I feel like a piece of **** right now (clubbing)

evasive

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I fricken approach like 8 different girls, ask to dance, get rejected by ALL of them. i mean wtf.......

My friend is sitting down on a couch, and a girl walks up to him and asks "r u single?.. "let me smell ur cologne" "u smell good" lets dance, etc etc..
he ends up going home with her...............when hes acting desperate like a mofo

man wtf....i'm not even bad looking, in good shape, i fricken approach like crazy....put in effort and nothing happens..

Is there any people here who have experienced this? just rejection after rejection, even by ugly chicks
 

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See you gotta think about this alright.

Why would you let someone else make you FEEL the way your feeling...?
Why would you give someone else that much POWER over you...?
Most of all why do you even care...?

I know how you feel about clubs and trust me I got rejected by a lot of girls too and I'm a good looking dude. Yo I got rejected by a fat girl in a CLUB who should have been happy that I gave her the attention she probably never gets. Trust me 90% of the girls you wouldn't even look at in real life outside the club. They would be nobody's because dark-light and makeup is what makes them look good in a club. Don't worry about your friend by the way because in the long run he will never learn the tools he needs to SUCCESSFULLY get the women that he desires because they will always be INITIATING which is what he would be relying on. You get what I'm saying.

It's kind of like someone only eats when another person feeds them but they actually don't make the effort to get food for themselves. YOU are actually taking control of your life and doing something, taking action, making a conscious choice where the rest of the world like your friend just wait for things to happen. Never really do anything but sleep throughout their lives. Just keep at it bruh and enjoy the process learn to dettach yourself from these types of situations..

You'll be alright.
 

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sorry man thats how it is in clubs. women have all the choice and because of it they reject most guys. i've encountered htis problem myself.
 

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I don't know about you guys but I think you should NEVER ask a girl to dance as an opener. Stay away from the dance floor! If after you successfully open a girl and reach the point where she's showing interest, THEN you can ask her to dance if YOU want to.
 

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My friend is sitting down on a couch, and a girl walks up to him and asks "r u single?.. "let me smell ur cologne" "u smell good" lets dance, etc etc..
he ends up going home with her...............when hes acting desperate like a mofo
your friend understands something YOU or most guys on this forum REFUSE to accept.

women DO THE CHOOSING.

women choose who they go home with.

running in their face saying a corny line won't get you laid. sorry. she has to LIKE who you are. wether that means she has to like your STYLE, your LOOKS, your COLOGNE, your MIND, your game, etcc.. she has got to LIKE something about you.

you need to be able to create a need in her... to make her believe you can provide her something that most guys can't give her.

you need to really learn what women want instead of running in their faces with some corny pick up artist lines. you and everyone else who isnt getting success on this website.

trust me. i was in the same spot as you guys. it took me years to finally get it and understand what women want. thats why i wrote a damn ebook on the subject but some of you guys are too stubborn or lazy to read 100 something pages..
 

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If you want every single piece of advice than look up my All your clubbing questions answered here thread. This is the best piece of information on the club game that you will find anywere on any seduction site. I have been clubbing over 1000 times so I know the game in and out. Feel free to ask me a question on that thread and I will give you a good answer.
 

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Never ask to dance. -Never- ask to dance. okay?

Some different ways are moving side to side, dancing by yourself (did it every night in europe and usually would end up dancing with some girls after)... Or get a conversation going, get some vibe and rapport, then take her hand and lead her out on the dance floor.

Lead, do not ask permission.

Have fun while you're at the club, laugh with your buds, have a couple drinks if you're into that, then look for the girls who are making eye contact or checking you out. Girls are generally better than guys at getting caught checking someone out, so you may only see her looking at you once. But the girls that give you EC or check you out at the club are the ones you want to approach, and will be more receptive to your advances.

Keep it up, you're out there trying hard and it may not seem like it now, but all these experiences will build a knowledge base that you will keep building on during your journey of self improvement.
 

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there is no rhyme or reason to a lot of it. Don't compare yourself to others ie your friend. Just chalk the night up to lesbians and try to do better next time
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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evasive said:
My friend is sitting down on a couch, and a girl walks up to him and asks "r u single?.. "let me smell ur cologne" "u smell good" lets dance, etc etc..
he ends up going home with her...............when hes acting desperate like a mofo
So let me get this straight, your friend is acting desperate by "sitting down on a couch"? Hate to say it, but your jealousy makes me think you are the one that is desperate.

Can you go into more detail about how he was acting "desperate"? And who knows, maybe thats they type of guy she likes.
 

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^ I was surprised no one mentioned that irony right there until now.

Try this next time.

