TheEnergizer
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Ok so i almost never visit this site anymore because i just dont need it now. this is my first visit in a while. BUT! i have a situational problem with which i need to talk about with someone.
ok. so one day i was talking to this really cute girl while we were both walking to the bus stop after school. it was all going good, we were just having fun, talking about different things.
she's one of those 'good' girls, she's kinda shy on the outside, but actually pretty talkative when you get to know her. she's really nice, smiles when you pass by her and so on. she bright and gets straight a's, has all the advanced classes that i have. she can still have fun though, laugh at a dirty not-too-out-there joke and so on, easy to talk to.
but she doesnt talk to guys that often. ive only ever seen her really have a conversation with just one other guy. i dont know why exactly but i whenever i see her actually talking to someone its always a girl, with one exception: me. actually makes me feel good about myself, lol. did i mention shes really, really cute? i think its because shes got this intimidating outer shell that she carries around and is always either alone or talking to other girls. again, makes me feel proud that i had the balls to get past this barrier. i was scared at first, but after saying ONE funny situational conversational starter, she immediately started laughing and we hit it off.
***this is for all you guys in here that have what you people call 'approach anxiety'. just approach her! the reaction will be much better than you think! i didnt even expect the immediate laughter myself. the difference is that you need to have something good to say, try to stay away from formalities like 'hows it going' and stuff like that, despite what some people here say. whenever i use those on this same girl, she always responds without so much as smiling or even asking back. so in my opinion, DONT USE THOSE!! never ask 'hows your day' or something like that. any boring douchebag can use those. there are always better alternatives. the difference is absolutely huge, i assure you. you just need something funny and preferably uncanned to say. i cant help you with that. thats up to you. if you cant even do that, how do you expect to have a conversation with her?
hmmm in fact, now that i think about it, i'm gonna make it a personal note to never, ever, ever, use a formality like 'hey whats up' on a girl, or hell anyone, that i actually wanna get along with. unless i can think of a really interesting way to say something like that on the spot, or something. formalities are hella boring. and boring dont fly well in a high school. youll always get a better response if you go with something more interesting. and this is backed heavily with experience. think about it. all the times ive ever used a formality on a girl, this one in particular, ive never gotten more than a smile and another one right back at me. hell sometimes not even that, ive gotten smile-less 'good's before with things such as 'heey girl, hows it goin?'. however everytime i have something situational and funny, i always get a laugh, and a face like this
, and some interesting talk afterwards. so make this a personal note you guys! if you wanna actually get along with the person, dont ever use formalities! theres always something better, you just gotta be in the right mindset to think of it. tip of the day for some of you currently successless guys.... dont worry, some day, some of you will get there . i know because i did. did take me long enough though... sheesh... oh well, i guess finally blossoming 2nd semester sophomore year is not as bad as some people.
lol anyway, back to the topic at hand. hmm where was i...?
so me and this girl are kinda friendly by now, but still kinda just started talking only a few weeks ago, with limited time to talk whenever we do. still though, kinda impressed with myself that ive only seen one another guy talk to her for more than 5 minutes... heh. go me. it actually wasnt hard at all though. its not like she pushes guys away or anything. did i mention shes really cute, and that that of course isnt just coming from me?
so anyway were walkin and talkin, and this DOUCHEBAG 'supposed friend of mine' (you know, the kind you never wanted to even talk to in the first place but still end up doing it anyway just cuz they keep goin up to you? yeah.) walks up from behind me and calls my name. i immediately recognize his voice and think to myself 'no, no, dear god no, not now'. so i did the stupid thing and ignored him, because i was previously engaged in my conversation with this girl.
SO... he catches up with us then goes 'HEY, you ignoring me dude? nooo, youre just trying to get some' the second part in a serious tone, before walking away.
Wooooow..... i was thinkin to myself. way to be the biggest douche alive. thats almost breaking man code. i personally see to it that i never even start talking to a male friend of mine if he is talking one on one to a girl i dont know. but telling him right in front of the girl hes trying to have a friendly chat with that hes trying to 'get some'? are you kidding me? even as a joke, i wouldnt do it. but his tone wasnt in the form of a joke, and this is also the type of girl thats like i said before 'nice' and never had a bf.
i gotta wonder what she was thinking when he said that, and i wonder if she thinks its true. hell its not even true, and i know you guys are gonna be disappointed in me for this, but i just wanted to be friends with her. whats wrong with that? shes smart and talkable. i dont wanna ruin that. not yet at least. i dont want her to think its true, because it isnt, yet theres no easy way to verbalize that. what i did afterwards was just shrug it off and continue talking to her until she got on her bus.
so anyways now for the questions... what do you guys think? do you think she thinks im just trying to get with her now? is that bad for a girl like her who rarely even talks to guys as it is? will she turn away from me because she thinks those are my intentions? what should i do to counteract this accusation? should i just let it go, counting on the fact that she didnt think much of that guy? again, is it bad if she thinks this? im not just talking about any girl here, think of nice, non-needy, self-protective girls when i ask this. what should i do?
