So I've been seeing this girl for 6 months and it's basically a oneitis... we're not in any sort of "official" relationship. We go out every week with each other, but both of us are allowed to see other people.
I love--or at the very least, am strongly infatuated by--this girl. Recently, I've gained a tremendous amount of power in the "relationship" (or whatever term can be used to describe whatever it is we are to one another). The girl I'm seeing is quite socially aware of herself, and seems to have noticed that I have almost total power now. Ever since her realization, she's been playing a lot of games that I personally view as an attempt to regain her previous undeniable power in our interactions.
I've invited her out for Valentine's Day, and she accepted. I do not plan to do anything particularly romantic with her, and am basically going to take her on an action date like I do every week. She herself told me that she does not celebrate Valentine's Day, although I can't help but think she's merely saying this because she has quite a bit of emotional baggage from a prior relationship (I know there are many people who might suggest that I should stay away from her because of this... but to be honest it hasn't caused any real problems in our interactions as of yet, so I'll cross that bridge when I get to it).
The only thing I had planned was to get her a small but meaningful Valentine's Day gift... and by small I mean that it will cost me less than 3 dollars. I'm a baller, I know. I am now thinking I won't even bother even getting the gift, because I've become so hell bent on not losing my current power that I even view this small gesture as somewhat supplicating. On the other side of the coin, I can't help but think it's silly to think a cheap but meaningful gift on a holiday devoted to this type of lovey dovey crap would really do that much damage.
As a footnote: I am a hopeless romantic at heart (or in other words, a textbook AFC who's currently trying his best to hide it). About a month ago I told her that I will no longer do anything romantic for her, that I don't want a relationship with anyone (including her) right now, and that I will no longer verbalize to her how I feel about her, because she knows how I feel about her already. Therefore, I also feel that getting her a gift on V-Day would also be contradicting my prior statement, and also possibly send the message that all her games have actually been working.
My question, in essence, is this: Should I stick to my guns, and not get her a gift because I personally (and possibly incorrectly) view it as supplicating? Or, will it do more damage than good to not do ANYTHING special with her on this holiday where something special is generally expected?
Deem this all to be an over-analysis on my part if you must, but a reply would be more than welcomed and appreciated.
I love--or at the very least, am strongly infatuated by--this girl. Recently, I've gained a tremendous amount of power in the "relationship" (or whatever term can be used to describe whatever it is we are to one another). The girl I'm seeing is quite socially aware of herself, and seems to have noticed that I have almost total power now. Ever since her realization, she's been playing a lot of games that I personally view as an attempt to regain her previous undeniable power in our interactions.
I've invited her out for Valentine's Day, and she accepted. I do not plan to do anything particularly romantic with her, and am basically going to take her on an action date like I do every week. She herself told me that she does not celebrate Valentine's Day, although I can't help but think she's merely saying this because she has quite a bit of emotional baggage from a prior relationship (I know there are many people who might suggest that I should stay away from her because of this... but to be honest it hasn't caused any real problems in our interactions as of yet, so I'll cross that bridge when I get to it).
The only thing I had planned was to get her a small but meaningful Valentine's Day gift... and by small I mean that it will cost me less than 3 dollars. I'm a baller, I know. I am now thinking I won't even bother even getting the gift, because I've become so hell bent on not losing my current power that I even view this small gesture as somewhat supplicating. On the other side of the coin, I can't help but think it's silly to think a cheap but meaningful gift on a holiday devoted to this type of lovey dovey crap would really do that much damage.
As a footnote: I am a hopeless romantic at heart (or in other words, a textbook AFC who's currently trying his best to hide it). About a month ago I told her that I will no longer do anything romantic for her, that I don't want a relationship with anyone (including her) right now, and that I will no longer verbalize to her how I feel about her, because she knows how I feel about her already. Therefore, I also feel that getting her a gift on V-Day would also be contradicting my prior statement, and also possibly send the message that all her games have actually been working.
My question, in essence, is this: Should I stick to my guns, and not get her a gift because I personally (and possibly incorrectly) view it as supplicating? Or, will it do more damage than good to not do ANYTHING special with her on this holiday where something special is generally expected?
Deem this all to be an over-analysis on my part if you must, but a reply would be more than welcomed and appreciated.
