At least, not when she's drunk.
About 2 months ago I started dating a girl who I've known for about 3 years. We are basically exclusive, she has asked about it a few times but I have held off on making it official since she might be moving away in 6 weeks. When I first met her, she was the typical crazy college party girl, drinking all the time. Now she rarely drinks. She told me this is because she doesn't like how wild she gets when she's drunk (in terms of hooking up with guys). Since we have been dating, we have gotten drunk together at parties 2-3 times. In those times, she has:
1) Kissed one of her orbiters (she claims it was right in front of me, but I don't remember seeing it)
2) Another one of her orbiters made out with her
I didn't see either of these occurrences, I heard about them afterwards through her. And honestly, I don't care. The other night, however, she got drunk and went out without me there. Later that night, we were lying in her room talking, and she said something to the effect of "I'm so glad I didn't mess this up by doing something dumb and sleeping with someone else tonight". This actually bothered me, which surprised me because it means I care about this girl more than I thought. She didn't remember anything in the morning. I didn't want to tell her about it, but apparently I was acting a bit weird in the morning and she knew something was up so I told her. She actually started crying she was so apologetic.
Unfortunately, however, I can only draw one logical conclusion from these events: I can't trust her when she's drunk. This is a problem because she's an absolute sweetheart when she's sober. I really don't know what to do about this. I do know that if she slept with someone else, I would cut things off with her because just the knowledge of it happening would turn hanging out with her into a very unpleasant experience for me. I should probably start spinning other plates, but I know it would break her heart (she has told me she couldn't handle me sleeping with someone else), and I already stopped dating a few other girls because they didn't interest me nearly as much as this girl.
So anyways, what would you guys do when facing this kind of disrespect? Am I completely over-thinking this? Is there a possibility that she's playing me?
About 2 months ago I started dating a girl who I've known for about 3 years. We are basically exclusive, she has asked about it a few times but I have held off on making it official since she might be moving away in 6 weeks. When I first met her, she was the typical crazy college party girl, drinking all the time. Now she rarely drinks. She told me this is because she doesn't like how wild she gets when she's drunk (in terms of hooking up with guys). Since we have been dating, we have gotten drunk together at parties 2-3 times. In those times, she has:
1) Kissed one of her orbiters (she claims it was right in front of me, but I don't remember seeing it)
2) Another one of her orbiters made out with her
I didn't see either of these occurrences, I heard about them afterwards through her. And honestly, I don't care. The other night, however, she got drunk and went out without me there. Later that night, we were lying in her room talking, and she said something to the effect of "I'm so glad I didn't mess this up by doing something dumb and sleeping with someone else tonight". This actually bothered me, which surprised me because it means I care about this girl more than I thought. She didn't remember anything in the morning. I didn't want to tell her about it, but apparently I was acting a bit weird in the morning and she knew something was up so I told her. She actually started crying she was so apologetic.
Unfortunately, however, I can only draw one logical conclusion from these events: I can't trust her when she's drunk. This is a problem because she's an absolute sweetheart when she's sober. I really don't know what to do about this. I do know that if she slept with someone else, I would cut things off with her because just the knowledge of it happening would turn hanging out with her into a very unpleasant experience for me. I should probably start spinning other plates, but I know it would break her heart (she has told me she couldn't handle me sleeping with someone else), and I already stopped dating a few other girls because they didn't interest me nearly as much as this girl.
So anyways, what would you guys do when facing this kind of disrespect? Am I completely over-thinking this? Is there a possibility that she's playing me?
