I got hung up on! (my previous fclose)

[Ricky]

Well this girl I had two weekends ago (fclosed), she was a bit cold to me on this previous Friday but she had alot she had to do.

Tonight I tried to call and it was one of those things where she picked up the cell phone and hung up.

Now there could be a valid reason for this (she's in church or a library, etc), but if she doesn't call back, NEXT. Ok I might try again later in the week, that's only cuz she's hot. But realistically if she doesn't call back the odds are low.

If she doesn't call again, I sure shouldn't call.

Problems I ran into with her:

1) she knew I had a girlfriend and said it bothered her
2) I was a bit needy on her Friday night, rubbing all over her, because I wanted her again. She had to get up early Saturday and was staying at her parents. There was no way possible for another hookup then.
3) BUT she did admit she would be open to hooking up again, which she said on Friday.

Still sucks

The more DJing you do, the more you'll get a few quick romances like this.

I am going out with a friend now rather than reflect on this.

Well I still have my one girlfriend. I can't even leave this girl a nasty message because she knows some of the same people as my girlfriend and it would get back to her.

What is funny is I bought a 12pk of condoms that night I hooked up with her. It would be so funny if I called her and asked for those back. I bet she would tell that story to everyone LOL.

 

[Ricky]

Ok now I need advice. This happened on Tuesday.

I won't call today, and she hasn't called back.

Tomorrow I am thinking of leaving a C+F message on her answering machine and end it with the statement "Call me"

I think this girl is worth a tiny bit of persistence, but not too much. If she doesn't call me hell with her.

It kinda sucks to lay a girl and make her *** a few times, then you have to wonder whether she likes you or not! LOL

I guess I was her one night stand. Normally I'm at least a 1 week stand! She must really not like the fact I told her I had a girlfriend.

Any Advice?

 

[davelmn2003]

I hope your girlfriend has been having fun outside of this "relationship" of yours as well.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Ricky: Why did you tell her you had a g/f?? I mean if she would have found out eventually then so be it, but you should never incriminate yourself bro. Your over it, she hung up on you, if she really wanted to talk to you, she would have called back.



PIMP

 

[Ricky]

Ok both points well taken. I shouldn't have cheated on her. In reality it shouldn't have come to that point because I should have dumped my gf before this point.

This other girl however I haven't given up on. We had a great time, now she seems to just be putting up her ASD (anti-slut defense for the newbies)

I won't call her tonight. I will call next week. I have been extremely busy in my personal and work life.

If nothing happens, no problem, I met some other girls last night and have at least one new project.

Normally during breakup periods with this girlfriend, I would never mention having a gf to other girls. But this time I was honest with the girl. I told her before sex, but she still wanted to have sex with me.

So I will play it cool. Thanks for the advice and if anyone else wants to chime in I would appreciate further advice.

 

[Healer]

Man, get over it. She was your FB.

Cheating wasnt a mistake, telling your so-called FB was though, because you misread what she wanted from you. She wanted more than just a fcuk, otherwise she wouldnt care if you had a GF. She probably decided this after you sexed her. (women get like that after sex).

Too late. Your biggest worry now, "player" is your "FB" finding your GF and telling her about you.


If your gonna cheat on your GF do it right, and do it with a chick that you're gonna next anyways.

OH YEAH, and DONT CALL HER BACK. just next her. Dont worry about the condoms.

 

[Ricky]

Damn it, the advice is so brutal, so true and yet I can't help but think I might try one more time, next week.

The thing is I might actually be completely broke up with my girlfriend by then, but you guys are right, the new girl knows I'm a player and she is guilty by association and she doesn't like that.

I was pretty stupid. The only reason I told her about my GF is that there was only one degree of separation (i.e. common friends between us).

 

[princelydeeds]

This is a tricky situation. If you are gonna cheat I always think its best to tell that you have a GF. That way if she chooses to go forward with it, its on her. Not telling creates the hasssle of trying to hide stuff and the animosity that creates when one of them does find out. I think you did the right thing. She decided she didnt want to move forward since you have a gf, so oh well the two of you got together and now its over. Let it go move on

 

[drixsa]

good luck but dont tell her that you broke up with your GF

itll give her too much of an ego boost

remember, sometimes things are only fun once...

 

[Ricky]

Thanks Drixsa,

Pretty much everybody thinks I got no chance.

I have to admit her hot body and face make me want to do her again. I don't know how much I like her as a person but we both had a great time in bed.

She is in the top 5 of girls I've been with for sure.

I am a bit more persistent, but I do recognize bad signs when I see them.

I will withdraw but make one last stand next week. By that time I'll have about two other girls I'm working on anyways.

And I will breakup with my controlling *****y girlfriend. She just called and dumped more of her bad feelings on me.

 

[JustDoItAlways]

Hanging up on you is not cool of course.

But it is always easier to nail a girl again after you have got her the first time. ASD or not, chicks can rationalize it easier since they were already a slut.

Hang in there. Persistence often pays off in this kind of situation (50% odds which is good enough for me.)

If you do break up with your girl, you should definitely tell her in case having a girlfriend is what is really holding her back (not too likely in my experience but you never know.)

 

[Ricky]

Originally posted by JustDoItAlways
Hanging up on you is not cool of course.

Hell yeah I was pissed!

But it is always easier to nail a girl again after you have got her the first time. ASD or not, chicks can rationalize it easier since they were already a slut.

This is a theory that I have always operated on. In fact I am normally alot more laidback around a girl that I've been with. It's like I know I can do it!


Hang in there. Persistence often pays off in this kind of situation (50% odds which is good enough for me.)

Exactly, I can't give up too soon. It was pretty hot!

If you do break up with your girl, you should definitely tell her in case having a girlfriend is what is really holding her back (not too likely in my experience but you never know.)

Yeah, I need to move on. For a lot of reasons I've hung in there with this girl. It is hard to let go. I've written many posts about her and how she has pissed me off, plus we've broken up several times. Her not showing up to one of my best friends wedding definitely felt like the last straw. She has been alot nicer since than and has apologized, but I've sat through so many of her friends crappy weddings not knowing a person that I was a bit offended at her failure to go.

Thanks for your message. I will call her next week. This is a busy weekend anyways, don't need to complicate it with her!