oh and sorry for writing a novel. its what i do.
ok. so one day i was talking to this really cute girl while we were both walking to the bus stop after school. it was all going good, we were just having fun, talking about different things.
she's one of those 'good' girls, she's kinda shy on the outside, but actually pretty talkative when you get to know her. she's really nice, smiles when you pass by her and so on. she bright and gets straight a's, has all the advanced classes that i have. she can still have fun though, laugh at a dirty not-too-out-there joke and so on, easy to talk to.
but she doesnt talk to guys that often. ive only ever seen her really have a conversation with just one other guy. i dont know why exactly but i whenever i see her actually talking to someone its always a girl, with one exception: me. actually makes me feel good about myself, lol. did i mention shes really, really cute? i think its because shes got this intimidating outer shell that she carries around and is always either alone or talking to other girls. again, makes me feel proud that i had the balls to get past this barrier. i was scared at first, but after saying ONE funny situational conversational starter, she immediately started laughing and we hit it off.
***this is for all you guys in here that have what you people call 'approach anxiety'. just approach her! the reaction will be much better than you think! i didnt even expect the immediate laughter myself. the difference is that you need to have something good to say, try to stay away from formalities like 'hows it going' and stuff like that, despite what some people here say. whenever i use those on this same girl, she always responds without so much as smiling or even asking back. so in my opinion, DONT USE THOSE!! never ask 'hows your day' or something like that. any boring douchebag can use those. there are always better alternatives. the difference is absolutely huge, i assure you. you just need something funny and preferably uncanned to say. i cant help you with that. thats up to you. if you cant even do that, how do you expect to have a conversation with her?
hmmm in fact, now that i think about it, i'm gonna make it a personal note to never, ever, ever, use a formality like 'hey whats up' on a girl, or hell anyone, that i actually wanna get along with. unless i can think of a really interesting way to say something like that on the spot, or something. formalities are hella boring. and boring dont fly well in a high school. youll always get a better response if you go with something more interesting. and this is backed heavily with experience. think about it. all the times ive ever used a formality on a girl, this one in particular, ive never gotten more than a smile and another one right back at me. hell sometimes not even that, ive gotten smile-less 'good's before with things such as 'heey girl, hows it goin?'. however everytime i have something situational and funny, i always get a laugh, and a face like this
, and some interesting talk afterwards. so make this a personal note you guys! if you wanna actually get along with the person, dont ever use formalities! theres always something better, you just gotta be in the right mindset to think of it. tip of the day for some of you currently successless guys.... dont worry, some day, some of you will get there . i know because i did. did take me long enough though... sheesh... oh well, i guess finally blossoming 2nd semester sophomore year is not as bad as some people.lol anyway, back to the topic at hand. hmm where was i...?
so me and this girl are kinda friendly by now, but still kinda just started talking only a few weeks ago, with limited time to talk whenever we do. still though, kinda impressed with myself that ive only seen one another guy talk to her for more than 5 minutes... heh. go me. it actually wasnt hard at all though. its not like she pushes guys away or anything. did i mention shes really cute, and that that of course isnt just coming from me?
so anyway were walkin and talkin, and this DOUCHEBAG 'supposed friend of mine' (you know, the kind you never wanted to even talk to in the first place but still end up doing it anyway just cuz they keep goin up to you? yeah.) walks up from behind me and calls my name. i immediately recognize his voice and think to myself 'no, no, dear god no, not now'. so i did the stupid thing and ignored him, because i was previously engaged in my conversation with this girl.
SO... he catches up with us then goes 'HEY, you ignoring me dude? nooo, youre just trying to get some' the second part in a serious tone, before walking away.
Wooooow..... i was thinkin to myself. way to be the biggest douche alive. thats almost breaking man code. i personally see to it that i never even start talking to a male friend of mine if he is talking one on one to a girl i dont know. but telling him right in front of the girl hes trying to have a friendly chat with that hes trying to 'get some'? are you kidding me? even as a joke, i wouldnt do it. but his tone wasnt in the form of a joke, and this is also the type of girl thats like i said before 'nice' and never had a bf.
i gotta wonder what she was thinking when he said that, and i wonder if she thinks its true. hell its not even true, and i know you guys are gonna be disappointed in me for this, but i just wanted to be friends with her. whats wrong with that? shes smart and talkable. i dont wanna ruin that. not yet at least. i dont want her to think its true, because it isnt, yet theres no easy way to verbalize that. what i did afterwards was just shrug it off and continue talking to her until she got on her bus.
so anyways now for the questions... what do you guys think? do you think she thinks im just trying to get with her now? is that bad for a girl like her who rarely even talks to guys as it is? will she turn away from me because she thinks those are my intentions? what should i do to counteract this accusation? should i just let it go, counting on the fact that she didnt think much of that guy? again, is it bad if she thinks this? im not just talking about any girl here, think of nice, non-needy, self-protective girls when i ask this. what should i do?
oh and sorry for writing a novel. its what i do.
