i got owned (ljbf'd) (kinda long)

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Kind of a long story but i'll make it as short as possible...

Met a girl at the start of this school year, (september) at the time my friend was pursuing her so even though i was interested i didn't try anything..but she seemed interested in me. Kept staring at me when we were at my friends house. Other IOI's too like pressing her self against me in the crowded lineup to a bar. Anyways like i said i didn't pursue anything that night b/c of my friend...he ended up going to her house that night and watching a movie but nothing happened, i guess he was in the friends zone too at the time. So after that he gave up and gave me the go ahead so i was like aight sweet.

I added her to msn and we talked for about 10 minutes..she suggested coming over to watch a movie, and of course i assented. She came over but i didn't make a move b.c throughout the whole movie (wedding crashers) she talked about her boyfriend of 2 yrs that had dumped her over the summer. abt a month ago. So my AFC self basically went along with it, giving her sympathy etc. About a week later i invited her to a kegger and she came...i intended to make a move but instead i got ****faced and had sex with this other girl i'd gotten with the year before...we were basically having sex on the chair right in front of the other girl and then we went into my room so its pretty obvious what happened. LOL, anyways you would think that that'd raise her interest in me cause i barely paid attention to her all night and ended up with this other girl but apparently she wasn't impressed.

SO what happened after that was she confronted me (on msn) about it and i told her i didn't have any commitment to her, then she wrote back "no, you don't" and signed off. after that i was pretty much instigating all the conversations (well most, not all) and pretty much became her emotional tampon.

Fast forward a few months, we're at a toga party together things are going pretty well, she's teaching me how to salsa and ****, we're grinding and i'm giving her a massage on the couch, etc, BUT later in the night my friend from the beggining of the year i told you about showed up. Nothing happened at the party but after i walked them home (she lives 2 houses down from him) he went over to her house after i'd left and they made out and he tried to **** her but she didn't cause she wanted a relationship. So my friend gave up again, lol. When i found out about this i was obviously pretty pissed at my friend but i got over it quickly enough. I then sent her an email saying basically that i wanted to be more than what we were, just friends, and she replied stating that she couldn't b.c she was still recovering from her previous breakup last summer. (BS IMO) anyways the point is she made it quite clear we were only friends :(

After that contact was pretty much sporadic and infrequent up until now, i see her at the library but we never talk on msn anymore b.c i deleted her as i was always messaging her and it made me feel desperate. And she rarely initiates convos with me.

Anyways we had another kegger last weekend, she came, and i was pretty ****faced again but i didn't really try to make a move. I made her let me use her legs as a cushion for watching TV and she didn't seem to mind...later in the night we and 1 other friend walked to a nurses party where i was gonna isolate her and try to get things going but unfortunately she decided to go to a friends house instead. Now like 4 days later, for some reason i can't stop thinking about her but i'm pretty sure she ain't thinking of me. What i need from you guys is some way to grab her attention or to get her thinking about me again, any ideas?

sorry about the length.

some other things you should know about her:

gets pretty promiscuous when she's drunk (not a slut, but really friendly...like open to convvos and people hitting on her)
she had a miscarriage in September from her old boyfriend
she was pretty depressed at the start of the year (when we were closest) but now has seemed to have built up her little circle of friends again and is over the old breakup.

I'm trying to get over her but i can't really think of much else atm, it sucks.
 

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shrewd said:
Met a girl at the start of this school year, (september) at the time my friend was pursuing her so even though i was interested i didn't try anything..but she seemed interested in me. Kept staring at me when we were at my friends house. Other IOI's too like pressing her self against me in the crowded lineup to a bar. Anyways like i said i didn't pursue anything that night b/c of my friend...he ended up going to her house that night and watching a movie but nothing happened, i guess he was in the friends zone too at the time. So after that he gave up and gave me the go ahead so i was like aight sweet.
Unfortunately, too late.

shrewd said:
I added her to msn and we talked for about 10 minutes..she suggested coming over to watch a movie, and of course i assented. She came over but i didn't make a move b.c throughout the whole movie (wedding crashers) she talked about her boyfriend of 2 yrs that had dumped her over the summer.
Just like she did with your friend.

shrewd said:
So my AFC self basically went along with it, giving her sympathy etc.
I do that too. I still have this fuxing programming of having to be nice on that situations. Of course when the tension fades I end it like the hell it is, but still that is a major flaw to anyone's game.

I am working on being a completely careless bastard. :D

shrewd said:
About a week later i invited her to a kegger and she came
You were already dead when she told you about her ex-bf.

shrewd said:
...i intended to make a move but instead i got ****faced and had sex with this other girl i'd gotten with the year before...we were basically having sex on the chair right in front of the other girl and then we went into my room so its pretty obvious what happened.
Best move you could possibly have made.

shrewd said:
LOL, anyways you would think that that'd raise her interest in me cause i barely paid attention to her all night and ended up with this other girl but apparently she wasn't impressed.
So what?

shrewd said:
SO what happened after that was she confronted me (on msn) about it and i told her i didn't have any commitment to her, then she wrote back "no, you don't" and signed off. after that i was pretty much instigating all the conversations (well most, not all) and pretty much became her emotional tampon.
As if you had to explain her anything.

shrewd said:
anyways the point is she made it quite clear we were only friends :(
Done deal.

shrewd said:
What i need from you guys is some way to grab her attention or to get her thinking about me again, any ideas?
None. No way.

shrewd said:
gets pretty promiscuous when she's drunk (not a slut, but really friendly...like open to convvos and people hitting on her)
Yeah, really friendly... :rolleyes:

shrewd said:
she had a miscarriage in September from her old boyfriend
REALLY friendly!

shrewd said:
she was pretty depressed at the start of the year (when we were closest) but now has seemed to have built up her little circle of friends again and is over the old breakup.
REALLY REALLY friendly!

shrewd said:
I'm trying to get over her but i can't really think of much else atm, it sucks.
If you're real about the sex on the chair thing, you got way too much opportunities to waste them being chained to this dead prospect. FLEE!
 

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hahaha...yeah as of right now i've cut off all contact w/ her. I was/am interested in a relationship but unless she shows some more interest i'm not gonna bust my balls trying to get her. thanks
 
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Some hors want to justify their hordoms by being in a "relationship" - then their hordoms are suddenly "OK"!! Lie to the hor and say, "I love you"!!! :rolleyes:
 

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PRL pm me.

I know this is off topic, but I need a way to get my credit score up quickly because I have an investment I need to make.

Do you know how to do it? Does anybody know?

For the poster, dude, again.

Who would get pissed off if I said I was goin to come sit next to you and svck up all the air that you are using to breathe with?

Lol, sounds stupid doesn't it. I can't svck up all the air, it's too much of it.

Okay...so why do you guys keep stressing over particular girls, when there's way too many of them?

Way too many.

But yeah, I need to get this loan dude.
 
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