I've been trying to improve on my humor for a while, but I've never actually gotten a hold of it. I've tried listening to some stand up comedies, and it's never funny enough to make me laugh. What's worse is I've actually tried to make people laugh, but it's so cold to an extent that they've gone silent..-_-. So yeah. help? I'd really appreciate it if in the end I could keep my girl laughing foreal, instead of her forcing it.
I can't get Humor.
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Sir Lancelot
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Humor's a tough thing to work on. I've been fine tuning my sense of humor lately too.
First thing that you need to work on is your mindset. I find that I'm funniest when I'm very relaxed, happy, and feeling bold.
You say you don't laugh at all while watching standups? A lot of them are bland, but there is some really good standup out there. Just find somebody you can relate to and watch them do their act. Pay attention to the way they use their words, and their delivery. 90% of comedy is in the delivery and timing. It helps when you hang out with friends who are also very funny, it'll keep you sharp.
You can try writing some comedy too. By searching "comedy writing" on google you can find some good stuff to get you started. That can help you to get your comedic juices flowing
Whatever you do, don't force it, it should come naturally. Don't be discouraged if people don't laugh either. I think the most important thing is to not focus so much on being funny, focus on having as MUCH fun as possible in the given moment.
Change your ATTITUDE. It's all in how you do things and how you say it.
Don't think about it and don't force it. Humor should be fun, not a chore.
Hang around people you think are funny, you'll get it eventually and develop a style.
Don't think about it and don't force it. Humor should be fun, not a chore.
Hang around people you think are funny, you'll get it eventually and develop a style.
Nexxus
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a joke isn't funny without the way in which you say it, how you say it, the actions you do when you say it and the timing of the moment and if it relates
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another option you could go with is to focus on your strengths instead of your weaknesses. Humor may be a very big tool to use in seduction/attraction, but it's still just a tool. Find other contraptions in your toolbox that you can use better.
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Well I'm a funny guy I'm one of the funniest kids n my school..but I'm most known for makin fun of other people..now depending on who your tryin 2 impress ( nice girl or bad girl) u might not want to use this technique for nice girls....but always think of a smart ass comeback for what someone says for instance if some is telling u something tht is random or u dnt wanna hear it say 2 them "hey y don't u tell me some more" or maybe something like "hey I can really use that info to better my life"... Or mayb if some one is wearing clothing close to their skin tone tell them to put a shirt on or pur some pants on or shoes etc... Wen makin jokes I almost always use comparisons like as big as... Or u look like...and always think of the oddest thing possible like for instance if someone has a funny shaped head don't jus say look at his head its shaped like a rock think of some thing like hey his head looks like a milk dud in the microwave.. Hope tht helps bud
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Well I am a pretty funny guy, and here are the main things that affect your humor:
1. Your style: My style is kind of observatory, in other words, I hear a story or look at a person and make a joke such as things as stupid as "wow this lecture is more boring than Al Gore on downers". I have friends that incorporate more faces and voices and physical movements in their jokes that will generate laughs.
2. Use names that are stereotypical, its hard to explain the situation, but in a situation where say you are making a joke about terrorists or iraqi people, use a name such as Akmed, or Muhommed(sp) or for a fat white guy use Phil or Tim, or for some stoner use Jeff, names that just sound funny in the right situation in the terms of a metaphorical joke, but my favorites are still Bill and Steve.
3. It depends on your audience, for example you dont make a sex joke in front of your parents or teachers, so you shouldnt make a corny joke on your friend, such as how small in penis is, when your in a group outside your main friends. Cause it will just seem awkward.
But all in all, comedy should just be fun and laid back, I just recommend hanging around your other guys that are funny, be calm cuase the best jokes come from being calm, laid back and being bold. The last bit of advice is, if you ever feel like you are in a situation where you have to be funny, chances are you will be trying to hard and none of your jokes will seem natural or all that funny in the first place.
1. Your style: My style is kind of observatory, in other words, I hear a story or look at a person and make a joke such as things as stupid as "wow this lecture is more boring than Al Gore on downers". I have friends that incorporate more faces and voices and physical movements in their jokes that will generate laughs.
2. Use names that are stereotypical, its hard to explain the situation, but in a situation where say you are making a joke about terrorists or iraqi people, use a name such as Akmed, or Muhommed(sp) or for a fat white guy use Phil or Tim, or for some stoner use Jeff, names that just sound funny in the right situation in the terms of a metaphorical joke, but my favorites are still Bill and Steve.
3. It depends on your audience, for example you dont make a sex joke in front of your parents or teachers, so you shouldnt make a corny joke on your friend, such as how small in penis is, when your in a group outside your main friends. Cause it will just seem awkward.
But all in all, comedy should just be fun and laid back, I just recommend hanging around your other guys that are funny, be calm cuase the best jokes come from being calm, laid back and being bold. The last bit of advice is, if you ever feel like you are in a situation where you have to be funny, chances are you will be trying to hard and none of your jokes will seem natural or all that funny in the first place.
McKindley
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Focus on your strengths, man.
Think about this: how many people do you know that are drop dead, roll on the floor funny? Probably not many. Most of the people you find to be worthwhile and great don't tend to be amazingly funny.
They have other stuff going on. They are really smart, or good at basketball. Or can yodel. I don't know. Maybe they are amazing at identifying monkeys by the sound they make when you show them how phillips head screwdrivers work.
Everybody has their strengths and weaknesses. Being funny is one my strengths. And I've noticed how few people I love being around that are actually really funny. Maybe 3. Not counting the homeless, that is.
If you're not funny, then you're not funny. Its not the end of the world. Work on what DOES make people like being around you.
Think about this: how many people do you know that are drop dead, roll on the floor funny? Probably not many. Most of the people you find to be worthwhile and great don't tend to be amazingly funny.
They have other stuff going on. They are really smart, or good at basketball. Or can yodel. I don't know. Maybe they are amazing at identifying monkeys by the sound they make when you show them how phillips head screwdrivers work.
Everybody has their strengths and weaknesses. Being funny is one my strengths. And I've noticed how few people I love being around that are actually really funny. Maybe 3. Not counting the homeless, that is.
If you're not funny, then you're not funny. Its not the end of the world. Work on what DOES make people like being around you.