I felt in love but girls doesn't seem like she want me

[nelysses]

First of all my english isn't so good, sorry for that. Also it's a long story. I hope you all guys read this and help me with that. Thank you from now.

When I first came to university, I was very sluggish. I'm better now, but the only girl I liked was talking behind my back about this issue.
She didn't reply to my message last night. When we talk face to face a few days later, she's fine, but in general, if I don't try to talk, she won't even come and say good morning to me.
In general, she is a socially troubled girl. In fact, she only has 1 or 2 friends.

We followed this girl on Instagram, but she unfollowed me after a few months. Her best and only friend sent a request by mistake and withdrew it. I mean, the girl knows that I like her a lot, but despite that, as I said above, I can't say that she really cares about me.
Ah, but this is where the problem begins. The fact that he released it 2 months after accepting my request, and the glances I received from time to time make me wonder, did he expect a step from me and I didn't take it?

On the advice of a friend, I tried to talk a little. If I go and talk to her, we're fine, but as I said, the girl has unfollowed me, she's been seen on the move, she doesn't talk to me if I don't talk, and when I talk, the conversation doesn't flow smoothly (this could also be due to the social problems I mentioned. It just wasn't like that for me).

The last time I saw her was having coffee with someone she had just met. I don't know if it's a date-like thing.

When I consider these, the logical thing is to let the girl go, but what do you think?

I mean, I'll let her go, but I was too slow towards the girl. How many months have passed and we still chat can count on the fingers of one hand. So, I wonder if the girl is waiting for concrete and brave steps.

 

[nelysses]

No ideas?

 

[holidayad_]

You have to move on, bro. She is not interested and you are hurting yourself. Talking to other girls is the best medicine to avoid oneitis.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

The answers to these questions are almost always the same.

1. Find more women to meet/talk with. This woman is so important to you only because you have no other options at the moment, so her value is far higher than it should be or would be if you had other options.

2. Work on your social interactions with people and women in general. It seems like you are not very good at them and should be practicing as much as possible, talking to people when out and about and interacting with them. I'm not even talking about trying to talk with women. Just say Hello to everyone you walk by and randomly start small talk with people when the opportunity arises. The only way to become better at this sort of thing is to practice and you should be practicing in all situations that become available, not just with women you want to date. Being in tune socially is HUGE in terms of dating women. If you can't talk, excite, communicate and engage them in conversation your chance of anything good happening is very low. Realistically you will just continue having these awkward interactions where you don't know how to act or what to say otherwise.

Now...with that in mind, you will likely need some time before you start seeing noticeable improvements. This takes practice and work, like anything else in life that a person isn't naturally good at. Everyone has their strengths and weaknesses and people have to work harder than normal to improve things they are weak at initially. That's OK. Recognize this and do not become discouraged when you may continue having the same issues for the first few weeks. Slowly you will start seeing and noticing improvements. Slowly you'll realize that interactions are becoming more positive and you are dating much better during them and getting more and more positive responses.

But don't be afraid to fail at first. In fact, failure is almost necessary in any endeavor you do where you are not very good at it starting out. You have to learn by trial and error a lot of times and failure is the only way to do it. Don't run from it, embrace it. That's where all your future success will stem from.

 

[SW15]

1. Find more women to meet/talk with. This woman is so important to you only because you have no other options at the moment, so her value is far higher than it should be or would be if you had other options.

Scarcity mentality is a HUGE problem. It's a common trait with beta males. Most men are beta males.

I am fortunate that I live in one of the biggest cities in the USA and can talk to women in-person rather easily. I can go to an approach session on an outdoor walking path nearly any time there's daylight and decent weather. The women might not be receptive but if I stand out there long enough (multiple hours), I can get in some approaches. It might not be efficient but at least it is quantity.

@nelysses is at a university so he has access to more unmarried women than I have as a post-college worker guy in a big city. Even in a big city, finding receptive women can be challenging, even if I perceive abundance in quantity.

2. Work on your social interactions with people and women in general. It seems like you are not very good at them and should be practicing as much as possible, talking to people when out and about and interacting with them. I'm not even talking about trying to talk with women. Just say Hello to everyone you walk by and randomly start small talk with people when the opportunity arises. The only way to become better at this sort of thing is to practice and you should be practicing in all situations that become available, not just with women you want to date. Being in tune socially is HUGE in terms of dating women. If you can't talk, excite, communicate and engage them in conversation your chance of anything good happening is very low.

