I believe I have good looks, not model, but all my life I have gotten looks and smiles from women, but since I'm introverted, shy, and quiet. I never really approached them. I have always been very shy and quiet since I can remember, I know the genetic component is very high, my father and grandpa are the same. I tried everything to overcome it, CBT, therapy, self affirmations, hypnosis, public speaking, facing some of my fears, etc.
Even though it helped, it was just a little improvement for all the effort I put, the only thing that works is alcohol, or medication (which I decided not to take anymore due to possible side effects, such as ED)
Alcohol, removes all the anxiety and nervousness, I usually feel and the real me shows through. I just wish I could feel that way all the time.
When I was younger like 15, I would just blush or look down at floor, when girls would glance at me, over the years, I gained more confidence, and I was able to keep eye contact, smile, and sometimes say hello, but that was it.
I had 3 girlfriends in my whole life, and they all approached me, my first one at 16 years old, I was so shy, she basically asked me to be her boyfriend, and she kissed me for the first time, second one at 19 years old, I had more experience then, and third one at 24, though my relationships were kind of long lasting.
I have only approached 4 women in my whole life, and all of them, were by using alcohol, I went on a date with one of them (later she lost interest in me), but the other three, told me they had a boyfriends, which was probably true because they were cute.
I just can't force myself to approach, is not fear of rejection holding me back, I think I'm really afraid of making a fool of myself
I'M AFRAID OF THEM BEING DISAPPOINTED IN ME, and finding out that the guy they fancy (me), turned out to be quiet and shy, so they then lose interest in me
I'm afraid of this, because it has happened to me before, I have casually talked with random females, who I don't find attractive, just random small talk, and you can tell, that they kind of treat me differently, once they notice I'm quiet and shy. They reacted to me differently when we never talked.
My shyness has more to do with talking, than with body languages, if you saw me on the streets, you wouldn't think I'm shy, because I walk confidently, I may even come off as stuck up or too full of myself. Most people don't approach me or try to be friends with me, even if I smile and say hello, it is only after they talk to me, that they find out I'm nothing like they thought I was.
I just happen to have those masculine serious faces, on top of that, I have good looks, and happen to be shy and quiet, the perfect combo for people to ignore you and think you are stuck up
Even though it helped, it was just a little improvement for all the effort I put, the only thing that works is alcohol, or medication (which I decided not to take anymore due to possible side effects, such as ED)
Alcohol, removes all the anxiety and nervousness, I usually feel and the real me shows through. I just wish I could feel that way all the time.
When I was younger like 15, I would just blush or look down at floor, when girls would glance at me, over the years, I gained more confidence, and I was able to keep eye contact, smile, and sometimes say hello, but that was it.
I had 3 girlfriends in my whole life, and they all approached me, my first one at 16 years old, I was so shy, she basically asked me to be her boyfriend, and she kissed me for the first time, second one at 19 years old, I had more experience then, and third one at 24, though my relationships were kind of long lasting.
I have only approached 4 women in my whole life, and all of them, were by using alcohol, I went on a date with one of them (later she lost interest in me), but the other three, told me they had a boyfriends, which was probably true because they were cute.
I just can't force myself to approach, is not fear of rejection holding me back, I think I'm really afraid of making a fool of myself
I'M AFRAID OF THEM BEING DISAPPOINTED IN ME, and finding out that the guy they fancy (me), turned out to be quiet and shy, so they then lose interest in me
I'm afraid of this, because it has happened to me before, I have casually talked with random females, who I don't find attractive, just random small talk, and you can tell, that they kind of treat me differently, once they notice I'm quiet and shy. They reacted to me differently when we never talked.
My shyness has more to do with talking, than with body languages, if you saw me on the streets, you wouldn't think I'm shy, because I walk confidently, I may even come off as stuck up or too full of myself. Most people don't approach me or try to be friends with me, even if I smile and say hello, it is only after they talk to me, that they find out I'm nothing like they thought I was.
I just happen to have those masculine serious faces, on top of that, I have good looks, and happen to be shy and quiet, the perfect combo for people to ignore you and think you are stuck up
