I did it.

[Alex DeLarge]

Made my way from the friendzone, to hooking up with this girl. Just to give you guys the back story, I have known this girl for 7ish years. I have asked her to be my girlfriend in the past and she has denied me. I have been the nice guy to her during those years, but tonight... I did it. I put my game to the test and hooked up with her.

To all you dudes posting on here. Do not listen to anyone's sh1t... It is possible to exit the friendzone.

Read the book of pook.. Actually, LIVE IT. Put it into action, and you're golden.

I did it. So can you.

And to all of the dudes who are going to talk sh1t... Please fvck off... Or better. GET YOURSELF OUT OF THE FRIENDZONE!

Peace.

 

[mahoney]

i dont really understand the concept of 'friendzone' - i have hooked up with a number of my friends, actual proper friends i have known for a long time as well

i think people conflate two things when they say 'friendzone' tho

1) actual friends - i think this isn't hard to get out of at all! if you have an infectious interesting personality, these people see you as you really are, in your natural organic relaxed state - this is a good thing, its attractive. ive had this a number of times in reverse as well, where a girl i've known for ages and never thought of sexually suddenly does something really cute and you realize woah shes really cute why did i never notice before!?

2) people youve not known very long - this is the one people on this forum talk about most, and i think theyre wrong. they talk about being put in the friendzone by a girl they haven't known long. but you're not really proper friends at all - you're trying too hard to be nice, you're not relaxed, you're not your real self - so in this case really you're doing the opposite of everything you would do if the girl was your real friend - you're stilted, boring, 'nice' - when this happens, it isn't the girl that puts you in this zone, its you! by acting awkward and supplicating, the stereotype of "oh let me carry your heavy books for you" - you wouldn't do that with your regular actual female friend that you have fun with

alex, yours is the first case scenario and yes that can certainly happen, and has to me a number of times. as for the second scenario, its almost always the dude that puts themselves in this zone but i prefer to call that the boringzone, not the friendzone

 

[PapiChulo]

Sorry dude, but no one really cares. You ve been a "friend" to a woman for 7 years. Geezee.....

 

[escaleraroyal]

why did she denied you when you ask her to be your gf. thanks

 

[loveshogun]

No one said you can't get out of the friend zone. Just that AFCs end up in it.

Friend zone applies to AFCs only.

 

[Jaylan]

Does hook up mean you smashed? You better be consistently smashing this.

i dont really understand the concept of 'friendzone' - i have hooked up with a number of my friends, actual proper friends i have known for a long time as well

i think people conflate two things when they say 'friendzone' tho

1) actual friends - i think this isn't hard to get out of at all! if you have an infectious interesting personality, these people see you as you really are, in your natural organic relaxed state - this is a good thing, its attractive. ive had this a number of times in reverse as well, where a girl i've known for ages and never thought of sexually suddenly does something really cute and you realize woah shes really cute why did i never notice before!?

2) people youve not known very long - this is the one people on this forum talk about most, and i think theyre wrong. they talk about being put in the friendzone by a girl they haven't known long. but you're not really proper friends at all - you're trying too hard to be nice, you're not relaxed, you're not your real self - so in this case really you're doing the opposite of everything you would do if the girl was your real friend - you're stilted, boring, 'nice' - when this happens, it isn't the girl that puts you in this zone, its you! by acting awkward and supplicating, the stereotype of "oh let me carry your heavy books for you" - you wouldn't do that with your regular actual female friend that you have fun with

alex, yours is the first case scenario and yes that can certainly happen, and has to me a number of times. as for the second scenario, its almost always the dude that puts themselves in this zone but i prefer to call that the boringzone, not the friendzone

This is your view of freinds as a male. A womens view of friendzone is different as she wont even think to sleep with a male friendzone guy. Guys in many cases will sleep with a friendzone chick but wouldnt date her. Essentially their fvckzone.

Generally with men, we are not friends with women we dont find attractive in some physical respect. This is not an absolute but is how I have seen it work with others guys and myself.

And lets be real. It took this dude 7 years? Meh. Why do I have the feeling that she just did not have options around and just let her guard down and this wont be much of an on going thing. I would like OP to come back here and post in a month.

