I dunno why i suck so bad

[Legend]

Man i really suck at being a DJ...i cant get laid with a pocket full of $100s in a $5 ***** house.

Everything seems to be going wrong, girls really dont seem to like me at all. I try to keep busy with school and my hobbies but its killing me everyday i dont fool around with a girl. Its been almost 3 months since i have gotten laid...and about 3 weeks since i kissed a chick.


The girl that i have liked the past two years dumped me and said that mean and her can only have fun as friends. I really dont know what that means but i have'nt seen her in person for the past month or so. She would rather look to the floor then say hi to me.

I get so many highs and lows it drives me nuts.....i dont know why i cant find a decent girl that shows interest in me. Normally when i talk to some girls they dont even look me in the face!!

I stopped working out, dont really eat that much anymore so i lost weight. I was 180 6'1 now i am like 165 pounds.......

Is there anyway to attach a file in here...i can post a pic of myself it that can help with better advice. I have it under my documents on my pc...how can i post it on this board?


I dont get how everybody seems to have great relationships around me. Most of the girls i know would rather hang out with there female friends then give me the time of day.

I am a Chemistry and MIS major at school and is always busy but it still does'nt keep my mind off things.

I told my past girl i sorta miss her...she fvcking told me i was acting weird!!!! I was like weird!?! I have never been called that before so it got to me.

Am i just meant to spend my life alone? It sure ****ing seems like it....

I have tons of guy friends but its mostly a waste hanging out with them because i would rather spend the lil time i do have to hang out with a lady.

It just sucks not being lusted by any good girls.....

My brother is in a LTR for the past 6 years.....i dont get how he can always pull such hot fvcking girls and i pull girls that are missin' teeth.


I am confident also....confident for what though..i have nothing to be confident for.


-John

 

[Skel]

"I stopped working out, dont really eat that much anymore so i lost weight. I was 180 6'1 now i am like 165 pounds......."


Sounds to me like you dont need to post a pic of yourself. Its not looks my friend, its your attitude. Stick out your chest and keep your head up.

 

[squirrels]

The way you approach life sucks. You focus on the negative things and act like you're somehow underpriveleged because you don't get any. Plus, you act like what girls think of you (romantically) has any bearing on the value of your life.

You want, you want, you want...but WHAT DO YOU HAVE TO GIVE?? Girls don't want to be with someone who's dependent on them to enjoy life. You know what's going to happen...you're going to get with some girl and as soon as you do, you're going to become dependent on her to have fun. You're going to become overprotective and smothering and you're going to have no love, no fun, no passion, no laughter to offer into the relationship in return. Eventually she'll get tired of you sucking fun from her like a parasite and drop you like a ton of bricks.

You get trolls because you don't have what it takes to interest the real babes and the fun girls.

Get up off your ass, take responsibility for yourself, and start fixing your attitude and your life.

 

[nan3109]

*****

 

[uniassign]

Just like anything in life, if you want to get better at something, you must work hard at it.

You must get out and approach women, meet more chicks and find your style of getting them. There is no use sitting in front of the computer and b!tch about what is bad about your life. No one will solve anything for you, you must go and fix it.

Get out there, do the newbie mission, get rejected and report back here what you did and ask for feedback.

Take it one step at a time, and you will get there. Most of the guys might be in a relationship, but are they really in a relationship of CHOICE - with the chick that they dream of (rather than just someone who they CONVINCE themselves is the dream girl).

This is a SKILLSET that could be mastered. You just have to work hard at it.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Legend you are 20 years old and you have a defeatist attitude so young??? YOU JUST GOT STARTED!!! Are you going to committ suicide at 40 if you don't have a girl in your life? You sure in the heck are, if you don't change your attitude!

You sound like you have a self-esteem problem - or self-image issue. Not exercising is not going to help it. Nor is pouting. You act like 3 months without a woman is an eternity! There are guys on this site who are yet virgins at 20. Your condition is not pathetic so why make it seem so.

When you told your ex that you 'missed her' - yes that does sound kind of wierd. Guys don't say shyt like that to a woman unless the woman initiates first. And I would never say that to an ex that broke up with me!! You do not look or sound manly saying such sentimental phrases.

This does show me that you tie your loneliness and state of happiness to the company of a woman. As long as you think like this you'll always be down and out because women now have control of your state of being and it no longer comes from within you. You will destroy yourself if you tie your happiness and well being to the presence of a woman.

