I Have Anger Problems/I Don't Know What To Do

[Tictac]

Once upon a time there was this old guy sitting on the side of the road. A family came by, moving into the town down they way. They asked the old guy:

"Excuse me sir, what kind of people will I find in this town?"

To which the old guy replied:

"What were people like in your old town?"

To which they replied:

"Generally, pretty friendly. Good neighbors. People you can depend on, good times."

To which the old man said:

"Yep. That's what you'll find in this new town."

The old guy sat there, relaxing in the sun. Couple hours later another family came by.

"Say, old guy, what kind of people live in this here town up ahead?" They asked.

"Well, what were they like in your old city?" Replied the old guy.

"Shifty. Not trustworthy. Stab you in the back for a dime," replied the father.

"Yep, that's about what you'll find in this town as well, I'm afraid," replied the old guy.

"Wherever you go, there you are"
Buckaroo Banzai

 

[LiveFreeX]

Whatever man, I guess you are right then... just stay where you are and keep on doing what you are doing... apparently you are just not trying hard enough Tenacity, lol. This sounds like sh1t from 'The Secret', if you don't have whatever you want its because you aren't thinking positive ENOUGH... come on HURGGGG!!! WISH HARDER!!!!!

Hows that working out for you guys? The Ferrari fall out of the sky yet?

 

[l_e_g_e_n_d]

When a proponent misrepresents its adversaries' argument, the weakness in the proponent's argument becomes clear to ALL.

 

[LiveFreeX]

There is no amount of game, no amount of sarging and going out and using these same old bs tactics that are going to bring quality women your way.... you know, I don't even give a fvk anymore. Ya'll are gonna do and believe whatever you want anyway. The people that want it are making an effort to do it, the people that want things to stay the same are just going to find more reasons why they are right.

How could I have been so wrong all my life, if I had just stayed in North America and tried hard enough, I too could have met an Hb10 with no life experience and no motivation stemming from knowing absolutely nothing about struggle in life.... but apparently all women are the same as are all people, the grass is never greener and there will never be anything better. Tenacity you should stay in Detroit, improve your game and eventually somehow, someway, you will find that diamond in the rough and peace on Earth. Damn guys, you are so smart and right. From what do you draw all this worldly life experience? It seems that living in America makes you the for most expert on everything.

No you know what, I'm just gonna say it, most of the users on this forum and many like it are fvcking stupid. They've never been anywhere and never done anything with their lives because that would require effort, courage and more hard work than going down to the local bar to empty out their **** on some random broad's face. Its easier to say that all people are the same because it negates you having to take responsibility for your actions and your life's situation. I'm sorry you are so stupid and Its a shame your lives will continue on the same path. Its like watching a train hit a wall in slow motion and all the passengers sitting on the train can see it coming but are in complete denial that its happening even as the people in front of them are running around screaming. You guys are idiots, plain and simple.

 

[Married Buried]

There is no amount of game, no amount of sarging and going out and using these same old bs tactics that are going to bring quality women your way.... you know, I don't even give a fvk anymore. Ya'll are gonna do and believe whatever you want anyway. The people that want it are making an effort to do it, the people that want things to stay the same are just going to find more reasons why they are right.

How could I have been so wrong all my life, if I had just stayed in North America and tried hard enough, I too could have met an Hb10 with no life experience and no motivation stemming from knowing absolutely nothing about struggle in life.... but apparently all women are the same as are all people, the grass is never greener and there will never be anything better. Tenacity you should stay in Detroit, improve your game and eventually somehow, someway, you will find that diamond in the rough and peace on Earth. Damn guys, you are so smart and right...

No you know what, I'm just gonna say it, most of the users on this forum and many like it are fvcking stupid. They've never been anywhere and never done anything with their lives because that would require effort and courage. I'm sorry you are so stupid and Its a shame your lives will continue on the same path. Its like watching a train hit a wall in slow motion and all the passengers sitting on the train can see it coming but are in complete denial that its happening even as the people in front of them are running around screaming. You guys are idiots, plain and simple.

