"I don't know you"... Failure to build rapport? Solutions?

squirrels

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Dunno what's up. I seem to be getting, "I don't know you" from girls I wanna take home.

One girl I saw earlier, we exchanged eye contact and she smiled. I chatted with her a little later, asked her about herself, tried to follow up. Felt like I got a good vibe, but she was hooked on hanging with her friend.

Then I ended up chatting up another girl, initiated kino, tried to get her to roll with me, but she bailed to her friend. Then I went back to the initial girl who I'd been talking to on and off (so as not to seem desperate), but she's like, "I don't know you". So I said, "Well then give me your phone number." Then her friend steps in and says, "Yeah, we're lesbians", blah blah blah, you know, the classic c**K-block.

So how do you "build rapport" with some bar chick you just want to f*** with? I seriously don't know what angle to take. I've tried just being scarce and spreading my attention so I don't seem that available, but it seems like they still pull that, "don't wanna leave without my friends" crap.

Any suggestions welcome. :)
 

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dont try to bring them home for the one night stand jus pick up the number

an approach i like to take is trading information

she tells you a lil bout her, you tell her a lil bout you

shes tells a story, u tell one later, catchin my drift?

think of woman as a long term investment

maybe itll take a while to get them into bed, but at your rate your never gonna get anyone to go home with you

another thing that id like to add is:

when going for numbers, you should not go get a girl's number, walk away and go talk to another girl.

picking up the number should be the last thing that you do b4 you leave.

so she doenst think that you are just playin her
 

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T'was last call, though. I was trying to play the ol' "Door in the face" deal...first I offered her a ride home...when too she wasn't game I asked for her number. She was all like, "I don't really know you."

I kinda let her do her thing until the end of the night, just hitting and then fading into the crowd.

Maybe too fast?
 

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you should never offer a ride

if she really wanted she would ask

if u 2 seemed to hit it off just ask for the # and bust

i know u wanted some action but it seems like this chick wasnt feelin you at all.
 

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It seemed like she didn't feel close enough to you yet. You might be either:

A) Not acting like you've been knowing her for a long time to gain fast rapport.

B) Making it too obvious that you just want the sex.

It would be easier on them if you just got their number and ask her out some other time. That would decrease the chance of her flaking.
 

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Yeah...I've been thinking about it and I'm probably just wanting too much too soon. :) I guess that can be kinda creepy LOL. Patience, patience...
 
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