plane healthy -- and have been working greatly to live closer to nature.
About 6 months ago I dematerialized most of my things and moved into my vehicle, camping on the farm I worked at, wild life refuges -- and back in July decided that my adventures needed to grow. I had been in Iowa, and have since migrated through Nebraska, Wyoming, Montana, into BC, Canada for awhile -- staying in national forests, exploring the beautiful areas I've found, and meeting people along the way.
For many reading, this may or may not sound like something that would be right for you. However, for myself, this has been a journey to deepen my understandings of myself, my own abilities and my own strengths. But to also have time, during a poor economy and after years of working for others -- to take some time for my own mind, and developing my own skills (reading, writing, music, art, ect).
But you can imagine that living in a vehicle presents its challenges with the women. In other ways it also attracts them, because they way I live is different than most others, and I've been confronted with things most others may never experience. As a result, I find some women like the mystery, like my "free spiritedness" -- and as I genuinely am for the most part, a sincere and optimistic person -- like my aura. I also have tons of stories relating to animals and trees and things that girls seem to like.
But gentleman, an area of my life that is lacking is the sexual domain. I've been able to get phone numbers from women, email addresses, even times to chill -- but I seem to struggle again and again to be cast into the "friend zone". And this is done by my own doings. This is a result of my own interaction with females -- my hesitation at times to express sexuality, and to "play it safe".
I've learned from many other aspects of my life that "playing it safe" can also prevent us from growing, from developing more robustness to life that is entirely within our reach. Thus why I am ready to push myself in new ways.
I'm tired of being a vagina to women, to being the 'victim' -- it's time to become the man I'd like to be -- the man that I _know_ is within. I've begun reading the abundance of material in the DJ Bible section, and will continue working and sharing with others on this site. Bootcamp also seems like a potential venture I do on my own time.
Greetings my fellow seekers of self-improvement. May our lives be rich with abundance in the ways that we desire.
peace,
Buddha_Mind.Hello DJers,
I have been reading your forum for a little under a year -- and believe it is now time for me to join your community -- to learn and to grow myself. To be honest, I must say that when I first engaged in this material, I was questionable -- felt that in some ways these tactics were manipulative, not reflective of "true" romance.
Well my friends, I have learned that "romance" is a very subjective term, and the world of relationships and sexual interaction can be complex and at times elusive. The articles posted on this site has given be a great deal of aid at times, and has helped me make some gains towards my goals. However, I am still an amateur, and am in need of experience, direction, practice -- and most importantly -- changing my mindset.
I am learning that there is an art to relationships, to interacting with the opposing sex -- and that like any art, there is tact and game. There is nothing wrong with this. In fact, hard work and critical thinking are the only ways I've ever made significant changes to my life. My relationship to women shall be no different.
I thought I'd use this thread to first and foremost say hello, and express my appreciation for the ways a lot of you have worked to capture helpful information. We know how much it sucks to be failing in an area of our lives that we believe we can succeed in. Secondly I thought I'd post a bit about myself to help those understand me a bit better.
I also have a story called, “Karma Girl”, which I will post shortly (in a day or so), that details a recent experience of mine, where I went right, where I went wrong, and perhaps where random chance threw in some variables.
But first a bit about myself -- I finished school with a degree in Environmental Science, had been working on an organic farm and teaching outdoor education. I work to keep my body, mind, emotional plane healthy -- and have been working greatly to live closer to nature.
About 6 months ago I dematerialized most of my things and moved into my vehicle, camping on the farm I worked at, wild life refuges -- and back in July decided that my adventures needed to grow. I had been in Iowa, and have since migrated through Nebraska, Wyoming, Montana, into BC, Canada for awhile -- staying in national forests, exploring the beautiful areas I've found, and meeting people along the way.
For many reading, this may or may not sound like something that would be right for you. However, for myself, this has been a journey to deepen my understandings of myself, my own abilities and my own strengths. But to also have time, during a poor economy and after years of working for others -- to take some time for my own mind, and developing my own skills (reading, writing, music, art, ect).
But you can imagine that living in a vehicle presents its challenges with the women. In other ways it also attracts them, because they way I live is different than most others, and I've been confronted with things most others may never experience. As a result, I find some women like the mystery, like my "free spiritedness" -- and as I genuinely am for the most part, a sincere and optimistic person -- like my aura. I also have tons of stories relating to animals and trees and things that girls seem to like.
But gentleman, an area of my life that is lacking is the sexual domain. I've been able to get phone numbers from women, email addresses, even times to chill -- but I seem to struggle again and again to be cast into the "friend zone". And this is done by my own doings. This is a result of my own interaction with females -- my hesitation at times to express sexuality, and to "play it safe".
I've learned from many other aspects of my life that "playing it safe" can also prevent us from growing, from developing more robustness to life that is entirely within our reach. Thus why I am ready to push myself in new ways.
I'm tired of being a vagina to women, to being the 'victim' -- it's time to become the man I'd like to be -- the man that I _know_ is within. I've begun reading the abundance of material in the DJ Bible section, and will continue working and sharing with others on this site. Bootcamp also seems like a potential venture I do on my own time.
Greetings my fellow seekers of self-improvement. May our lives be rich with abundance in the ways that we desire.
peace,
Buddha_Mind.Hello DJers,