I have a serious problem with women always just wanting a relationship with me...

[ThisIsYourWakeUpCall]

Ok, iv been thinking about this for some time now and i have come to 2 conclusions. either A. im not positioning myself for a fb with women because i dont have the right skills to make it happen iv only had one fb once in my life and we banged 3 times then she was hinting at a relationship and i ejected imidiately B. maybe i am an AFC? but yet i act ****y use witty conversations, say funny ****, alot of "challenging flirting" and "take away flirting" and i have a IDGAF demenor cause i know all women are desposable. yet, im applying all the "player" skills iv learned on here and making women chase me and im doing the judging. but WHY IN GODS NAME does every girl i take any sort of interest in end up, taking the route of "I want a relationship with this guy". Am I cursed? wtf is going on? what am i doing wrong?

 

[Aaron B]

Why does it matter to you that she wants a relationship with you when you are already sleeping with her?

This is a failure of your internal beliefs and paying too much attention to what she says.

If she's willing to spend time with you and have sex with you, who cares what she has to say about a relationship?

We have to operate from the assumption that she's a mature woman and if she chooses to spend her time with a man who clearly communicates to her that he isn't going to have a relationship with her, is it your duty to protect her from herself? Of course not.

By the way I consider "clearly communicating" to be done through your actions: don't do any courtship behaviors. Don't take her out. Don't cuddle in bed after sex. Don't chat with her on the phone. Verbally it doesn't matter what you say as long as you don't tell her you are dating or in a relationship with her. Not responding to her questions and statements is a valid technique as well.

Her only vote is to allow you to keep doing what you are doing or not. What she says is immaterial. If she keeps sleeping with a man who won't commit but she wants a commitment, that's on her not you.

Go to her place, have sex with her, get out of bed immediately, then leave. If she texts you about a relationship just ignore the texts. If she calls you right after you leave, don't answer. If you can't bring yourself to kick her out of your bed right after sex, don't screw her at your place.

 

[Alex DeLarge]

I've been getting this vibe from my FWB for a few weeks now since we just started the semester. Earlier this summer I went to give her a kiss and she gave me the "I don't do PDA" line. I just said back "See ya later" and left..

Went NC on her for a while, she'd text me asking to meet up somewhere with our friends and I just wouldn't reply, then I would just show up to the place with another girl who I was hooking up with lol.. You wouldn't believe the look on her face.

Then this girl left the country for about a month and came back. We saw eachother again for the first time in that month and just hooked up. I was exclusively seeing a girl at the time and sorta felt guilty about it, but I figured "Hey what the hell, I've probably been cheated on a bunch of times.. I don't give a sh1t". Saw this girl again a week later and she tried coming onto me again but I denied her cause I told her I was seeing someone.

A few days later my "girlfriend" found out about this girl and freaked out. I told her if she couldn't handle the fact that I had a past with her, then to just move on and we can stay friends. She never knew about the me cheating part.

Now this girl contacts me through text almost every day asking me questions like "Hows your day?" "Hope you had a good day" "Want to walk to class together" and sh1t like that. This girl is seriously dope.. But I can't trust her as far as I can throw her lol.