You never know where you might find the needle in the stack. Move to China if you want. Found mine on ****ing craigslist in my underwear with a beard drinking beer in my craphole town in bumfck USA. She is not from America thank god i landed a white latina 10 years younger. Young white latinas i highly recommend.

 

[Tictac]

There is no amount of game, no amount of sarging and going out and using these same old bs tactics that are going to bring quality women your way.... you know, I don't even give a fvk anymore. Ya'll are gonna do and believe whatever you want anyway. The people that want it are making an effort to do it, the people that want things to stay the same are just going to find more reasons why they are right.

How could I have been so wrong all my life, if I had just stayed in North America and tried hard enough, I too could have met an Hb10 with no life experience and no motivation stemming from knowing absolutely nothing about struggle in life.... but apparently all women are the same as are all people, the grass is never greener and there will never be anything better. Tenacity you should stay in Detroit, improve your game and eventually somehow, someway, you will find that diamond in the rough and peace on Earth. Damn guys, you are so smart and right. From what do you draw all this worldly life experience? It seems that living in America makes you the for most expert on everything.

No you know what, I'm just gonna say it, most of the users on this forum and many like it are fvcking stupid. They've never been anywhere and never done anything with their lives because that would require effort, courage and more hard work than going down to the local bar to empty out their **** on some random broad's face. Its easier to say that all people are the same because it negates you having to take responsibility for your actions and your life's situation. I'm sorry you are so stupid and Its a shame your lives will continue on the same path. Its like watching a train hit a wall in slow motion and all the passengers sitting on the train can see it coming but are in complete denial that its happening even as the people in front of them are running around screaming. You guys are idiots, plain and simple.

You too sweetheart.

You whine like a little girl.

 

[Die Hard]

I think the MM forum may just have turned BACK around that corner, Sl!ckster

 

[Slickster]

Once upon a time there was this old guy sitting on the side of the road. A family came by, moving into the town down they way. They asked the old guy:

"Excuse me sir, what kind of people will I find in this town?"

To which the old guy replied:

"What were people like in your old town?"

To which they replied:

"Generally, pretty friendly. Good neighbors. People you can depend on, good times."

To which the old man said:

"Yep. That's what you'll find in this new town."

The old guy sat there, relaxing in the sun. Couple hours later another family came by.

"Say, old guy, what kind of people live in this here town up ahead?" They asked.

"Well, what were they like in your old city?" Replied the old guy.

"Shifty. Not trustworthy. Stab you in the back for a dime," replied the father.

"Yep, that's about what you'll find in this town as well, I'm afraid," replied the old guy.

Pretty much sums up this entire forum.

I've been saying for years that I sometimes feel like I'm on a different planet when I come here.

I meet great women all the time. It's like shooting fish in a barrel if you know what you are doing.

Sh!tty women are all around too but they are off in the distance, barely visible and mostly ignored. I learned long ago to make my way through life without letting them get close or wasting a second of thought on them.

Perception is everything.

 

[Married Buried]

All I know is if this girl turns out rotten I am done with relationships. I have no idea really what goes on when I am not around. We will see but this is that last one I take serious.!!

 

[Tenacity]

Pretty much sums up this entire forum.

I've been saying for years that I sometimes feel like I'm on a different planet when I come here.

I meet great women all the time. It's like shooting fish in a barrel if you know what you are doing.

Sh!tty women are all around too but they are off in the distance, barely visible and mostly ignored. I learned long ago to make my way through life without letting them get close or wasting a second of thought on them.

Perception is everything.

Slick, it's guys like you who have contributed to this fvcked up market. Basically, if the BLOCK around the corner is on fire, you don't give a damn because the flames haven't hit your block yet. I'm of the mentality that if the BLOCK around the corner is on fire, it's only a matter of time before it hits my block.

I have never said that there's ZERO quality women in this American market. I have said (and will continue to say until someone proves the stats, research and personal experience wrong) is that it's increasingly difficult to find them and it's also increasingly difficult to KEEP them in a quality woman stance.

