'i dont give a fk' attitude

[slave_to_the_audio]

Hey there, long time lurker first time poster.
I stumbled upon this place a while ago (a year or two ago prolly) and it's contributed alot to me improving my life. I work out regularly now, i've gained alot of self confidence and its just set my life in the right direction.

A problem i'm having (and have been for ages) is that while i may not have social anxiety disorder or somthing like that, i just cant seem to stop negative thoughts flooding my brain and really fk'ing up the entirety or my social life. I regularly run into awkward silences whenever im talking with someone (this even happens when im talking to friends i've known for years, wtf) if i can even say anything at all or Ill just get real anxious whenever im out by myself and i get really awkward. I think I have the capacity to overcome this but right now i just feel like sh!t and this has been going on for a while.

I just really want to get that "I don't give a fvck" attitude so i can just go about focusing on the **** I really want out of life, for me. Don't think i haven't tried to just focus on what I want in life. A couple of years back there was a post that was in the bible (by pook or someone of equal standing around here) that really made me realize that I should focus on what i want in life and the importance of having goals. I've got goals in life and aspirations but normally I can't stop going over past social encounters in which I should've done this or that.

Anyway, is there any advice someone could give me on what I could do to attain that "I don't give a fvck" attitude, somthing like some steps I could take or things i could do cause right now I feel like im going nowhere

Thanks in advance and sorry about the long post

btw, the tips section has really filled up with alot of sh!t recently

 

[Morphiex]

Man, no one can give you the advice you want. Want to argue with me then go ahead but i speak the truth here. Two years you have been at this forum, surely, you must have seen some sort of improvement within yourself in that time, reading the massive amount of information that is contained here and regularly putting it into practice when you go out to meet women. You do Sarge regularly i presume?

Those silences happen to everyone, but the best guys, the real good conversationalists - They take Nothing and they turn it into Something, you can be sat at a bar, talking with a group of friends and chances are the entire group will run into a brick wall of silence...until someone pipes up with something they have SEEN, HEARD, SMELLED or ANYTHING that just popped into their head right there and then. How old are you mate? Im guessing your over the age of 16, are you telling me that those 16+ years that you have lived have been NOTHING, there has been:-

- NO ADVENTURES
- NO ASPIRATIONS
- NO SHORTCOMINGS
- NO FUN TIMES
- NO MAYHEM/MISHAPS/HURTFUL SITUATIONS
- NO JOKES TOLD
- NO GREAT TIMES WITH FAMILY???

Every situation that you have ever been in is a story in its OWN RIGHT! Talk about how you fell down a huge hill while camping, talk about how you used to flick caterpillars at girls when you were in kindergarten, talk about the great Christmas you had last year and how you got drunk, talk about your favourite sexual positions - any topic, no matter how boring can be spun into an emotional or intrigueing thread. By constantly putting yourself into Socially Pressured situations, where you have the opportunity to talk to lots of people in a short space of time ie Malls/Clubs/Parties/College/Work - you can vastly improve your conversation skills with progressive effort.

Only you can instill that I DONT GIVE A F**K attitude into YOU, no one else can - sure you can read and read and read until your eyes hurt, but at the end of the day - you will just be a more Knowledgeable Keyboard Jockey, only by getting out and practicing, applying everything that you have learnt and read can you hope to improve past the level that you are currently at.

Learn to Vibe, learn to Use and Read Body Language, learn to make interactions more positive and fun and try to gain genuine connections with everyone that you interact with.

Most importantly...never Limit yourself, always aim for the top and never fear to go for what you truly want!

Sarge On...

amen to that

 

[GloriouslyInsane]

Just throw a joke of the kind "So,X and Y go into a bar..."

 

[mrRuckus]

I just really want to get that "I don't give a fvck" attitude so i can just go about focusing on the **** I really want out of life, for me.

Hey man! Welcome to the board!

I'd love to help you with your problem... but i don't give a fvck