duke007
Master Don Juan
What gives? I feel I am at a stage of my DJing where I should be getting results. I'm no longer scared of approaches, I can hold an interesting conversation and stopped trying too hard. But then days like yesterday happen and I end up wondering what the f*ck I have to do to get to the next level.
The annoying thing about these rejections are they were all subtle and quick...I never got a chance to show my worth. I was casual, not actively pursuing. It was a busy day and I was always going from one place to the next.
let me give you the run-down. Yeah I know it's long but this day what i put up with today was unprecedented for me
1) Get the the bus stop, and I am the only one there. With 10 minutes left to wait, I see girl approaching in the distance...but she is barely a 4, I've seen her at that stop before. I decide a friendly chat can't hurt. As she approaches the seat, I look up at her face but she is doing everything possible to avoid eye contact and ignore my presence. She sits down on the seat SIDEWAYS with her back facing me! Ouch! fine b1tch! so we wait in silence.
2) I can't believe the next two....leaving the tram stop to head towards uni a nice looking blonde is the only other girl getting off. She knows I'm there because she looked in my direction to cross the street. Now there is a fence blocking the direct route to Uni so you have to go round it and diagonally through the park. Let me draw a picture: the vert and horizontal lines are the street and the Xs are the fence.
3) On the way back home leaving Uni, I am texting on my phone and look like any normal person. An Asian girl is walking behind and we both start heading to the park, where I will once again take the diagonal route. I hear her take a few paces on the grass...then she too changes course and takes the long route round the street. The stupid b1tch then misses the tram.
Why did these woman not want to walk near me? I didn't smell. I didn't look threatening. Are they too stupid to understand Pythagoras? I am insulted.
4) rewinding now...I am heading towards the gym on campus and see a girl I knew from class heading toward me..she knows who I am. I gave up on her because an AFC kept repeatedly c0ckblocking when I spoke to her. She has a fixed nervous look and is obviously trying to avoid EC. As she passes I say, "Hey, *name*" It takes her a good 2 seconds to turn around and acknowledge my presence once we had already crossed. Awkwardly snubbed.
5) Leaving the gym, a cute girl is approaching me and we have some EC and....is that a hint of a smile??!. As she comes within earshot I say "Hi" but she turns her head in the other direction with a weird look on her face. Mixed frickin signals! All she had to do was return the favour! Still I remain walking with good posture and stride.
6) Get to the bus depot at the shopping centre and since it is quite late, the bus won't be coming for 15 mins. Me and a nice-looking girl are the only ones waiting but not a shred of acknowledgement from her as I sat down. Still, I turn to her and casually say, "Looks like we'll be waiting her awhile." She looks at her watch and says, "10 minutes." (pretty closed response I think). I say, "Pity I missed the train, I should be home now." She doesn't say anything and looks straight ahead. Holy hell another awkward bus waiting experience!
Barely 30 seconds later a friend comes by and we start talking and joking. Then another friend calls on the mobile and I set arrangements for our night out later. She hears everything and I notice her turn her head at once stage. Yeah social proof, b1tch! Now you probably want to talk to me
The next three happened at the punk show we went to. Sure there are a lot of punk girls and people are there for the music but there's no point not trying. I was having an absolute BLAST! Chatting with good friends about our favourite bands, hearing the amazingly talented back up band and jiving to the talents of the Mad Caddies. Easily the best show I'd been to this year, it went for 1.5 hours and they exceeded my expectations. While most other guys were jumping around like rythymless drunken bozos I was dancing ska style in more space toward the rear of the pit...I felt really in the groove! Women don't approach guys on the dancefloor at places like this.
7) I was dancing away and find myself alongside a cute punk girl with a piercing. In a break between songs, some dude got up from the crowd and mooned everyone. Not many cheers went up. I turned to her and said, "That was NOT cool!" She looks at me, then looks away again. I'm just loving the music though.
8) Toward the end I find myself alongside another cute girl and we are both dancing to a slower reggae style song. It seems she is making an extra effort to having body contact with me...she had room. The song is long, and after a while she stops and pulls out a phone. So I say into her ear, "Not getting bored, are ya?" She said something back to me but I could barely hear, I think it was, "I have a boyfriend." Couldn't have been certain though so I asked her to repeat. She shook her head and said nevermind. Arrrch! If only I could have been certain she said that, I could rip on her for answering a question I didn't ask.
9) The encore was going for ages..it was incredible. Usually bands play an extra 3 songs but this encore went for almost as long as the general show! I turned to a random girl next to me and said, "This is the longest encore ever!" Hell, I might have even said this to a guy I was that happy. She mumbled some acknowledgement and looked straight ahead with little joy showing on her face. Sh1t, I mean even if I wasn't trying to pick you up you should have a bit more enthusiasm than that! Didn't she like the band????
So yeah that was my day of rejection. I kept busy, didn't let it get to me and had the best night for a long time. This is a major tip that people keep emphasising here....just go about your business and go out to have fun and women will come by. And that is what I did, for nothing.
I don't look hideous, why am I being treated like a second class citizen?
