I finally got laid - didn't feel much - did she ***?

[CoolRunning]

I finally got laid. It was on the 3rd date, and there was no LMR at all. I did it, guys!!!!!

My first question is whether you think she enjoyed it, and how to tell if she came. We spent about 30-40 min in foreplay, and I slooowly moved down her body kissing and licking various parts. Then I licked her ****oris while trying to finger her g-spot and she was moaning and groaning and screaming my name within a few minutes. After she got quieter, we kissed, cuddled a bit, then I did it again. Same deal from her, moaning, groaning, yelling my name, and eventually she subtly moved my hand away from her vagina, which I took as an indication that she was done. The vagina felt wet inside, but it wasn't dripping onto my bed. The 2nd time I felt it really clench hard, but not the first. I don't think I felt any rhythmic pulsations either time, I dunno for sure though. Does it sound like she came, or at least enjoyed it hella much? Or could she have been putting on a show for me?

Then we had sex. I was wearing an ultra-thin, but I basically felt nothing. We tried various positions and the only time I felt anything was her on top. However it took 45 min for me to *** and I only felt anything like the last minute. Toward the end I didn't even try to prolong the pleasure because I thought I might lose the feeling, so I just came as quick as I could. After some cuddling, I got hard again and we tried to **** again, but I couldn't *** any more even from jacking off.

This is my first time laying a girl in my entire 27 years, so I am thinking that either I built sex up too much, or maybe I am too used to the vice grip of my fist. Is sex supposed to be pleasurable for the whole time you are ****ing? Does it get better with practice? Do you have any advice? BTW, her body totally turned me on and I felt kind of an emotional connection with her, so that wassnt a problem.

 

[ElChoclo]

Congratulations Cool, but I'm a bit concerned that you seemed to find the experience to be less than you expected. Frequently it can be less than momentous, but occasionally very satisfying.

There is a bit of judgement needed sometimes when doing preliminary stimulation. The porn literature might suggest that you can bring them to the brink and then down a lot but frequently this won't work. You might have to work up on a steady basis of escalation to actually intercourse. That is, get her hot and then get in.

I think you should get her to give you head instead of establishing the current modus operandi too much. Did she come? Hard to say, some signs can be a relaxing of the vaginal muscles and a feeling of increased lubrication immediately post orgasm. You might find that a useful method is to stick your finger in her rear to detect contractions of her sphincter during orgasm.

You might need to concentrate more for your own second orgasm. Admittedly a condom is a handicap for enjoyment. Luckily you got it up to begin with though. When it is your turn you should concentrate on your own needs first after you have provided for hers. Was this helpful?

 

[Bible_Belt]

Good for you, congrats.

It is an ugly fact of life that sex without a condom feels much better. Condoms are still a good idea, but some people dislike them more than others. Going without one is imo the biggest benefit of a LTR.

 

[realsmoothie]

Congrats, Cool.

First times are usually not very good... and I mean the first time with a new partner. You're just figuring stuff out together.

Also, every "fit" is different. Your wang may not be the best fit for her puss.

It's my experience that the longer a screw session goes, the harder it is to come. Things just get so lubricated and the girl gets looser and looser... you lose the friction.

My first time was terrible. I was 17, and was excited to be doing it, but I couldn't come at all after 3 hours.

The second time? WAY better.

From what I can tell, anyhow, I bet she did come. Good on ya. Do it again.

 

[rocky_mtn]

good job, from your post, it sounds like you satisfied her.

For some tight sex, if you are in the missionary position move her legs back so that they are next to her ears, or at least together and pointed straight up in front of you. You won't see anything but her legs, toes and ass. It gets tight in that position and will be good for her too.

I call that putting her "in the buck" because her 10 toes will look like antlers next to her head.

 

[NewMan]

Good job.

All I can say is, all women are different - and react in different ways.

I would advise you to communicate with her and ask her if this feels good, or that feels good etc. Find out what feels good for her - and you can tell her what feels good for you.

The more open you are the better the sex for both of you.

You will find that the more times you have sex with her, the better it will become.

 

[Drum&Bass]

your 27 (late bloomer), thats about the age where sex isn't that big of a deal...when your younger (at least for me) sex is like crack, but after going through the motions and your body aging it feels good but its more of a mental thing now as opposed to when I was younger where it was more physical.

Your 1st time f-cking YOU ARE NOT GONNA FIND THE G-SPOT trust me...just hit the cl!t and f-ck in different positions you'll know she's enjoying it because she will convulse and you'll know she cums after she becomes so sensitive that she literally will kick or push you off of her..then she'll act like she won the lotto and do favors for you like cook after words (no lie).

and contrary to what anyone tells you or what you might think MOST (if not all) women won't orgasm just from you sticking your c@ck in her, unless she's on top grinding her cl!t on you.

and like NewMan said, COMMUNICATION IS A MUST if your not talking to her guiding her and having her guide you, sex will be boring for her and she aint gonna be f-cking you ever again unless you got alot of money.

 

[Arsinel]

Damn, that's awful! Your'e pathetic.

 

[realsmoothie]

Damn, that's awful! Your pathetic.

No, "YOU'RE" pathetic.

LOL

 

[Arsinel]

Dammit! I forgot to edit that!

 

[Big Eee Zee]

no, i totally get where he's coming from.

my first time sucked. in fact, it took a while for me to get good. I like to think im a bit better now, tho...

 

[Doctormad]

Congratulations, dude.

The good news is that you finally did it, and it will get better...a lot better. When I got laid for the first time, I barely felt anything either. Heck, I even asked myself.....is this it? Is this what I have been obsessing over for ages?

Allow yourself to have sex a few more times before you worry about taking too long to orgasm. Nerves can do that to a first timer.

 

[blueguy]

Congrats

 

[CoolRunning]

We did it again, this time sober. I'm positive she came twice, she was screaming, telling me not to stop, bucking her hips, her vagina clamped on my finger, etc. It was so hot.

Also, it felt a lot better this time too. Part of it might be I went off Zoloft.

 

[STR8UP]

We did it again, this time sober. I'm positive she came twice, she was screaming, telling me not to stop, bucking her hips, her vagina clamped on my finger, etc. It was so hot.

Also, it felt a lot better this time too. Part of it might be I went off Zoloft.

Zoloft will fukk you up in the sex department. Just got off of it myself for anxiety issues. When I was on it sex wasn't even close to the same. At best it took me forever to come, and it didn't feel like it should once it happened. At worst it was difficult to get and stay hard, and impossible to come.

Been off the stuff for several weeks now and I'm happy to say that all of the equipment is 100% back in order