I have been drinking alot when I shouldn't be...

[ItsOnNow]

Mainly because,I have been taking ritalin to help focus,which it does,but also out of boredom/emptyness/self pity/escapism. Just whatever I can to take my mind off of stress/anxiety/lonliess/low self esteem. Which is why I was seeing a therapist in the first place. Now it hasn't gone away,its there,it feels like I can't get better. I just can't bring myself to change,keep living the same thing over and over no change. It may be OCD of some sorts as well. Jesus,I'm worried...

 

[PrinceBeavis]

Have you done anything to address the primary issues that brought you to needing the therapist? (hit the gym, get up and get out, go to school, fix your house, paint your room, build a car, make some friends, just go out and say hi to chicks, etc) There's a million other things to be doing, besides drinking, and obsessing about your mental health. Just going out for a walk everyday can make a huge difference.

 

[MacAvoy]

how old are you?

 

[ItsOnNow]

Yes and no. The problem is there,the need to fix it is there,yet I can't bring myself too. I can talk and think about it,yet I have yet to overcome it. Like working out,being more social,meeting more chicks,improving self/game,I keep obesseing over this negative stuff,its like i can't let go. It's bad,I know. Yet there are people out there improving living there lives,yet i cannot. I'm here,at home. Is it really that bad? Its like,I feel like I can't get chicks,or they don't want me for w/e reasons....

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Forget about women for a moment. What type of payoff are you getting for not starting to make these life changes? There's a reason why you aren't and until you identify it you'll just keep spinning your wheels.

 

[PrinceBeavis]

One step at a time....break it down into smaller steps. It's a process, and a lifestyle change. You don't have to do it all at once.

Like right now, I'm going to put my shoes and jacket on, and go outside, and leave the house. I'll end up doing some running. While I'm doing that, I will tell myself something positive about myself several times. Then I'll come home, and chill. Simple.

 

[ItsOnNow]

I don't know. I know there's a reason,the reason may be either lazyness,fear,insecurity,low self esteem,feeling worthless,not knowing how to act,bad sh!t in general. Its like I am not the person I want to be. Im this loner person this empty person. this has me greatly worried. Maybe its just not learning,I dont know

 

[ItsOnNow]

Thats it,i dont know,do it all at once,or take small steps. That seems to be a confusion for me. I go to work,its positive,come home,im depressed. Im always depressed,just try to take my mind off of things.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

I don't know. I know there's a reason,the reason may be either lazyness,fear,insecurity,low self esteem,feeling worthless,not knowing how to act,bad sh!t in general...

Actually those are just the symptoms of what's going on, try looking past them. Try to remember when you first noticed these symptoms. Then try to remember the time before that when you felt your life was alright. Somewhere in between those two instances something happened. Identify what that was, link that with how you are acting today and somewhere within it is the reason you have these particular symptoms. Your therapist should be able to help walk you through the process.

 

[tsmith2334]

To avoid being cliche, overbearing, bossy, or condescending:

Be careful about drinking on prescription medicine, particularly medicine for ADD and ADHD.

Realistically, I've drank and smoked pot on presciption medicines before... but when I was on Concerta (and only during my time on that medication) I eventually had some very bad reactions to the synergistic affects of all the substances. As in, I wound up in the hospital.

So just keep that in mind.

 

[ItsOnNow]

I know,they told me risk of seizure,so i don't drink when i am on it. I feel my problems are much deeper. This site has opened my eyes,yet I am still not the person I want to be/should be. It always feels like there is something wrong.

 

[ItsOnNow]

To Francisco,the last time I actually remember feeling good was maybe when I was 15,16,and even then, I think I may have had some of the same problems I have no,social things,etc. And then one day,I just started feeling very depressed. Alot of it was I suppose typical adolesence stuff,but it seems like it has turned into something more now that I am an adult. I don't know if it's a real problem,or if it's all in my head....

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

To Francisco,the last time I actually remember feeling good was maybe when I was 15,16,and even then, I think I may have had some of the same problems I have no,social things,etc. And then one day,I just started feeling very depressed. Alot of it was I suppose typical adolesence stuff,but it seems like it has turned into something more now that I am an adult. I don't know if it's a real problem,or if it's all in my head....

There's an event which has rooted it like a tree within your psyche. If it wasn't one specific event it could be that you got use to this type of lifestyle in high school and instead of stepping out of it, you accepted it as your lifestyle. It happens, it's one of the factors which cause people to get certain habits ingrained within them. The good thing is that good habits can be learned to replace the bad ones. They just need to be defined and incorporated into your lifestyle.

 

[PRMoon]

Drinking alone is only bad when it becomes habitual. My advice...use it to your advantage, go to a bar and drink with no friends or anyone. If there are bartenders there, they will talk to you because they have nothing to do. If there are single girls there, it's more then likely you will notice them and you'll get yourself back into the social game from that angle.

The whole saying, "No man is an island unto himself" is a universal statment. Regardless of how alone you feel, there are always others who are looking to reach out to you. Just be aware and be receptive and you'll make it no problem.

 

[PrinceBeavis]

Thats it,i dont know,do it all at once,or take small steps. That seems to be a confusion for me. I go to work,its positive,come home,im depressed. Im always depressed,just try to take my mind off of things.

Actually, you CAN'T do it all at once, so there's no confusion about that. We ALL have to live life in small steps. All you have to do is do SOMETHING.
ONE thing. That's why I suggested taking a walk every day. It's as simple as putting one foot in front of the other. Just get out of the house for awhile.

 

[xenten]

Thats it,i dont know,do it all at once,or take small steps. That seems to be a confusion for me. I go to work,its positive,come home,im depressed. Im always depressed,just try to take my mind off of things.

That sounds like about how my life is right now. I am kind of a loner, but I know I can fix this. I just go out and if I feel uncomfertable in a situation, learn from it so you know what to do next time. For me, I have to be in a situation to totally understand how to act. That's what I'm trying to be so I can be more social. I came home from a Bible study tonight all happy and I sat down at the tv and got depressed. Just keep your mind running and you will have a better life than before. This is all just my opinions to take it as you wish. Others may say something different.

 

[PRMoon]

That sounds like about how my life is right now. I am kind of a loner, but I know I can fix this. I just go out and if I feel uncomfertable in a situation, learn from it so you know what to do next time. For me, I have to be in a situation to totally understand how to act. That's what I'm trying to be so I can be more social. I came home from a Bible study tonight all happy and I sat down at the tv and got depressed. Just keep your mind running and you will have a better life than before. This is all just my opinions to take it as you wish. Others may say something different.

What exactly are you saying? I don't think I saw a single thing in this paragraph that made a single bit of sense.

Just keep your mind running? What the f*ck does that mean? What is your opinion? Maybe english is your second language?? I feel lost and confussed and scared!! Can somebody tell me what this human is saying?

 

[xenten]

I am trying to get out and hang out with more people so those lonely alone times won't come anymore when I would just be sitting at home. It gets my mind off things. I think that's pretty much what I was saying. Wasn't meant to be confusing but I was half awake when I wrote it. Still confused?

 

[PRMoon]

I see.

Well I believe each of us should find strengths in ourselves before we interact with others. Learn to tap your inner power, or inner player for some, by getting to know who you really are and what you really want.

I live a very social life where I have to interact with people on some level almost all day. But when I cherish the time I have alone because it GIVES me time to think. I can put things in order and prioritize things better when I'm riding solo.

 

[DonGorgon]

I am about to start drinking ... the stress of life is really getting to me now.... I need something ... =(