Hello fellow DJs, I have a problem I need a solution to. Forgive the somewhat winded post, I like to give details. Last night was an awful experience that I need to make sense of.
Recently, I've been getting **** teased relentlessly by women. Every girl that has expressed interest in me pretty much has done it not out of interest, but to have me chase them around for a self-esteem boost, some to a VERY extreme level.
So, last night I go to a bar/club where I know pretty much everyone. There is a girl I knew, and I'll admit, I knew she is kinda of crazy, but I didn't think she would do what she was about to do. Right off the bat when she sees me she starts hitting on me, and even tells me she's hitting on me. First she asks me to go with her to a party tomorrow, tells me she's single now then tells me she's hitting on me right now. I think it's awesome, because hey, who doesn't like a hot girl telling them what's up. So I tell her I've always wanted to go jump in this hot tub I know close by that is secluded, she is like "OMG, we are totally going, you and me, whenever you want to go, let's go! I have nothing to do tomorrow.. you have to come to this party with me tomorrow though".
So we hang out together and talk a whole bunch for awhile at this bar, she continues to be really forward, she's being very clear she really wants to hook up tonight and eventually I say okay let's go. She even says "I just love being honest, I hope you don't mind!" lol I have NEVER had a girl be so determined to get some from me. We get to my car and we decide to go to my house first, which SHE suggested. We get there, and go to my room. She jumps on my bed and so do I and we kind of cuddle for awhile and listen to music. I pull her close to me a few times, and she doesn't really respond or look at me, just very neutral, not willing to initiate sex with me. I'm thinking "WTF?" but then again she's not being distant.
When I get up to change the songs she's texting someone, and says it's a friend she hasn't talked to in 2 months, who's upset. I'm thinking nothing of it, it really was kind of funny at the time. But THEN she says she has to go and go talk to her friend because she's upset. I ask her why she has to go, can't she stay, I'm sure you're friend's okay, etc, trying to get her to stay, calmly but she just gets up and starts to leave, says maybe she'll come back. I'm sitting there just shocked that she would leave for something which seemed so trivial after she hit on me as hard as she did for someone she hasn't talked to in 2 months all randomly, so of course I'm kind of bummed and not totally happy. I ask her to stay for just a few more minutes instead of just taking off and she says no. I don't get mad at her or anything, I just say okay, and that I feel kind of teased around, but that I understood.
So what does she say? "And I was so looking forward to hanging out with you tomorrow." I say "And you're not now?" She says: "Not after the way you're acting." And quickly leaves my room. I get up to talk to her but she just leaves. WTF IS THIS??? I call her to talk to her about it, but she says her phone is dying and hangs up on me. I mean, maybe it was a good friend that needed console, but it didn't seem that way. She just abruptly left and acted really strange.
This is just an example of the kinds of crazy behavior women have been exhibiting around me the past year They will act and talk like they REALLY want me, hit on me, but it's just an act! Another time recently someone I knew was saying VERY sexual things to me at a party, basically tells me she wants to screw, invites me to come back to her friend's house with her, and just gives me the cold shoulder the rest of the time.
Why do women do this, how do I recognize it and how do I prevent it? I just don't understand. Thanks for reading.
Recently, I've been getting **** teased relentlessly by women. Every girl that has expressed interest in me pretty much has done it not out of interest, but to have me chase them around for a self-esteem boost, some to a VERY extreme level.
So, last night I go to a bar/club where I know pretty much everyone. There is a girl I knew, and I'll admit, I knew she is kinda of crazy, but I didn't think she would do what she was about to do. Right off the bat when she sees me she starts hitting on me, and even tells me she's hitting on me. First she asks me to go with her to a party tomorrow, tells me she's single now then tells me she's hitting on me right now. I think it's awesome, because hey, who doesn't like a hot girl telling them what's up. So I tell her I've always wanted to go jump in this hot tub I know close by that is secluded, she is like "OMG, we are totally going, you and me, whenever you want to go, let's go! I have nothing to do tomorrow.. you have to come to this party with me tomorrow though".
So we hang out together and talk a whole bunch for awhile at this bar, she continues to be really forward, she's being very clear she really wants to hook up tonight and eventually I say okay let's go. She even says "I just love being honest, I hope you don't mind!" lol I have NEVER had a girl be so determined to get some from me. We get to my car and we decide to go to my house first, which SHE suggested. We get there, and go to my room. She jumps on my bed and so do I and we kind of cuddle for awhile and listen to music. I pull her close to me a few times, and she doesn't really respond or look at me, just very neutral, not willing to initiate sex with me. I'm thinking "WTF?" but then again she's not being distant.
When I get up to change the songs she's texting someone, and says it's a friend she hasn't talked to in 2 months, who's upset. I'm thinking nothing of it, it really was kind of funny at the time. But THEN she says she has to go and go talk to her friend because she's upset. I ask her why she has to go, can't she stay, I'm sure you're friend's okay, etc, trying to get her to stay, calmly but she just gets up and starts to leave, says maybe she'll come back. I'm sitting there just shocked that she would leave for something which seemed so trivial after she hit on me as hard as she did for someone she hasn't talked to in 2 months all randomly, so of course I'm kind of bummed and not totally happy. I ask her to stay for just a few more minutes instead of just taking off and she says no. I don't get mad at her or anything, I just say okay, and that I feel kind of teased around, but that I understood.
So what does she say? "And I was so looking forward to hanging out with you tomorrow." I say "And you're not now?" She says: "Not after the way you're acting." And quickly leaves my room. I get up to talk to her but she just leaves. WTF IS THIS??? I call her to talk to her about it, but she says her phone is dying and hangs up on me. I mean, maybe it was a good friend that needed console, but it didn't seem that way. She just abruptly left and acted really strange.
This is just an example of the kinds of crazy behavior women have been exhibiting around me the past year They will act and talk like they REALLY want me, hit on me, but it's just an act! Another time recently someone I knew was saying VERY sexual things to me at a party, basically tells me she wants to screw, invites me to come back to her friend's house with her, and just gives me the cold shoulder the rest of the time.
Why do women do this, how do I recognize it and how do I prevent it? I just don't understand. Thanks for reading.
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