T.O. over-simplifies this problem by just saying, "Welp, those guys just don't have the right levels of game, if they just increase their levels of game then the women will act right," that's the stupidest shyt I have ever heard in my life and it's equivalent to how black women a lot of times will tell a black man that he just can't quote, unquote "HANDLE a strong black woman". Here's a question, why the FVCK do I need to handle you? Are you a fvcking wild animal or some type of shyt? You are a grown a.ss woman, why can't you HANDLE yourself??

With all of the challenges that men have to juggle today, including the economic market, cost of living, etc., who the FVCK has time to go through advanced "gaming" techniques just to MAKE A GROWN A.SS WOMAN act like a fvckin LADY instead of a retarded child? That's what T.O.'s stance is, if your girl is acting a "fool", it's not HER FAULT, it's YOUR FAULT for not gaming her right. That's fvcking ludicrous.

One of the reasons this market is so out of control now, is we have sat back, said nothing, and allowed these women to get out of control. Even when it comes to the Family Law system, we sit back and WATCH other guys get taken up the rear and we say nothing! No protests! No demands to update the law! We say nothing because like Slick said, "not all women are like that" so apparently because it hasn't happened to US (yet), we have nothing to worry about.

I even linked the Divorce Forum and what did HitHard say? He said these guys are all losers in life, so apparently, HitHard is so fvcking naive to think that what happened to these guys COULD NOT EVER happen to him because I guess apparently, his "game" is so tight.

 

[Tictac]

Is it harder now? Sure. But it's never been easy Ten.

And I am a guy that was (along with my kids) decimated in 'family' (what a joke!) court.
You keep wishing for things to be easier.

Instead, work at getting better.

 

[Tenacity]

Is it harder now? Sure. But it's never been easy Ten.

And I am a guy that was (along with my kids) decimated in 'family' (what a joke!) court.
You keep wishing for things to be easier.

Instead, work at getting better.

Tictac,

One thing I know about you for sure, is that you can critically think. So let's break this down buddy:

- You and your kids were ripped off through the Family Court

- You agree that things are completely difficult today in terms of managing women

- But THEN, your advice says for men to "get better"?

Get better at what TicTac? The Family Court is setup against us and society in general is setup against us, when discussing the relations with women. What is it that we are supposed to get "better" at TicTac?

How about instead of trying to WORK within this fvcked up and flawed system, how about we group up nationally, protest, and change the flawed system? I don't get this shyt:

- Gay People can organize and march for their rights in the system, and CHANGE it.

- Blacks Lives Matter (no matter how insane they are) can organize and march for their shyt, and CHANGE things

- The new Tea Party (the one created during the healthcare debate) can organize and march, then change things

But for some fvcking reason, when it comes to MEN'S rights in the Family Court, then when it comes to the dating market in general, we as MEN are not allowed to march for interests in our own favor?? We just have to "man up" and get over it??

 

[Tictac]

Tictac,

One thing I know about you for sure, is that you can critically think. So let's break this down buddy:

- You and your kids were ripped off through the Family Court

- You agree that things are completely difficult today in terms of managing women

- But THEN, your advice says for men to "get better"?

Get better at what TicTac? The Family Court is setup against us and society in general is setup against us, when discussing the relations with women. What is it that we are supposed to get "better" at TicTac?

How about instead of trying to WORK within this fvcked up and flawed system, how about we group up nationally, protest, and change the flawed system? I don't get this shyt:

- Gay People can organize and march for their rights in the system, and CHANGE it.

- Blacks Lives Matter (no matter how insane they are) can organize and march for their shyt, and CHANGE things

- The new Tea Party (the one created during the healthcare debate) can organize and march, then change things

But for some fvcking reason, when it comes to MEN'S rights in the Family Court, then when it comes to the dating market in general, we as MEN are not allowed to march for interests in our own favor?? We just have to "man up" and get over it??

