I feel so lonely

[forever22alone]

Hi everyone.

I'm 19 years old and never had or kissed a girl. I'm not the 'hot' guy the girls are looking for since I am not that big or muscular, but I have cute/pretty face, at least I think lol.

I had many chances to have a girl, but I blowed it. Now, the past 2 years I am really unlucky, every girl rejects me, even the ones I tought I had chances.

And now I am really fast going like, I met some really nice girl, she had such cute smile, but I asked her really quickly after adding her on facebook to go out, she didn't responded and I apologized for being stupid and boring, and we never chatted since that.

I can name 10 girls in past few months who rejected me for relationship or going out, so my confidence really can't be good. I just cant, I fall in love too quickly and then get depressed, I cant i just cant. I am feeling like this for years, it's too much to handle for me, my life was (and still is) pretty hard, when I was a kid I saw so much violence and got bullied as well, but not anymore since I got stronger, or whatever.

I lie to people that I had girls, giving advices like I am expert in love hahah, noone knows.. People hurt me very often.

Hmm, i wish I get some better computer so i could be a happy forever alone, i dont even have that, not even stu*id games to keep me entertained...

Advices on forums didnt helped me ever but who knows, maybe this time, or i'm just making me feel better after writing to you guys....
Noone knows how much I suffer... And I would do anything for girl I like, really anything...
dont know what to do, just too much problems and lonelines for one person.

 

[ARrocket]

It's good that you're meeting a lot of people, but you have to change whom you're meeting.

You have to make guy friends and build a social circle before you can be happy. Then once you're happier, you can meet girls. The important thing is to realize that the girls don't bring happiness, happiness brings the girls. Try to internalize that, and proceed accordingly.

Are you in university? Time to join some clubs/intramural sports/etc, meet people on your floor if you live in a dorm, take baby steps towards getting some people you can hang out with, and you'll be better off.

 

[Darth]

Noone knows how much I suffer... And I would do anything for girl I like, really anything...
dont know what to do, just too much problems and lonelines for one person.

Sir,
You can't truly love others if you don't love yourself. Being willing to do anything for the girl is great- but is it really for the girl or because of some psychological void you are trying to fill by her affections? Friend, for you it is back to the drawing board (I did this, too). It is the only way to feel better. It is time to look inside yourself and deal with any past trauma/social problems/parents/etc. from childhood. These things are always symptoms of a larger problem. Good luck.

 

[forever22alone]

Sir,
You can't truly love others if you don't love yourself. Being willing to do anything for the girl is great- but is it really for the girl or because of some psychological void you are trying to fill by her affections? Friend, for you it is back to the drawing board (I did this, too). It is the only way to feel better. It is time to look inside yourself and deal with any past trauma/social problems/parents/etc. from childhood. These things are always symptoms of a larger problem. Good luck.

Well i had witnissed fights at home in my childhood and i dont want to talk about it really i alredy said too much, but i dont see the connection between that and the girls who dont like me or ignore me..

 

[Duracell_Bunny]

Hey forever22alone and welcome to the forum.

First of all your member name suggests to me that you are incorrectly using your time on the internet -> Stop looking at those memes and checkout out the DJ bible (linked all other this forum) instead.

I too "myself" was alone. I didn't truly blossom until I reached 25 when I had my first girlfriend. Before that, I was stuck at home playing computer games.

From experience it really is true, that the most important thing is to surround yourself with good quality people. Just do anything to get out of the house, like going for a run. Even if you don't have the energy, go for a walk instead around somewhere scenic. Find a local club, a boxing gym would be perfect and they always welcome first timers. You don't need a friend, go alone.

Eventually you want to get your weekly schedule filled up with lots of activities.

You may find that when you succeed with the first woman your can either get a little nervous, have clouded vision (thinking is she interested etc) once you are over the initial hill its all good

BTW I agree that at a young age I would just have as much fun as you can. Most chicks in their early twenties and younger, are not yet looking for anything serious and you shouldn't take them too seriously.

I could type an endless post, but really the only thing that you can learn from is experience: school teaches us to learn about life, but we truly learn from our mistakes in life.

My biggest regret ever was not doing these things when I was younger, I wasted years.

As I say JUST GET OUT and don't be stuck in front of your computer.

 

[forever22alone]

You're right. I will, i wont give up especially because of the people who would love to see me fall down...

 

[Darth]

You're right. I will, i wont give up especially because of the people who would love to see me fall down...

No, that's revenge. You should never do anything to spite other people- that will never give you fulfillment.