Go to the club with some buddies/girls whatever.Have a blast.While with your friends,scope the area once in a while.If you do this,I GUARANTEE you will see some girls who arent having the greatest time be looking right at you.Keep observing and you will notice some IOI's but dont focus your attention on them instead just be relaxing with your crew(however big it is,doesnt matter as long as you look like your having a blast)

NOW you will begin to see what girls are giving you the looks and what girls ARE NOT.Isnt this a much better way to get noticed and to have more of a positive effect on your results?Now instead of approaching a random babe who maybe hasnt even seen you all night and is a bit stunned to have a random guy go up to her,your odds are much higher by getting the EC and the smile from someone who is inviting you to go talk to her (subconsciously)
 

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Metaphysical said:
your friend understands something YOU or most guys on this forum REFUSE to accept.

women DO THE CHOOSING.

women choose who they go home with.

running in their face saying a corny line won't get you laid. sorry. she has to LIKE who you are. wether that means she has to like your STYLE, your LOOKS, your COLOGNE, your MIND, your game, etcc.. she has got to LIKE something about you.

you need to be able to create a need in her... to make her believe you can provide her something that most guys can't give her.

you need to really learn what women want instead of running in their faces with some corny pick up artist lines. you and everyone else who isnt getting success on this website.

trust me. i was in the same spot as you guys. it took me years to finally get it and understand what women want. thats why i wrote a damn ebook on the subject but some of you guys are too stubborn or lazy to read 100 something pages..

the reason for this is because your trying to charge for something we can get for free... you learnt from here and managed to write an ebook, theres nothing stopping anyone else doing the same without having to pay for some stupid ebook
 

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scribblec said:
you learnt from here and managed to write an ebook
i didn't learn from here. i am here to teach. in fact i spent 4 years of my teen life on online forums and i did not learn a single damn thing except PUA gibberish and terms and analyzing.

i only learned when i got into the pimp game. it wasn't until i put my hand on the first pimp book that i was able to learn something. what i am teaching is part of the pimp game, but toned down so the average guy can understand it.

i teach how to make women fall under your spell, literally and be almost hypnotized by you. the same way a pimp will hypnotize women so strongly that they are willing to do anything to be with him, even if it means going on the street and selling puu$$y by the hour.

that is the type of power that i enjoy having and that is the only way to live your life in the game.

live as a king, not a punk.
 

Don't always be the one putting yourself out for her. Don't always be the one putting all the effort and work into the relationship. Let her, and expect her, to treat you as well as you treat her, and to improve the quality of your life.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Metaphysical said:
i didn't learn from here. i am here to teach. in fact i spent 4 years of my teen life on online forums and i did not learn a single damn thing except PUA gibberish and terms and analyzing.

i only learned when i got into the pimp game. it wasn't until i put my hand on the first pimp book that i was able to learn something. what i am teaching is part of the pimp game, but toned down so the average guy can understand it.

i teach how to make women fall under your spell, literally and be almost hypnotized by you. the same way a pimp will hypnotize women so strongly that they are willing to do anything to be with him, even if it means going on the street and selling puu$$y by the hour.

that is the type of power that i enjoy having and that is the only way to live your life in the game.

live as a king, not a punk.
i cant believe i wasted 30 seconds reading that, at the end of the day your trying to make money off these chumps, someone would have to be stupid to actually buy ur ebook and i hope when they do they just release it for free to everyone, stop advertising ur **** in every single thread its getting tiresome...
 

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im sorry you can't afford $20 for some advice which will change your life, but there's been dozens of people in the last 2 weeks since i've had it up who bought it and have been giving me very positive feedback on it.

got one dude on MSN praising how great it is even just now as i'm writing this.
 

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evasive said:
Is there any people here who have experienced this? just rejection after rejection, even by ugly chicks
yeah, just pm Elstud...
 

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i have been rejected by the ugs, though i have had some obsess about me before. believe it or not, some of those ugs think their hot **** and demand an abercrombie model, it's os ****ing hillarious
 

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Metaphysical said:
im sorry you can't afford $20 for some advice which will change your life, but there's been dozens of people in the last 2 weeks since i've had it up who bought it and have been giving me very positive feedback on it.

got one dude on MSN praising how great it is even just now as i'm writing this.
obviously its not about 20 dollars, how can someone with a laptop and internet access not have 20 dollars... the point is i would rather spend that 20 dollars on **** then buy your ebook just out of principle.

if anything im considering buying it just to have it on my signature and letting people download it for free. then how do u plan on fleecing 20 dollars out of the good members of this forum as it seems to be ur primary mode of advertising
 

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