I got LMR'd, How should I have handled this?

[Voice]

In my dorm there is this girl that lives right in the room next to mine. I used a lot of c&F on her and she is way into me. So last night her roommate went home and she was by herself so I went over there to watch a movie with her. The last few times we did this we made out. First time I didn't go for any more, second time I got to second base, then stopped. Last night I was totally sucking on her nipple when she was like "wait stop, I don't know how far I want to go". I tried the freeze out method looked at her a little and was like "ok" and just laid there. She was like "I don't want you or anyone else to think I'm a slut. I'm not like that". I was like, "You're not a slut". She was like "Are you mad?" I said no, but I was mad because she totally killed my boner with that shlt. She asked me again and I said no again. Then we had this talk about her telling me how I give her mixed signals. WTF?

Anyway after all that was over we started talking again and I had her laughing at some stories. Then she goes "Why can't you be cute like this all the time?"

 

[AlexTheGreat]

See I had that "are you mad?" line as well after looking at her when she didn't wanna go any further. I'm not sure exactly how you're supposed to do a freezeout without sounding like you're a child that didn't receive the candy you were after ...

 

[DonGorgon]

See I had that "are you mad?" line as well after looking at her when she didn't wanna go any further. I'm not sure exactly how you're supposed to do a freezeout without sounding like you're a child that didn't receive the candy you were after ...

ME: NO but you will be mad that you are too afraid to let your self experience the wonderful passion you deserve.

 

[wjh]

See I had that "are you mad?" line as well after looking at her when she didn't wanna go any further. I'm not sure exactly how you're supposed to do a freezeout without sounding like you're a child that didn't receive the candy you were after ...

I would totally stop, smile, laugh about something, change the subject, and try again in 10-15 minutes.

 

[loving]

ME: NO but you will be mad that you are too afraid to let your self experience the wonderful passion you deserve.

GOod.

"I was all mad and she was like are you mad im like naw so she asks me again and i get angrier that she doesnt believe me and so i say no again then she's all youre giving me mixed signals"

Because girls can tell how you feel - they feel it too times x1000

 

[Jaggs]

Shoulda smiled and said something about her missing out on sexy fun times.

The fact that you showed you care did not help.

Good luck in future bro.

 

[Voice]

"Sexy fun times"? I doubt that would've worked. What do you mean the fact I showed I cared didn't help? The whole idea of the freeze out method is to show you don't care. I was mad but didn't show it.

This girl definitely is not a slut otherwise I would have totally hit it already. How do I break through the anti-slut defense?

 

[AlexTheGreat]

"Sexy fun times"? I doubt that would've worked. What do you mean the fact I showed I cared didn't help? The whole idea of the freeze out method is to show you don't care. I was mad but didn't show it.

This girl definitely is not a slut otherwise I would have totally hit it already. How do I break through the anti-slut defense?

See the bold is where I believe you got it wrong, and where I had it wrong too. You were mad, so obviously this affected you. No matter how much "I don't care" look you put on, if this stops you from progressing and you freeze for a minute thinking up something to do to break her LMR, then she knows you care even though you think you don't.

 

[Jaggs]

"Sexy fun times"? I doubt that would've worked. What do you mean the fact I showed I cared didn't help? The whole idea of the freeze out method is to show you don't care. I was mad but didn't show it.

This girl definitely is not a slut otherwise I would have totally hit it already. How do I break through the anti-slut defense?

Haha I didn't mean those exact words, I just meant the idea of showing that it doesn't bother you.

Sexy fun times are ahead for you man, surely.

 

[j0n024]

...since you were in her place you couldnt really kick her out like I would have done but if that happend to me I would say this.

HER: You mad?
ME: ...about what?

THat's all you really need to do dont make a big deal about it now if she continued I would have said.

HER: About me not wanting to have sex.
ME: Oh haha no sex isnt a big deal to me, but it seems your a little insecure about it so it's ok we can stop.

No point in making a big deal about something you can get from someone else.

 

[Voice]

Haha I didn't mean those exact words, I just meant the idea of showing that it doesn't bother you.

Sexy fun times are ahead for you man, surely.

Hahaha, yea thanks I get what you guys are saying. I think the only thing I really did wrong besides showing I was mad was not trying again. To think about it I probably had plenty of other opportunities to make moves again that night. I just took it as a 'no' and didn't persist anymore.

The problem is I think she's looking for a relationship, and I'm really not.

 

[Voice]

...since you were in her place you couldnt really kick her out like I would have done but if that happend to me I would say this.

HER: You mad?
ME: ...about what?

THat's all you really need to do dont make a big deal about it now if she continued I would have said.

HER: About me not wanting to have sex.
ME: Oh haha no sex isnt a big deal to me, but it seems your a little insecure about it so it's ok we can stop.

No point in making a big deal about something you can get from someone else.

Nice man, good advice especially the "about what?" line. I should of dropped that.