"I live for myself and answer to no one"
Steve McQueen

Yeah, I got raped in FC. My kids paid the price too. I raise them, I pay for their college even though the court says 'she' is supposed to pay half. Fu*k her. I am not going to sit around 'waiting for Everyman' to organize protests or else do nothing. That's just deciding to stew in your own juice be angry all the time (just like you and millions of other guys). I've got sh*t to do. I support and participate in men's rights, alimony reform ('we' got some change in my state last year) and other stuff like that. Family court is a blow job, especially for men. I learned that the hard way. I won't be going back there ever and I help men (and a woman or two) navigate it on occasion, not as an attorney but as recovered roadkill.

I am not wasting my time moaning about feminization, gynocentrism, yada, yada or any of this stuff and/or waiting for somebody else. Because none of it is going to stop me from doing what I've decided to do. You will change not a thing being against anything, you'll just get more and more of it.

I've mentioned "How I Found Freedom In An Unfree World" three times now. You and LiveFreeX (LifeSlaveX) dismissively act like I'm talking about some New Age crystal-laden magic cowpie so that you don't have to accept things as they are and get on with the purpose of your life which is to be happy, right here, right now. The book is about paying the price for what you want. Well, I'm paid in full, benefits, consequences and all.

 

[l_e_g_e_n_d]

As long as you continue to blame others, your path toward self-growth and -enlightenment is subjugated by YOU. Your self-serving, self-induced anger is evidence that your method of thinking is unfruitful and will lead you no where other than dead or incarcerated.

Those who have effected real change upon society were not warriors of anger, but reason.

You create a thread requesting advice for your rage. You were given sage advice. You attack those who tried to help you. Now you want to start a protest using SoSuave as a vehicle. LOL. I don't want to insult you because it's apparent you need professional help, so I'll leave the rest unsaid

 

[Epimanes]

Wow.. So glad my wife is awesome. Fvcks when I want... Cooks.. Goes hunting with me now.. Even works and helps us save money! Doesn't like shopping or spending money frivously... Always looking for a way to increase savings... Its like a dream!

 

[Slickster]

Slick, it's guys like you who have contributed to this fvcked up market. Basically, if the BLOCK around the corner is on fire, you don't give a damn because the flames haven't hit your block yet. I'm of the mentality that if the BLOCK around the corner is on fire, it's only a matter of time before it hits my block.

No I'm pretty sure it's all the guys choosing to fvck around with fickle, fat, gold digging b!tches with financial problems that have caused these big problems that you perceive. Guys thinking with their d!cks instead of their brains and then blaming the pvssy for their problems.

Protesting the system is a joke. There will always be more men eager to give up their power, money, etc. for a taste of pvssy. It makes me sick to hear grown men calling their wife "the boss" and giving her control of the the family finances. If you are going to protest anything it should be weak assed men.

Last time I checked women NEED men and their attention. If men stopped giving undeserving women attention then they would be forced to change their ways just to survive.

 

[Tenacity]

Protesting the system is a joke. There will always be more men eager to give up their power, money, etc. for a taste of pvssy. It makes me sick to hear grown men calling their wife "the boss" and giving her control of the the family finances. If you are going to protest anything it should be weak assed men.

Last time I checked women NEED men and their attention. If men stopped giving undeserving women attention then they would be forced to change their ways just to survive.

Can I ask you a question? What do you do when you are married to your chick and throughout the marriage she begins to do the "chick shyt" that pisses you off? She doesn't start doing this until AFTER you are married, you know:

- Nags
- Bytches
- Begins to spend like crazy
- Starts to gain a ton of weight
- Constantly tries to over-power you and dominate the relationship to where it's like you are fighting all the time
- Literally stops putting out anything remotely sexual

Do you or T.O. have any advanced gaming techniques to deal with this? I would love to know, because you guys keep "talking" about how none of this shyt supposedly touches you guys and the guys that it touches...well...they just haven't gamed their girl or wife right....or...they just can't properly filter.

