I fvcked up again...

[NewMan]

With my ex.

Read and learn what not to do...

I was doing well. She called me xmas morning crying - she wanted me to come over her house - I said nope. The I need to move on, move forward not back.

We talked a little longer, but finally I just told her nope.

26th rolls around. She calls me again. She wants me to help her order a new PC and DSL. I talk her through it, and in the end she said that perhaps she should go check out the store to see if they have any specials.

End of conversation.

Today rolls around. I call her this morning - why I don't know - but I call her. She asks me if I'm calling to tell her to stop calling me. I say no, of course not. She's got to return some things to the mall from Xmas and wants to know if she can come by and pick me up so we can get lunch. I tell her I'm going to the gym, but I'll be able to get lunch in about an hour.

I've just come back from seeing her.

I feel like sh#t. I just feel that I've taken a backward step, not a forward one.

I found out some things that I really didn't want to know - and it's fvcking with my head a little.

So my piece if advice is this - don't see your ex - move forward not back. Move up and on - don't let her play games, don't let your emotions take control.

 

[Omega]

Originally posted by NewMan
With my ex.

Read and learn what not to do...

I was doing well. She called me xmas morning crying - she wanted me to come over her house - I said nope. The I need to move on, move forward not back.

We talked a little longer, but finally I just told her nope.

26th rolls around. She calls me again. She wants me to help her order a new PC and DSL. I talk her through it, and in the end she said that perhaps she should go check out the store to see if they have any specials.

End of conversation.

Today rolls around. I call her this morning - why I don't know - but I call her. She asks me if I'm calling to tell her to stop calling me. I say no, of course not. She's got to return some things to the mall from Xmas and wants to know if she can come by and pick me up so we can get lunch. I tell her I'm going to the gym, but I'll be able to get lunch in about an hour.

I've just come back from seeing her.

I feel like sh#t. I just feel that I've taken a backward step, not a forward one.

I found out some things that I really didn't want to know - and it's fvcking with my head a little.

So my piece if advice is this - don't see your ex - move forward not back. Move up and on - don't let her play games, don't let your emotions take control.

Yep.

 

[Grey Fox]

I feel for ya. Thats why when it hits the fan with a GF and we call it quits I make sure to burn my bridges, real good. Just cause you used to ****em doesn't mean your friends with them.

-Grey Fox

 

[jbbrain]

what did u find out about thats making you all "crazy"?

 

[Paid Laid & Made]

Okay, first off you walked into a TRAP.

She wanted to chat with you, to feed dirty lies and garbage into your head cause, she knew you were doing okay without her.

I would be experiencing the same thing. Only difference is that I took one of my boys with me and her best friend is my Number # 1 source of true stories. She literally sorts out most of the BS for my sanity. They do stuff like this just to mess with your head and for you to stick around so that she can feed more to you and make you jealous and bring up more old scars.

 

[NewMan]

What she told me is really not worth going into - it's long and drawn out.......

Never the less, I called her last night, left her a message and told her that I no longer want to talk and see her again. That I need to move the fvck on, and stop looking back in the past. I don't want to be friends - that not why I've was seeing her.

I basically told her to sh#t or get off of the pot.

Forget calling me to be with you Thanksgiving and Xmas day (which by the way I'm so relieved that I didn't go) - that she can longer turn up at my local bar - especially when she knows I'm there with a new girl (and then proceeds to ask me to kiss her).....

She was upset - told me that she's so confused but that she does not want to say goodbye to me. That she's not ready for that.

I have realised that I was not the best person to her in our relationship - also being single and dating again, it's made me realise that what I had was pretty fvcking good - I mean a woman who looked after me in many ways - I know it's not considered the DJ way, but I would like to date her again..... I make the rules I guess.

Anywho, after our conversation, I basically told her that she needs to figure out what she wants - but that I'm not going to be her friend - If she wants more then cool - if not, then leave me the fvck alone, to get on with my life....

She told me she wanted more time - I told her that she's had plenty of time. I'm not putting up with this sh#t for another week. She told me that she wanted to leave it as is for that night - and she will call tomorrow.

I told her not to bother to call unless she wants more.

On reflection I'm relieved. I've been fvcking around with this issue for far to long now and it's time I buried it once and for all. I've no doubt we care greatly for each other - we have such a great time together - but it's just to difficult to see her and talk to her right now - I'm not completely over her.

We will see what happens.

 

[MacAvoy]

Next time she calls, tell her you will only see her if she wants more. Tell her becuase of all of her games that she has been playing for the past couple of months, you won't believe hef if she calls and says she wants more so she will have to prove it. Tell her the only way you will see her again is if she calls and says " I want a relationship with you and I will prove it by coming over and giving you head". Then say goodbye and hang up.

If she calls again, say can I help you, if she doesnt say "I want a relationship with you and I will prove it by coming over and giving you head" or if she says anything else, simply ask her, are you ready?

if yes , say ok come prove it by giving me head

if no, say goodbye, call me when your ready

Stick to your guns, don't let her suck you in to any conversation, as soon as she talks, ask her if she is ready, don't let it get beyone that.

Trust me, I have seen this situation from experience and it can only get uglier if you continue to talk to her. This way it keeps the door open to future possibilities but doesn't get you sucked in emotionally and being a AFC.