I had to do something totally un-natural today

[LuisGarcia10]

I was with a few mates at lunch today at College, just sitting down having a laugh and such like.

One girl who was there was being really flirty, initiating kino and continuing it for ages even though I was doing virtually nothing in return. This girl is good looking and funny, exactly the sort I go for normally.

So why did I do nothing you all scream?

Because she has a boyfreind, and not just a casual relationship either, they've been going out for months and he even paid for her to go on holiday with him!

To be honest I was gutted, just sitting there thinking about all the various DJ moves I could put into practice and not doing them because it's totally against my principles to go for a girl with a boyfreind. Aside from principles, it's too much trouble anyway.

Not a nice experience, but a nice ego boost none the less.

 

[DJBen]

I've always wanted to go with my gut reaction, not the consequences. A similar thing is happening to me, and damn, she is fine. The kind of fine that makes you stand up, turn around, and knock a vase off of your shelf.

Morally, well done man, you're doing the right thing... But jesus christ, it just kills you, doesnt it?

 

[cannibustacap]

Dude, we're not saying you should rip her clothes off then and there and start boning her.

To keep her open to you after her relationship (which will probably end because she isn't acting exclusive enough for her BF, at least I get that impression) just keep the mystery up. Don't quite be her friend, but don't make any moves (unless you want to steal her from the AFC boy friend). Oh and if she says **** like "lol I have a boyfriend" don't pay attention to the words. Pay attention to the vibes, feelings, and actions. Words and thoughts are bull****, yes thoughts! Its all about vibes, feelings, actions... primordial desires that exist below the cerebral cortex. Have you ever looked at a huge, tasty ice cream sundae and thought.. "NOOOO can't eat it, I'll gain 25 lbs" but you eat it anyway?

Do the push and pull except don't go into Kino, because that may escalate too fast, depending on the girl.

wait, I take that back!

Remember this is ALL this theory: don't do Kino IF this happens, or do kino if THAT happens, etc etc.

Go with your instinct, just keep the right vibes going and make her want more, but don't give her anything. If she doesn't want to be with her boyfriend, then she shouldn't be with him. You are doing HIM a favor.

Why are you doing him a favor?

Well, if she doesn't want to be with him, and they stay together anyway then they are doomed to a terrible future relationship unless some miracle happens.

However, let it end without your DIRECT influence. Indirect influence is okay. Don't like write out the words for her to say to her BF to break her up is what I'm saying (you can but I just don't want you to cause a new serial killer to come out and murder me, yes me. Somehow he will murder me)

 

[LuisGarcia10]

"Cannibustacap"

Cheers for the advice, it's very good and I think I'll be a little more out-going tomorrow.

It's just difficult when I'm infront of her freinds as well who all know she has a boyfreind and such like.

Do the push and pull except don't go into Kino, because that may escalate too fast, depending on the girl

She wasn't just doing mild kino, such as putting her hand on my elbow.

We were sitting on a bench and whenever she wanted to talk to the lad sat next to me she'd lean over me and put her hands somewhere on my body (usually my leg), then move her fingers along it, you could tell it was totally deliberate.

It was virtually impossible not to do any kino back because she was sitting that close that whenever I moved I was touching her.

I've never had this from a girl with a boyfreind before, he does sound very AFC as you said but still, it's just so blaitent, especially infront of her freinds!

It was that obvious that her freind even said she was flirting with me.

 

[JackTheDog]

A girl with a boyfriend flirting with you probably means only one thing....She's pissed at her boyfriend. If this girl is a friend of yours, tell her that you don't want to be used as a revenge tool, if she's not even a friend, then tell her to piss off.

 

[cannibustacap]

Originally posted by JackTheDog
A girl with a boyfriend flirting with you probably means only one thing....She's pissed at her boyfriend. If this girl is a friend of yours, tell her that you don't want to be used as a revenge tool, if she's not even a friend, then tell her to piss off.

Yea that could be true too... I should have thought of that.

However, you could probably read this from her vibes too. Desperatation? Forcefulness? Neediness? its all in the body language.

 

[LuisGarcia10]

It's definately not a revenge tool, by all accounts she's happy enough with her boyfreind.

I can tell by her general body language that it's not that at all, for a start it would make sense to flirt with me when her boyfreind is around!

We'll see how it pans out but I really think it's far more likely that she's simply bored with her boyfreind.

 

[cannibustacap]

maybe she is just completely ****ing with you and teasing you. Push and pull your attention.