There's been an erosion of social skills in the last 2 full generations to come of age. Both Millennials and Gen Z have had poorer social skills than previous generations. Given that the oldest Millennials are now around 40 years old, this is astounding. There are 40 year olds now out there that have had poor social skills for a while. The increasing dependence on technology has eroded social skills in the last 20-25 years.

 

[LTG71]

Sounds like she is not interested. When you talk to her face to face and she engages, she is just being polite. The fact that she unfollowed you means she doesn’t want to create a connection with you. Women love free attention from a collection of back burner guys. The mere fact that she never initiates and cut you off is a sign she doesn’t find you attractive nor are you her type. Oh well, move on and don’t waste your time trying to unravel the female mind which is ruled by chaos and irrational logic.

Exhibit A- The last time I saw her was having coffee with someone she had just met. I don't know if it's a date-like thing.

Actions speak louder than words. Forget this chic and move on

 

[Mike32ct]

It’s less than even friendzone. It’s “I can tolerate him as sort of an acquaintance sometimes” zone.

You didn’t miss an opportunity here. She’s just not interested. It’s ok. Just move on.

 

[nelysses]

Thank you all guys.
I just wanted to try even i have %1 change but it seems lower than %1
Actually i did it to myself. I just wanted to love her.
So i have a other question. I read pook and the pdf when i come in to website. So are they enough. I have problems with sociality.

It’s less than even friendzone. It’s “I can tolerate him as sort of an acquaintance sometimes” zone.

You didn’t miss an opportunity here. She’s just not interested. It’s ok. Just move on.

Sounds like she is not interested. When you talk to her face to face and she engages, she is just being polite. The fact that she unfollowed you means she doesn’t want to create a connection with you. Women love free attention from a collection of back burner guys. The mere fact that she never initiates and cut you off is a sign she doesn’t find you attractive nor are you her type. Oh well, move on and don’t waste your time trying to unravel the female mind which is ruled by chaos and irrational logic.

Exhibit A- The last time I saw her was having coffee with someone she had just met. I don't know if it's a date-like thing.

Actions speak louder than words. Forget this chic and move on

Sounds like she is not interested. When you talk to her face to face and she engages, she is just being polite. The fact that she unfollowed you means she doesn’t want to create a connection with you. Women love free attention from a collection of back burner guys. The mere fact that she never initiates and cut you off is a sign she doesn’t find you attractive nor are you her type. Oh well, move on and don’t waste your time trying to unravel the female mind which is ruled by chaos and irrational logic.

Exhibit A- The last time I saw her was having coffee with someone she had just met. I don't know if it's a date-like thing.

Actions speak louder than words. Forget this chic and move on

Scarcity mentality is a HUGE problem. It's a common trait with beta males. Most men are beta males.

I am fortunate that I live in one of the biggest cities in the USA and can talk to women in-person rather easily. I can go to an approach session on an outdoor walking path nearly any time there's daylight and decent weather. The women might not be receptive but if I stand out there long enough (multiple hours), I can get in some approaches. It might not be efficient but at least it is quantity.

@nelysses is at a university so he has access to more unmarried women than I have as a post-college worker guy in a big city. Even in a big city, finding receptive women can be challenging, even if I perceive abundance in quantity.



There's been an erosion of social skills in the last 2 full generations to come of age. Both Millennials and Gen Z have had poorer social skills than previous generations. Given that the oldest Millennials are now around 40 years old, this is astounding. There are 40 year olds now out there that have had poor social skills for a while. The increasing dependence on technology has eroded social skills in the last 20-25 years.

The answers to these questions are almost always the same.

1. Find more women to meet/talk with. This woman is so important to you only because you have no other options at the moment, so her value is far higher than it should be or would be if you had other options.

