dissendent
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I apologize in advance for the background info to be so long but please help.......... Its starting to effect my everyday life.
It all started 2 years ago. Im a Sr. Manager of Operations and I hired this girl who I really got to know pretty well. What I mean is that we hit it off right from the start of the interview talking about the position, what she likes to do, personal goals, etc. So for the past 2 years we have been good friends outside of work. She tells me that I am one of her only guy friends she can turn to and that I always think of others before me. Well, I started having feelings for her about a month ago since we started hanging out more, like 1-2 times per week. Trust me, its better than the 2-3 times per month. The weird thing is that we dont really talk on the phone that much.... The only time we chat on the phone is when we want to find out whats going on for the weekend then we make plans. So this is where it gets tricky. She decided to leave the company I work for to pursue her true goals. Well, it turns out that she hit a bump in the road and needs help financially. I helped her out because we're good friends and she paid me back 2 weeks later as promised. Now it was difficult for her to come to me because shes the type that's self dependent so I was glad she was able to turn to me.
This past weekend, one of my co-workers had a going-away dinner/show so I decide to go and ask my friend to accompany me. She gladly accepts. This dinner was not perceived to be a date. That whole night, we stayed by each others side, she held my ARM (not hand) when we walked. I dont think she knows how I feel but I want to tell her so bad. But Im worried that we'll lose our friendship over it. Well, when I dropped her off at home around 2:30 in the morning, she kissed me on my cheek with a hug. Now im not trying to read into it as much as I want to but it was a quick kiss on the cheek. She then closes the door, leans through the door window, and tells me to call her when I get home so she knows I got home safely. She walks away and looks back once when she walked away. Are these signs? Is it worth finding out how she feels about me by me telling her and possibly losing our friendship?
Thanks in advance!
It all started 2 years ago. Im a Sr. Manager of Operations and I hired this girl who I really got to know pretty well. What I mean is that we hit it off right from the start of the interview talking about the position, what she likes to do, personal goals, etc. So for the past 2 years we have been good friends outside of work. She tells me that I am one of her only guy friends she can turn to and that I always think of others before me. Well, I started having feelings for her about a month ago since we started hanging out more, like 1-2 times per week. Trust me, its better than the 2-3 times per month. The weird thing is that we dont really talk on the phone that much.... The only time we chat on the phone is when we want to find out whats going on for the weekend then we make plans. So this is where it gets tricky. She decided to leave the company I work for to pursue her true goals. Well, it turns out that she hit a bump in the road and needs help financially. I helped her out because we're good friends and she paid me back 2 weeks later as promised. Now it was difficult for her to come to me because shes the type that's self dependent so I was glad she was able to turn to me.
This past weekend, one of my co-workers had a going-away dinner/show so I decide to go and ask my friend to accompany me. She gladly accepts. This dinner was not perceived to be a date. That whole night, we stayed by each others side, she held my ARM (not hand) when we walked. I dont think she knows how I feel but I want to tell her so bad. But Im worried that we'll lose our friendship over it. Well, when I dropped her off at home around 2:30 in the morning, she kissed me on my cheek with a hug. Now im not trying to read into it as much as I want to but it was a quick kiss on the cheek. She then closes the door, leans through the door window, and tells me to call her when I get home so she knows I got home safely. She walks away and looks back once when she walked away. Are these signs? Is it worth finding out how she feels about me by me telling her and possibly losing our friendship?
Thanks in advance!