You need to be more patient and don't base your self worth on how many woman you lay or if you have a girlfriend.

Legend, you are not living up to your name...

leg·end

leg·end (lej??nd) noun

One that inspires legends or achieves legendary fame.
Usage Note: The words legend and legendary have come to be used in recent years to refer to any person or achievement whose fame promises to be particularly enduring, even if its renown is created more by the media than by oral tradition.

 

[Legend]

PuertoRican_Lover

Thanks for always giving me kick a$$ advice man. I appreciate it

 

[FRANKtheTANK]

Originally posted by Legend

Everything seems to be going wrong, girls really dont seem to like me at all. I try to keep busy with school and my hobbies but its killing me everyday i dont fool around with a girl. Its been almost 3 months since i have gotten laid...and about 3 weeks since i kissed a chick.

Dude, just enjoy life! Enjoy those hobbies of yours. Enjoy them while your single. Enjoy the fact you don't have a girl. Enjoy life...The right girl for you will just fall into place. Don't stress it. It's a damn sham if you pissed your life away wishing for all the what if's in life.


The girl that i have liked the past two years dumped me and said that mean and her can only have fun as friends. I really dont know what that means but i have'nt seen her in person for the past month or so. She would rather look to the floor then say hi to me.

Stand tall and move on! Be a man and not harp on this *****

I get so many highs and lows it drives me nuts.....i dont know why i cant find a decent girl that shows interest in me. Normally when i talk to some girls they dont even look me in the face!!

Girls can sense if a guy has self-esteem issues. Once you start feeling good about yourself, they will be more interested in you.


I dont get how everybody seems to have great relationships around me. Most of the girls i know would rather hang out with there female friends then give me the time of day.

It's very natural for women to enjoy their female friends when you're new on the scene. It's tough to work around friendship...but you don't want to fvck around with friendships.

I am a Chemistry and MIS major at school and is always busy but it still does'nt keep my mind off things.

don't let this **** consume you. that's your problem!

I told my past girl i sorta miss her...she fvcking told me i was acting weird!!!! I was like weird!?! I have never been called that before so it got to me.

WTF is wrong with you! She's mental! LEAVE HER! First fvck is hard to get over with...but to be healthy you need to. Don't let first fvck cloud your thoughts and common sense.

Am i just meant to spend my life alone? It sure ****ing seems like it....

So you're 45 years old...oh wait subtract 25 years...YOURE 20!!!!! A life time is a long time and 20 is just so damn young! You're just getting on that highway of life, put that **** on cruise control and enjoy what you have when you have it!

I have tons of guy friends but its mostly a waste hanging out with them because i would rather spend the lil time i do have to hang out with a lady.

Enjoy that time with the guys because once you have a serious relationship your not going to have that much time with them.

My brother is in a LTR for the past 6 years.....i dont get how he can always pull such hot fvcking girls and i pull girls that are missin' teeth.

Does your brother even try to pick up girls? That could be why he doesn't have a problem with the ladies. What your problem is, is that youre stressing the fact of finding girls. It's like a fvucking time bomb for you. Don't stress it like it's a friggin' game. Act natural, it'll come together.


I am confident also....confident for what though..i have nothing to be confident for.

Nothing to be confident of...rethink that.


-John

John, all I can say is don't stress the little things. The business with finding the "right" girl is consuming you. What I suggest is that you enjoy your hobbies, enjoy your friends, enjoy everything that makes you happy. Along that way I'm sure you'll bump into an awesome girl that makes you happy. It's not about FINDING the right girl, it's about being at the right place when the right girl bumps into you. Also rule of thumb...It's unlikely to find serious girls looking for relationships at bars, clubs or raves. ****s NOT going to last nor work for the long run.

 

[ScrewIt]

dude...whoa man! Just slowly put down the shotgun...

I think the main problem is you're still into your ex but she isnt in to you and that's what's making you so pissed at everything.

If you want success in DJing other girls, i suggest you stop b eing so negative. they dont want a wuss complaining about their problems. they want a positive guy who has his $hit together and knows how to have fun.

Even if you're girl did consider taking you back, and she saw you're ACTING THIS WAY, she'd redump you in an instant!!
so get over her already and succk it in like a man!
Dude look you're still young 20, you still got your life ahead of you and so many chances to get laid....so no worries!