 

[mahoney]

This is your view of freinds as a male. A womens view of friendzone is different as she wont even think to sleep with a male friendzone guy. Guys in many cases will sleep with a friendzone chick but wouldnt date her. Essentially their fvckzone.

Generally with men, we are not friends with women we dont find attractive in some physical respect. This is not an absolute but is how I have seen it work with others guys and myself.

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i'd say my friends are roughly 50% male 50% female

 

[Alex DeLarge]

why did she denied you when you ask her to be your gf. thanks

I used to be very AFC a few years ago. I'm sure there were plenty of times where I could work my moves, but being the AFC that I was, I would make up lots of excuses as to why I would not make the move.

I'm not saying that everyone on here says it's impossible to get out of the friendzone. I just want to let guys out there struggling know that it is not hard to leave it as lots of negative people on here make you think.

Difficulty is a completely objective notion.

I completely changed since last time I saw this girl. Not in a physical sense but in a mental and personal sense. I have a much more outgoing positive attitude, I am an ambitious person and enjoy talking about life and living every day as if it was the last (Outside of work and other day to day sh1t).

 

[MainDroite]

I love reading this forum, but some ideas circulating here I think will actually hurt you and your relations. Thinking that the friendzone is eternal is one of them (kill the flirt and the sexual tension and see how fast you quit caring about a girl). And also: that you should next a girl automatically if she's not "interested". Unless you're a social beast and have 300 other girls to fall back on, then you're just being an immature, impatient prick.

The most important thing is to put a sexual tension in your relation as soon as you can. Even lonely and/or shy girls will eventually fall for it if you keep it funny. Don't be a ****ing creep.

 

[Igetit!]

I'm not saying that everyone on here says it's impossible to get out of the friendzone.

Well I'm one of "those guys" here who DOES SAY it's impossible to get out of the friendzone.


If you say you got out of it,hey....well who am I to say you didn't,but when I re-read the background you gave concerning you and this girl,to me,you DIDN'T get out of the friendzone.


You don't mind if I ask a few questions,do you?

1:In the beginning when you first met her,did you ever try to date her? Did you ask her out? Her rejecting you or not ISN'T THE ISSUE,I only want to know if IN THE BEGINNING when you first met her,or shortly after meeting her,did you try to date her or not.


When I think of "friendzone",I mean hanging around a girl a lot,being her emotional tampon/shoulder to cry on,her discussing her dating or fooling around with other guys,you two being "best friends",etc.


Now....did you go from all that to dating or hooking up with this girl? Cause if you did,then hey,what can I say,you're the man dude.

I completely changed since last time I saw this girl.

You changed since the last time you saw her. Well just how much time passed between the last time you saw her and now?


You two must have been separated for a WHILE.



The MAIN THING I want to know is if this friendzone you say you got out of is the type I described above,or something else. That,and I want to know if you asked her out or tried to date her FIRST....BEFORE all this "friendzone" stuff took place.

 

[PapiChulo]

i'd say my friends are roughly 50% male 50% female

Look at this dude, he wants to bang half of all his friends.

 

[PapiChulo]

I love reading this forum, but some ideas circulating here I think will actually hurt you and your relations. Thinking that the friendzone is eternal is one of them (kill the flirt and the sexual tension and see how fast you quit caring about a girl). And also: that you should next a girl automatically if she's not "interested". Unless you're a social beast and have 300 other girls to fall back on, then you're just being an immature, impatient prick.

The most important thing is to put a sexual tension in your relation as soon as you can. Even lonely and/or shy girls will eventually fall for it if you keep it funny. Don't be a ****ing creep.

The reason this doesn't work is because women don't enjoy all the sexual tension as much as you would think. She has to find you at least somewhat attractive. In fact they take it as you being friendly to her. They are stupid this way. Once you ask her out, it's the end of it because she knows what it is and it's unwelcomed. Majority of women don't like the sexual tension and men love it. In other words, you are creepy. I honestly don't see the reason to stick around. You what these women need you for, right? This doesn't apply to actual female/ male friends. And what you described upthere is a feminine perspective of being friends with everybody, even their ex's. Well, for some men that doesn't work.

