NJdevils26430
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Awhile back a friend sent me a link to this site after I made a comment on myspace when asked the question, "Single, Why?" and i replied, "Becaues girls would rather be with a jerk then a guy like me." So now i've read a good amount of articles and posts here, and i've come to realize that there is not going to be one magical piece of advice that will make everything easy. So i'm just going to tell you my story and hope that I can gain something from your replies.
I figure some background information on me would help you better understand what i'm going through. I'm 19, somewhat shy and i've only asked 3 girls out and i've been on 1 date and it wasn't even with any of the 3 i asked out, the one date became a "relationship" if you can really even call it that, it lasted a little over a week.
Since finding this site and othes like it i've come to realize that I have to stop looking at situations and thining "that i have no chance at all".
So one day at work, i'm talking to one of my co-workers and in walks this girl who works in another department, she is just my type, so my co-worker says that i should go talk to her and i replied that he was crazy and that i have no chance at all with her.
A month or so later, she gets set up with a different co-worker of mine. They go out on a date, end up making out and the next morning she texts him and says that things are moving too fast and she breaks up with him. Now shes 17, a quiet girl, not many friends, people have told me that shes a loser and has no friends. That information didn't really bother me becaues it came from a person who dosen't really like her. Now throught the people that set them up, they end up back together for about a month. Doring this month, sometimes she dosen't talk to him and at one point the guy had to find out from a friend of hers if they where still going out.
Eventually she breaks up with him and says that she just wants to be friends. I though that was great, i was ready to make my move and ask her out. But there was problems, even thought i was told by the guy they had broken up, she still would come in and talk to him and it allmost seemed like they where still going out. So one day I decided to ask the guy whats going and he told me that he dosen't even talk to her or see her out side of work, except for the once or twice they went out with a group of friends bowling.
I didn't want to be a jerk and go behind my co-worker back and ask her out, so i decided to talk to him about. He told me to go for it, he all ready had met another girl, who is now his girlfriend.
So i wait her for to be somewhat alone and i go up to her and say that i think she the prettiest girl in the whole store and asked her if she would like to go out sometime. She smiled, she seemed falttered and said that she was kind of seeing someone. I left dissapointed and feeling like ****. So i went to my co-worker who she had be going out with to see if he was the guy she was kind of seeing, he replied "if it was me, it would be news to me."
Now eventually she finds out that he has a girlfriend and stops talking to him. I realized that I went about things the wrong way and i shouldn't have just went right up to her and asked her out, hell i've never even talked to her before that and i'm not even too sure if she knows my name. So now i so badly want to just go up to her and talk to her or even be able to just say hi but for some reason i can't do, i chicken out and i look at her and say to myself "what am i crazy why would girl like that want to be with me." I know its a bad way of thinking. I went to anther girl she works with to find out if she knew if she is seeing someone, she told me that i should ask her out. So now any chance that I see her i either chicken out completly or can't even bring my self to look at her.
The last girl i was really interested in, i got her number without even trying, we never ended up going out, but now i feel with this new girl i'm interested in, i'm going back to my old ways.
And can someone tell me what "hooking-up" means?
I posted this on another forum, and for some reason i withheld some information, so i'm hope to get a better response here.
I figure some background information on me would help you better understand what i'm going through. I'm 19, somewhat shy and i've only asked 3 girls out and i've been on 1 date and it wasn't even with any of the 3 i asked out, the one date became a "relationship" if you can really even call it that, it lasted a little over a week.
Since finding this site and othes like it i've come to realize that I have to stop looking at situations and thining "that i have no chance at all".
So one day at work, i'm talking to one of my co-workers and in walks this girl who works in another department, she is just my type, so my co-worker says that i should go talk to her and i replied that he was crazy and that i have no chance at all with her.
A month or so later, she gets set up with a different co-worker of mine. They go out on a date, end up making out and the next morning she texts him and says that things are moving too fast and she breaks up with him. Now shes 17, a quiet girl, not many friends, people have told me that shes a loser and has no friends. That information didn't really bother me becaues it came from a person who dosen't really like her. Now throught the people that set them up, they end up back together for about a month. Doring this month, sometimes she dosen't talk to him and at one point the guy had to find out from a friend of hers if they where still going out.
Eventually she breaks up with him and says that she just wants to be friends. I though that was great, i was ready to make my move and ask her out. But there was problems, even thought i was told by the guy they had broken up, she still would come in and talk to him and it allmost seemed like they where still going out. So one day I decided to ask the guy whats going and he told me that he dosen't even talk to her or see her out side of work, except for the once or twice they went out with a group of friends bowling.
I didn't want to be a jerk and go behind my co-worker back and ask her out, so i decided to talk to him about. He told me to go for it, he all ready had met another girl, who is now his girlfriend.
So i wait her for to be somewhat alone and i go up to her and say that i think she the prettiest girl in the whole store and asked her if she would like to go out sometime. She smiled, she seemed falttered and said that she was kind of seeing someone. I left dissapointed and feeling like ****. So i went to my co-worker who she had be going out with to see if he was the guy she was kind of seeing, he replied "if it was me, it would be news to me."
Now eventually she finds out that he has a girlfriend and stops talking to him. I realized that I went about things the wrong way and i shouldn't have just went right up to her and asked her out, hell i've never even talked to her before that and i'm not even too sure if she knows my name. So now i so badly want to just go up to her and talk to her or even be able to just say hi but for some reason i can't do, i chicken out and i look at her and say to myself "what am i crazy why would girl like that want to be with me." I know its a bad way of thinking. I went to anther girl she works with to find out if she knew if she is seeing someone, she told me that i should ask her out. So now any chance that I see her i either chicken out completly or can't even bring my self to look at her.
The last girl i was really interested in, i got her number without even trying, we never ended up going out, but now i feel with this new girl i'm interested in, i'm going back to my old ways.
And can someone tell me what "hooking-up" means?
I posted this on another forum, and for some reason i withheld some information, so i'm hope to get a better response here.