The annoying thing about these rejections are they were all subtle and quick...I never got a chance to show my worth. I was casual, not actively pursuing. It was a busy day and I was always going from one place to the next.
let me give you the run-down. Yeah I know it's long but this day what i put up with today was unprecedented for me
1) Get the the bus stop, and I am the only one there. With 10 minutes left to wait, I see girl approaching in the distance...but she is barely a 4, I've seen her at that stop before. I decide a friendly chat can't hurt. As she approaches the seat, I look up at her face but she is doing everything possible to avoid eye contact and ignore my presence. She sits down on the seat SIDEWAYS with her back facing me! Ouch! fine b1tch! so we wait in silence.
2) I can't believe the next two....leaving the tram stop to head towards uni a nice looking blonde is the only other girl getting off. She knows I'm there because she looked in my direction to cross the street. Now there is a fence blocking the direct route to Uni so you have to go round it and diagonally through the park. Let me draw a picture: the vert and horizontal lines are the street and the Xs are the fence.
We get to the corner of the fence and she is a few metres ahead of me, once I catch up I am going to open. She takes a few steps on the grass of the park and I naturally, follow. Then she changes course back on to the street and takes the long route down the street sidewalk while I continue down the quick way. Of course I get there WAY quicker than her. WTF is going on here?
3) On the way back home leaving Uni, I am texting on my phone and look like any normal person. An Asian girl is walking behind and we both start heading to the park, where I will once again take the diagonal route. I hear her take a few paces on the grass...then she too changes course and takes the long route round the street. The stupid b1tch then misses the tram.
Why did these woman not want to walk near me? I didn't smell. I didn't look threatening. Are they too stupid to understand Pythagoras? I am insulted.
4) rewinding now...I am heading towards the gym on campus and see a girl I knew from class heading toward me..she knows who I am. I gave up on her because an AFC kept repeatedly c0ckblocking when I spoke to her. She has a fixed nervous look and is obviously trying to avoid EC. As she passes I say, "Hey, *name*" It takes her a good 2 seconds to turn around and acknowledge my presence once we had already crossed. Awkwardly snubbed.
5) Leaving the gym, a cute girl is approaching me and we have some EC and....is that a hint of a smile??!. As she comes within earshot I say "Hi" but she turns her head in the other direction with a weird look on her face. Mixed frickin signals! All she had to do was return the favour! Still I remain walking with good posture and stride.
6) Get to the bus depot at the shopping centre and since it is quite late, the bus won't be coming for 15 mins. Me and a nice-looking girl are the only ones waiting but not a shred of acknowledgement from her as I sat down. Still, I turn to her and casually say, "Looks like we'll be waiting her awhile." She looks at her watch and says, "10 minutes." (pretty closed response I think). I say, "Pity I missed the train, I should be home now." She doesn't say anything and looks straight ahead. Holy hell another awkward bus waiting experience!
Barely 30 seconds later a friend comes by and we start talking and joking. Then another friend calls on the mobile and I set arrangements for our night out later. She hears everything and I notice her turn her head at once stage. Yeah social proof, b1tch! Now you probably want to talk to me
The next three happened at the punk show we went to. Sure there are a lot of punk girls and people are there for the music but there's no point not trying. I was having an absolute BLAST! Chatting with good friends about our favourite bands, hearing the amazingly talented back up band and jiving to the talents of the Mad Caddies. Easily the best show I'd been to this year, it went for 1.5 hours and they exceeded my expectations. While most other guys were jumping around like rythymless drunken bozos I was dancing ska style in more space toward the rear of the pit...I felt really in the groove! Women don't approach guys on the dancefloor at places like this.
7) I was dancing away and find myself alongside a cute punk girl with a piercing. In a break between songs, some dude got up from the crowd and mooned everyone. Not many cheers went up. I turned to her and said, "That was NOT cool!" She looks at me, then looks away again. I'm just loving the music though.
8) Toward the end I find myself alongside another cute girl and we are both dancing to a slower reggae style song. It seems she is making an extra effort to having body contact with me...she had room. The song is long, and after a while she stops and pulls out a phone. So I say into her ear, "Not getting bored, are ya?" She said something back to me but I could barely hear, I think it was, "I have a boyfriend." Couldn't have been certain though so I asked her to repeat. She shook her head and said nevermind. Arrrch! If only I could have been certain she said that, I could rip on her for answering a question I didn't ask.
9) The encore was going for ages..it was incredible. Usually bands play an extra 3 songs but this encore went for almost as long as the general show! I turned to a random girl next to me and said, "This is the longest encore ever!" Hell, I might have even said this to a guy I was that happy. She mumbled some acknowledgement and looked straight ahead with little joy showing on her face. Sh1t, I mean even if I wasn't trying to pick you up you should have a bit more enthusiasm than that! Didn't she like the band????
So yeah that was my day of rejection. I kept busy, didn't let it get to me and had the best night for a long time. This is a major tip that people keep emphasising here....just go about your business and go out to have fun and women will come by. And that is what I did, for nothing.
I don't look hideous, why am I being treated like a second class citizen?