 

[The_411]

It's not that simple. The friendzone is basically when you try try try to get with a girl who turns you down repeatedly and yet your continue on with her under the guise of friendship erstwhile trying or even thinking you'll get laid.

The friendzone is state of mind and the reason we don't leave the friendzone is that we don't often change our state of being and it takes a lot of work.

It's the same reason why when you get dumped going back into the relationship very soon thereafter doesn't work, because you haven't had enough time to change your state of being.

The friendzone simply means that either you're were not attractive ever to the girl or you demonstrated too many beta qualities over time.

It really depends on if the girl ever had any attraction for you. If no then it will never happen. If yes but again there's that time/space thing that allows you to grow learn and improve. If the girl was attracted to you and you didn't royally f it up then there always exists the possibility to be able to hook up with her.

 

[mahoney]

Look at this dude, he wants to bang half of all his friends.

Ha well acutually no, my point was the polar opposite of that. The argument being put forward was that dudes don't have female platonic friends, or that they don't have friends they're not attracted to. I think that's kinda silly, I've no sexual feelings towards the majority of my female friends

Go look at a popular dudes Facebook friends list, what % is female, you think he secretly wants to fvck...all of them? really?

Also by this logic it's impossible for a bisexual person to have any friends at all!

 

[PapiChulo]

Ha well acutually no, my point was the polar opposite of that. The argument being put forward was that dudes don't have female platonic friends, or that they don't have friends they're not attracted to. I think that's kinda silly, I've no sexual feelings towards the majority of my female friends

Go look at a popular dudes Facebook friends list, what % is female, you think he secretly wants to fvck...all of them? really?

Also by this logic it's impossible for a bisexual person to have any friends at all!

Yes, thats what I find odd. I befriend ugly chicks if they are cool, but it's not that many of them around. #1 reason why guys have female friends is because there is or there was attraction at the first place for this particular woman. And guys don't benefit from female all that much at all. Also the popular guys have orbitors or fans just like hot women. He might not even interested in the majority of them, but if no one else is around he might bang her.

 

[mahoney]

Fair enough- I just don't see it that way is all. I really like my friends, regardless of gender! They're cool to hang out with, and do stuff with. Of the people I collaborate with in music production, the one I enjoy working with most is female. But I just don't think of her in that way (although a couple of her friends - ooh that's a different matter)

It's not even that's she's 'ugly', she isn't at all! I just like it the way it is and prefer not to change the dynamic. Maybe if there were no other options I might feel differently, don't really know!

 

[Alex DeLarge]

To Igetit!, maybe I still am in the friendzone? That would be fine by me as long as I still hook up with her. I like having friends.

Her and I had been seperated for maybe about a year. I had been seeing other girls though, and she has been made aware of this.

To the guys out there saying that it's impossible for men to have female friends... You must just be uncomfortable with your own sexuality to think in that sense.

 

[ARrocket]

Also by this logic it's impossible for a bisexual person to have any friends at all!

Asexuals! :rockon:

I hate to further hijack this thread but just make sure you're all aware that there's a HUGE difference between "I want to fvck my female friends" and "I WOULD fvck my female friends." Active pursuit and giving a damn being the key differences!

 

[irocknike23]

Made my way from the friendzone, to hooking up with this girl. Just to give you guys the back story, I have known this girl for 7ish years. I have asked her to be my girlfriend in the past and she has denied me. I have been the nice guy to her during those years, but tonight... I did it. I put my game to the test and hooked up with her.

To all you dudes posting on here. Do not listen to anyone's sh1t... It is possible to exit the friendzone.

Read the book of pook.. Actually, LIVE IT. Put it into action, and you're golden.

I did it. So can you.

And to all of the dudes who are going to talk sh1t... Please fvck off... Or better. GET YOURSELF OUT OF THE FRIENDZONE!

Peace.

where can i find this book to read..

i got like 3 girls currently in friendzone

 

[Alex DeLarge]

where can i find this book to read..

i got like 3 girls currently in friendzone

It's on the DJ bible page at the bottom of the website.