By focusing on fear based things as some of you are, you are engaging your RAS (reticular activation system) system to be looking for these things. By looking for these things it takes your power away. By having your power taken away (y would you do that to yourself?) you are diminishing your manhood. By diminishing your manhood you are self fulfilling your reality. By self fulfilling your reality -- your reality will be that she is always going to go for other men who have more. If your reality is that she will always go for men who have more you are communicating to yourself and thus to her that you have less. By communicating that you have less, women will go for more.
Fact is other guys don't matter. Its the moment that matters. It's not being attached to anything to happen, but being confident enough to make things happen. No woman is your object, she is free to choose who she wants to choose. You are free to choose who you want to choose, and when and if who you choose does not choose you, for whatever reason -- go choose again.
Fact is if you have the mindset I described above, and you put yourself out there and share yourself with the world, you will never have a problem. Can you get every girl by being your best most confident self? Someone who is comfortable in your own skin and not insecure? Nope. Which is good, because you wouldn't want all that attention -- there's not enough time in the day.
And lets even embrace your fear based mentalities. Lets even go there and assume that all women are shallow, and that whenever there is a man around that is shinier that she will go to him. Of course this also assumes that there are other guys who are shinier than you so lets not forget to remember that your a loser compared to other guys -- cant forget that part. Now lets even assume that he doesnt even have to be centered and grounded and free and confident. He doesnt even have to come and talk to her, he doesnt even have to talk to her. Lets assume that he must do NOTHING and the girl you are talking to mixing sexuality, with charm, with being centered, with being not needy and a bit of a challenge based on your own values and by trusting your own judgements. Lets assume that despite all this, no matter how great of a person you are -- no matter how confident and free and happy with yourself that you are -- and no matter how insignificant this guy is to her -- that she goes up to him and makes out with him on the spot because she knows he has money or because he is tall and handsome. Well -- she just did you a favor didn't she? You don't need or want that type of bullcrap. Cause your a real man. A man that lives his life for you. A man that only allows women in your life who bring value and can spot your value. Not a woman who is just out for superficial things. Your not superficial. So why would you want superficial????? Of course she may not be superficial at all, it could be you who is superficial -- I mean afterall women will never spot your value if YOU YOURSELF do not spot your value.
Of course none of what I have said even really points out the most obvious rebuttal. Fact is your not looking for anything serious, and your not looking for sex. Your just looking to be in the moment and project your best self. YOur just looking to project sexuality and be comfortable in your own skin. Your just looking to subcommunicate that you are a guy she can freely hook up with when and if she chooses to -- if she is a good girl -- without having to choose you over anyone else. Cause your not a jealous man, and you don't care what she does in her spare time or where it leads -- cause your just enjoying yourself, your enjoying being you. Your just a guy spreading fun and strength and you will be there for her when she wants to share that with you. When she wants to have sex, you will be there to put her in the mood and whisk her off her feet, regardless of whether or not Matt Damon is on her speed dial. Got it?