2. Work on your social interactions with people and women in general. It seems like you are not very good at them and should be practicing as much as possible, talking to people when out and about and interacting with them. I'm not even talking about trying to talk with women. Just say Hello to everyone you walk by and randomly start small talk with people when the opportunity arises. The only way to become better at this sort of thing is to practice and you should be practicing in all situations that become available, not just with women you want to date. Being in tune socially is HUGE in terms of dating women. If you can't talk, excite, communicate and engage them in conversation your chance of anything good happening is very low. Realistically you will just continue having these awkward interactions where you don't know how to act or what to say otherwise.

Now...with that in mind, you will likely need some time before you start seeing noticeable improvements. This takes practice and work, like anything else in life that a person isn't naturally good at. Everyone has their strengths and weaknesses and people have to work harder than normal to improve things they are weak at initially. That's OK. Recognize this and do not become discouraged when you may continue having the same issues for the first few weeks. Slowly you will start seeing and noticing improvements. Slowly you'll realize that interactions are becoming more positive and you are dating much better during them and getting more and more positive responses.

But don't be afraid to fail at first. In fact, failure is almost necessary in any endeavor you do where you are not very good at it starting out. You have to learn by trial and error a lot of times and failure is the only way to do it. Don't run from it, embrace it. That's where all your future success will stem from.

You have to move on, bro. She is not interested and you are hurting yourself. Talking to other girls is the best medicine to avoid oneitis.

 

[nelysses]

Also I'm tired guys. I don't know why but as i said after my 1st class i don't like any girls except this one. And this one is 180cm, vety good physic. He goes gym every single day she has abs...

 

[Bingo-Player]

Unfortunately for men there will come times where we Will meet women that will instantly cast a spell over us

When energies between a man and a woman connect its very very difficult to ignore the chemistry , it happens more often when you are in your 20's

Ive been with girls where I couldn't care less if I never spoke to them again , and they were the ones that always wanted me badly

Then every couple of years I'll meet a chick I'm really into like crazily into

she will usually be less into me and then no matter what I do I can't get it over the line because I can't think properly

I'll never forget when I was like 24 a chick I had bad oneitis for spent most of the night with me and then ended up just going home with another guy it was savage but it taught me very important lessons and toughened me up a bit

Its a mindset thing you want them bad so you do and say stupid stuff

 

[Bokanovsky]

No ideas?

Have you considered kidnapping her?

P.S. The above is a joke. Get a hold of yourself.

 

[nelysses]

Unfortunately for men there will come times where we Will meet women that will instantly cast a spell over us

When energies between a man and a woman connect its very very difficult to ignore the chemistry , it happens more often when you are in your 20's

Ive been with girls where I couldn't care less if I never spoke to them again , and they were the ones that always wanted me badly

Then every couple of years I'll meet a chick I'm really into like crazily into

she will usually be less into me and then no matter what I do I can't get it over the line because I can't think properly

I'll never forget when I was like 24 a chick I had bad oneitis for spent most of the night with me and then ended up just going home with another guy it was savage but it taught me very important lessons and toughened me up a bit

Its a mindset thing you want them bad so you do and say stupid stuff

Have you considered kidnapping her?

P.S. The above is a joke. Get a hold of yourself.

Man actually now i don't love this girl. I loved loving her. I hope it's right in English
tomorrow She comes and say me "i love you" I Will be bored in a few weeks i know. Because she isn't for me i know. But as i say i Love feeling in love. It's like im bored and tried to love her.
Buuut I know what was she wearing 2 years ago when i saw she first so i don't know.

Actually Sorry but i sometimes feel like i want sex. I masturbate 3 4 per day and when i jerk of i don't even think her

 

[Black Widow Void]

Welcome aboard.

Actually, you articulate better than some folks that have English as their first language.

You said something that a lot of people do not understand, but you are right. It's true. Sometimes, people can "be in love with the idea of being in love." It's fairly common, but a lot of people will not admit this to themselves. As long as you're willing to improve, you will and I'm sure that your game will get better.

Stick around and read various opinions. Let us all know if you have further questions. We're here to help out our fellow brother.
I'd also recommend that you look at articles on the main page. https://www.sosuave.com/

 

[LTG71]

Its a mindset thing you want them bad so you do and say stupid stuff

This is a funny observation. I kinda like the ones that me nervous when I’m flirting with them. Your brain goes a little bonkers while she is talking and you’re thinking, “man this chic is hot AF. I’d do her here on the spot.” Especially fun when she engages and is receptive.