I couldn't get phone # of any women

[picard]

I couldn't get phone number of any girls tonight at the party. I am really piss off. I tried the DJ bible on how to get phone numbers. I ask the girls the right questions.
eg. I asked her where is she from?
where does she work?
What does she do?
What kind of things does she do usually at work?
she asked me the same questions.
I even try the line: I like our conversation very much. I would like to continue this conversation at future time. Can we meet for lunch or diner sometime? why don't you give me your phone number then I will call you in couple of days.


I she was hesitant, I tried asking if she want to go biking or golfing. No, she is just broke up with her ex. Another girl said she can't give out phone number. This is getting frustrating for me.

 

[drZaius09]

Ok, first things first, I don't know where you live, but if you live in AMERICA, you should consider learning proper english before approaching any more girls.

With that said, your choice of conversational topics is BORING. You are boring the christ out of these girls; in fact, I'm bored as sh1t just reading about it.

Consider any halfway decent looking girl on the planet right now. She doesn't have to be drop-dead gorgeous, I'm talking about an average girl, maybe a 6 or a 7... Just take any one of them and realize that at any given moment in any given day there are AT LEAST 5 guys trying to get into her pants. Somewhere on this earth there are 5 guys saying the same sh1t and asking the same questions to the same girl. And this is just your average girl!!! Now imagine the 8's and the 9's... exactly. Life is a f#ckin breeze for attractive women, they always have a choice. So make sure YOU stand out. I'm not going to tell you how to do it, but I will say that what you did at the party is how NOT to do it.

 

[Paradox]

How to number close all of the time

You struck out badly. Here's a short tip on how to number close. First I need to let you know 2 things. I number close around 99.78% of the time. The last time I had an unsuccessful number close was three years ago.

The second thing that you need to keep in mind is that number closing means nothing these days. Women give out their cell number all of the time. They screen calls or don't call you back. Number closing is easy.

The two girls that you chose were not interested in you or at some point became uninterested.

When you are in a conversation with a chick try to find common interests. Before you number close you must find some sort of link, commonality or shared interest. During the conversation try and hint at date ideas. Ask her if she likes the park, what her favorite flavor of coffee is, her favorite food...ect. Once you've established what some of her likes are then build your date on that.

Let's say she says that she likes Italian food. At that point you could mention an Italian restaurant or two that you know of. If you like Italian also then talk about some of your favorite dishes. At this point you can say "Maybe we could go to dinner at (insert restaurant name here) sometime."

Check her reaction. Soak it in. Do things look good? If she hesitates or is iffy then leave it alone, she may need more work to raise her IL. If her reaction is good and positive then number close.

 

[flexion_]

Ask more open ended questions. You are asking close ended questions.

Instead of:
Where do you work?
What do you do?

Try:
How are you liking the party?
How was the week?
Doing anything exciting this weekend?

If the questions are more open ended then they'll give you back information that is of interest to them and then you can take that info to find commonalities. So instead of trying to be an interviewer (someone who gathers information) be more like a moderator (someone who just leads the conversation).

 

[MacAvoy]

First off, I agree w/ what Paradox and flexion are saying. Secondly and most importantly, you should be proud of yourself, you read the bible and went out there and gave it a try. You can't expect to be a DJ on your first attempt.

Your going to get rejected all the time, use it as a learning experience. Next time, you have a better idea where to go w/ the conversations. Keep trying, don't give up and you will notice some improvement. You may not get a number next time either, but I bet you'll see an improvement.

 

[DonJuanMonk]

Maybe they didn't like you or trust you enough.

Build rapport through asking questions, but try not to ask interview questions such as: What do you do for work. What race are you. What major are you in.

Those kinda questions are annoying because girls get asked that all the time, I get asked that all the time when I meet someone knew and I'm irritated too that I just see the person as superficial.

 

[picard]

I don't appreciate insults!!

Originally posted by drZaius09
Ok, first things first, I don't know where you live, but if you live in AMERICA, you should consider learning proper english before approaching any more girls.

With that said, your choice of conversational topics is BORING. You are boring the christ out of these girls; in fact, I'm bored as sh1t just reading about it.

Consider any halfway decent looking girl on the planet right now. She doesn't have to be drop-dead gorgeous, I'm talking about an average girl, maybe a 6 or a 7... Just take any one of them and realize that at any given moment in any given day there are AT LEAST 5 guys trying to get into her pants. Somewhere on this earth there are 5 guys saying the same sh1t and asking the same questions to the same girl. And this is just your average girl!!! Now imagine the 8's and the 9's... exactly. Life is a f#ckin breeze for attractive women, they always have a choice. So make sure YOU stand out. I'm not going to tell you how to do it, but I will say that what you did at the party is how NOT to do it.

I merely summarized the conversation that I talk to her. I didn't ask her with dry questions. secondly, I don't like you insulting my intelligence about my language skills. How many language do you speak? Have you travel aboard and speak foreign language and blend into environment? There are lots of Muslim extremists certainly would like to cut off your head as a trophy. You stand out like a bonfire on a dark night. I have travel the world and blend into surrounding with no problem. My language skills and survival skill is much more greater than yours.

If you don't have any positive point to contribute to this forum, then get out. I hate people with stupid people whom have arrogant attitude.

 

[iveyleeger]

the language skills don't really matter. you could be a deaf mute and bag 10's if you have real game. now focus on the good advice you got picard

 

[drZaius09]

Re: I don't appreciate insults!!

Originally posted by picard
I merely summarized the conversation that I talk to her. I didn't ask her with dry questions. secondly, I don't like you insulting my intelligence about my language skills. How many language do you speak? Have you travel aboard and speak foreign language and blend into environment? There are lots of Muslim extremists certainly would like to cut off your head as a trophy. You stand out like a bonfire on a dark night. I have travel the world and blend into surrounding with no problem. My language skills and survival skill is much more greater than yours.

If you don't have any positive point to contribute to this forum, then get out. I hate people with stupid people whom have arrogant attitude.

I don't understand anything you just said.

Nevertheless, if you can't handle constructive criticism then have fun striking-out every night. I really don't care. You seem like you have some anger issues, maybe girls are picking up on that. They are very intuitive... something to think about.

 

[sempor]

Picard, drZaius09 was only insulting you if you were American, which you're probably not. Be honest, you're english is far from perfect, and you just started ranting about nothing in that last post...pretty weird. Anyway, I can't tell you anything useful that hasn't been said here already, so just listen to these tips and keep trying. Good luck.

 

[picard]

I type quite fast on the keyboard thus typo mistakes will happen. Furthermore, I am just writing for fun on this forum instead of writing a thesis for the English dept.

I am from Canada. Does it bother anyone here? Is this forum restricted to only US citizens.

 

[drZaius09]

First of all, take a step back, take a deep breath, and RELAX.

No, you are not writing a thesis. However, the better we can undertand you, the better we can help you. It only stands to reason. I don't find any problem with typing fast and articulating at the same time.

 

[Paradox]

Originally posted by drZaius09
First of all, take a step back, take a deep breath, and RELAX.

No, you are not writing a thesis. However, the better we can undertand you, the better we can help you. It only stands to reason. I don't find any problem with typing fast and articulating at the same time.

I think Picard has had plenty of good advice from everyone here.

Stand down Captain!

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