Well i had witnissed fights at home in my childhood and i dont want to talk about it really i alredy said too much, but i dont see the connection between that and the girls who dont like me or ignore me..

That's the wrong answer. This is your life. You can't erase what happened. Until you be a man and face up to your past, you can never grow.

(maybe I should go into psychology; I'm not bad at this if I do say so myself)

 

[Purefilth]

No, that's revenge. You should never do anything to spite other people- that will never give you fulfillment.

I think Darth means that you should do this FOR YOU.

Not to spite others. Focus on YOU and ignore the negatives.

 

[muscleman]

Go to the gym and start lifting weights. It'll make you look better, boost your confidence, and make you more attractive.

Also, start by reading the DJ Bible here and go through the tips section.

 

[corrector]

Go to the gym and start lifting weights. It'll make you look better, boost your confidence, and make you more attractive.

Also, start by reading the DJ Bible here and go through the tips section.

That's a crap shoot. It works for some people but not for others. Just because you gain some muscle doesn't mean women are going to come out of the woodwork and you are going to be an instant playboy. To have body most women actually like is going to take allot of investment.

DJ'S and tips just give you a temporary false hope high then afterwards you are back to the same old self. Most people that are good on here are either naturals or just fluked it or have the looks.

 

[NobodyCares1]

That's a crap shoot. It works for some people but not for others. Just because you gain some muscle doesn't mean women are going to come out of the woodwork and you are going to be an instant playboy. To have body most women actually like is going to take allot of investment.

DJ'S and tips just give you a temporary false hope high then afterwards you are back to the same old self. Most people that are good on here are either naturals or just fluked it or have the looks.

Of course women aren't going to chase you like in an AXE commercial just because you have muscles, but trust me you'll notice a difference. You don't even have to have six pack and perfecly shaped body just some muscles will do the difference. Of course a six pack would be another bonus.

I've noticed the biggest difference when I began working out before the summer, the school ended and I had two months of holiday, I was working out heavily, gained some mass, but I'm not ripped. Still when I came back to school I've heared girls saying stuff like "Look at NobodyCares1, he looks much better."

When I was walking and some of my female classmates were walking behind me "NobodyCares1 looks good, look at his ass." Of course they thought I don't hear them.

 

[perseverance]

I love this forum.

"My wife has cheated on me and taken my children away", the answer to that person's problem is "Go to the gym and lift some weights".

"I went to Thailand on a holiday and I hooked up with a girl with a penis and not only that she had a much larger penis than I, oh woe is me for I am woe". The answer to this person's problem is "Go to the gym and lift some weights".

 

[alphamailman]

I love this forum.

"My wife has cheated on me and taken my children away", the answer to that person's problem is "Go to the gym and lift some weights".

"I went to Thailand on a holiday and I hooked up with a girl with a penis and not only that she had a much larger penis than I, oh woe is me for I am woe". The answer to this person's problem is "Go to the gym and lift some weights".

:crackup: But it's all good because foreign women are looking to marry socially-retarded juiceheads for a green card.

 

[glass half full]

First off, welcome to the forum. There's a lot of good info here. Just be careful not to build up a bad attitude here, what you want to think of is gaining knowledge about women, and you will learn some things about youself too. Guys do have an attitude here sometimes, mainly from dealing with disruptive women, in some form. Try not to absorb that part, just try to learn. And when you have problems, we want to hear from you. Sometimes you gotta unload the negative things among like-minded folks to learn.

One thing on your side is time. You have a long life ahead, so don't feel burdened by time. It will be good to get out among people, join some groups of people who have a common interest, could be anything- bike riding, horses, bingo(most towns have this), woodcrafting, anything. These things are probably geared more for older generation, but you get the idea.
Try different things, see whet you like and watch what kinds of people are in these groups, and hang with the ones you think will be beneficial in your life.
Try not to come across too needy, but if invited, give it a try if desired.
Working out, yoga, etc. is good for your mind, body and spirit. Religion may be good if you're inclined. Getting in good physical shape is always a plus. Basically anything you can do to better youself is good. Just be patient, but stick to it. And most importantly, keep a good attitude and a level head. If you lose your cool, people don't forget. If you hold grudges or vow revenge, you may do things for the wrong reason, and this will come back to bite you. And do absorb all tips on this site, they are very helpful. One thing you will learn here, and definately in life, is that women can be a trying being to have a relationship with. Avoid jealousy at all costs(really). Don't be a pushover for a woman, because once started, you're stuck. Remember to do for yourself, not to cater to her every whim. Good luck