You talk about being a real man and keeping control, do you realize that when you are married a lot of that shyt goes out of the door? Do you realize when you have ANY type of legal relationship with a woman, that shyt goes out of the door? She can make your life a living hell IN the marriage or through dropping the "divorce bomb" on you through having to spend a significant amount on legal proceedings alone.

Of course you and T.O. will just respond with some New Thought Movement "be positive" bullshyt, while guys on this Forum and guys across this country are continuing to be FVCKED over by shyt that you nor T.O. have provided any solution to resolve other than "increase your game and filter better," whatever the fvck THAT supposed to mean. How do you filter off a personality change? How do you filter off a chick FLIPPING on you after she's "got you"? Huh? How in the fvck are you supposed to forecast shyt like that?

The only legal tie to a woman I might do is create kids, there's absolutely no FVCKING way I would ever get married unless the laws and the costs go down, which doesn't appear like it will happen during my lifetime as most guys are like you guys.....you know...the type that believes anything wrong that a woman does is the guy's fault.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Wow.. So glad my wife is awesome. Fvcks when I want... Cooks.. Goes hunting with me now.. Even works and helps us save money! Doesn't like shopping or spending money frivously... Always looking for a way to increase savings... Its like a dream!

What would you find fvcking with the single broads the guys on our site are optimizing their air defence and offenses against vs your wife?

 

[Epimanes]

I can tell you we went through all the BS everyone does... Naggin... Bytchin.. Blow outs... Divorce threats... Cops called on me because I lost my shyt... Etc.. It happens to everyone. Most of the BS is related to insecurity and anxiety and almost always tied to internal issues from childhood programming. Learn to control your anxiety and shyt often doesn't get blown out of proportion(easier said than done since anxiety creates fight, flight, or freeze response so if you can't control your anxiety you need help). Talk lots... Don't do shyt (either of you) without enthusiastic agreement of the other. Plan dates.... NO COVERT CONTRACTS... Be up front. However there is always covert contracts.. So learn them and make them known to eachother... So they are no longer covert! Do do something for your girl without expectations of reciprocation.. You do it out of love. Be the leader.. But not a dictator. PICK WHAT'S FOR DINNER... Never say I don't know. Can't tell you how important that one is... Truth! And honesty... That has to be the foundation... If its not your doomed. There is so much I can't even think of it all.. I watch guys here and I just shake my head if they talked to their women like they type here .. Women have a deep need for openess and honesty and conversation.. Its as strong as a guys need for sex.... Stop looking in bars for chicks.. Stop looking in all the wrong places. And patience! I had anger issues too... Threw shyt...smashed shyt.. Punched holes in my walls when I was angry... I even got my guns out once during a fight... To kill myself.. That was a huge eye opener.. Went to a psycologist for a while WITH my wife.. After that..(Tried counsellors they suck) there is a whole slew of dynamics that make or break it.. For a while only my promise to god (I'm christain but hate organized religion)kept us together... That somehow there was a lesson to learn in all our strife...knowing if we can't fix us we will just bring the same problems to the next relationship... Oh and we had kids too... Who are now 18 (I'm 37) and 12. Not sure if that was the answer or not... But its what came to mind from the post above

Epi

Edit: also.. Everyone has bad days and baggage..not everyone is orth staying with either if they have structual issues.. Such as lieing... Massive debt... No job.. Ect.. And everyone takes out their bad days and stress on those they are most comfortabl.. Doesn't make it right.. But it does.. And if your in your relationship early.. And already lieing and hiding stuff.. Just cut it.. Truth and honesty HAS to be at the core... Or your entire relationship will just be superficial.... And find ways to have fun. .. Ok I think that's all I will say for now.

 

[LiveYourDream]

"It is not uncommon for someone to be a self-sabateur and compound that by also having a victim mentality. It is as though they are holding their breath and then blaming others for their inability to breathe. If they can break free from this cycle, everything in their life changes for the better."
Steve Maraboli

"If you listen to your fears you will die never knowing what a great person you could have been."
Robert Schuler

"Incredible change happens in your life when you decide to take control over what you do have power over instead of craving control over what you don't."
Steve Maraboli