I cannot believe I got myself into this with a married woman...I need help

[trent81]

I saw this married woman four about four months. I hooked up with her about four times. She has two daughters. She told me she was done with her husband, she was getting a divorce. At first she was very very attached to me, she loved how I made her feel, she loved the way she felt. But then one day (about three months ago) she stopped all contact. I am baffled. I remember calling her and telling her I wanted to see her, she never responded, then I called her one more time a week later and she said I will talk to you soon, and never called again. I didn't want to pursue because I didn't want her husband finding out, and I didn't wan to look needy. My question is;

What happened? Did she go back to him?
Did she not like the sex? We only hooked up four times.
Did she find another guy somewhere?
Will I ever hear from her again? I'm guessing not, since it's been a few months.
Can anyone help me out? I am confused. I am ****ing stupid for even getting involved with her. I really thought she was getting a divorce. How should I act if I see her? Is this how all affairs end?

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[WaterTiger]

*I saw this married woman.
*She has two daughters.
*She told me she was getting a divorce.
*She stopped all contact.

Married with kids...and you thought it was all right to start dating her???? Are you completely insane?

What happened? Did she go back to him?
Maybe, it doesn't matter. SHE"S MARRIED WITH KIDS!


Did she not like the sex?
Maybe, it doesn't matter. SHE"S MARRIED WITH KIDS!

Did she find another guy somewhere?
Maybe, it doesn't matter. SHE"S MARRIED WITH KIDS!

Will I ever hear from her again?
Probably not. SHE"S MARRIED WITH KIDS!

I am ****ing stupid for even getting involved with her.
OMG YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Because....(wait for it...)SHE"S MARRIED WITH KIDS!

I really thought she was getting a divorce.
Really? Why? Because she's such an honest person? That she wouldn't lie to you? She lies to her husband and kids, why the fux would she tell YOU the truth? Did you miss that episode of Oprah?

How should I act if I see her?
Like she's doggy doodle that got stuck on your shoe...because she is.

Is this how all affairs end?
No! You got lucky! Her husband could have found out and came to your house with a loaded shotgun! OR He might have thrown her out of the house and she & her two kids come live with YOU. You'd pay for a slvt who is a known cheater and her two brats!

Trent, Honey, please stay on this site! You need us! Read the DJ bible and stay away from married women.

 

[jophil28]

Married with kids...and you thought it was all right to start dating her???? Are you completely insane?

What happened? Did she go back to him?
Maybe, it doesn't matter. SHE"S MARRIED WITH KIDS!


Did she not like the sex?
Maybe, it doesn't matter. SHE"S MARRIED WITH KIDS!

Did she find another guy somewhere?
Maybe, it doesn't matter. SHE"S MARRIED WITH KIDS!

Will I ever hear from her again?
Probably not. SHE"S MARRIED WITH KIDS!

I am ****ing stupid for even getting involved with her.
OMG YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Because....(wait for it...)SHE"S MARRIED WITH KIDS!

I really thought she was getting a divorce.
Really? Why? Because she's such an honest person? That she wouldn't lie to you? She lies to her husband and kids, why the fux would she tell YOU the truth? Did you miss that episode of Oprah?

How should I act if I see her?
Like she's doggy doodle that got stuck on your shoe...because she is.

Is this how all affairs end?
No! You got lucky! Her husband could have found out and came to your house with a loaded shotgun! OR He might have thrown her out of the house and she & her two kids come live with YOU. You'd pay for a slvt who is a known cheater and her two brats!

Trent, Honey, please stay on this site! You need us! Read the DJ bible and stay away from married women.

Hey WaterLilly, you just saved me a whole lots of typing . Great reply !

Trent, you can only have a relationship with someone who is AVAILABLE to be in one and who also WANTS to be in one with you. SHe failed on both counts.
She just wanted a play guy to boost her ego.

MY guess is that her hubby found out and gave her an ultimatum and told her to choose between f*king you or lose all that she has invested in her marriage, kids, house and public reputation. Guess what, and whom she chose ?

 

[jafyk]

Trent, forget all your questions they are irrelevant. What matter is that she's ended things with you and it's for the best. Heed the above advice and save yourself a lotta heart ache. I was in the same situation and when they are through with you they turn as cold as ice. This lady's husband (preacher) called my work, my home and even followed my friend who was driving my car. I had to get a restraining order. How embarrassing ( I was at fault ...right?). Don't make this mistake again.

 

[KontrollerX]

You got played son.

You were only ever a dildo to her.

 

[horaholic]

He didnt get played, because she didnt lie to him. He knew what he was getting into, but he ignored it, and now he's posting about it. I hope he learns a huge lesson from this, cuz its beyond AFC to expect more than sex from a married chick. I believe its a COMMANDMENT in the bible, for Christs sake. Not being religious here, but its pretty self explanitory, that messing around with people's wives is nothing but trouble. The OP should be expressing undying gratitude that, her husband hasnt shot him in the head for this, instead of wondering why a married chick cut contact.

Honestly, though, you were to clingy. I can tell by the very fact that you posted this. If you weren't clingy, she probably would have kept banging you till her husband figured it out, and either blew your brains out, or his wives, or if he was strong enough, dealt with it, and moved on, without consequence to you or your hor wannabe-girlfriend. You do realize she is a hor, right???? So why are you concerned about a hor, that you fvcked 4 times over 4 months???? How does her husbands jizz taste? Did you ever think about that?

 

[playerone]

trent, you had your fun, and maybe she got guilty or something.

Whatever it is, the key is YOU HAD YOUR FUN.

No losses, plus you dodged a potential bullet from her husband, literally. Move on.

 

[decades]

hey instead of spending your time wondering where Ms "thinig" married chick with kids is, and why she isn't with you now, why not go out and find an Avaliable girl, who is, gasp, SIngle, and has no kids?! Or are you not attracted to available single women with no kids?

 

[trent81]

All my life I have been lucky when it comes to meeting and hooking up with women. In fact, most of the time they would approach me. I never met an older one, one that was beautiful but more close to my age until this one. And so, needless to say, I was caught off guard and fell for the biggest trap. There are nights where I cannot sleep. I have nightmares. Not because I miss her, not because she misses me, or that I want to be with her. But because of what I have done. I am afraid that once I do get married, if my wife to be unhappy, that she will do the same to me. I regret every moment with that woman. Not because feelings but more about reprecussions. I believe in Karma. I believe that I may go through something like this. I don't think the husband knows, if he does, maybe he deserved it maybe he didn't but still I shouldn't have done this. I cannot believe I got involved. The fact that I don't have closure bothers me. The fact that I don't know if he knows, etc. I just can't forget about it. It haunts me everyday. Maybe if I was younger, I wouldn't care. But now that I am at an age where I too want to get married, I believe I have something bad coming to me. I am scared ****less not because of the husband, but because someone might do the same to me. I am not proud of what I had done. I seriously believed her when she told me she was done, that she was getting divorced, and that I was the best thing to happen to her. I have no idea what I was thinking.

 

[Jitterbug]

If the genders were reversed, we would have a typical married guy & mistress scenario. The married guy would always tell the mistress that he's done with his wife and will be getting a divorce "soon", but disappears into thin air one day, cutting all contacts.

...I believe in Karma....

Don't worry too much, buddy. If the enforcers of Karma were that strict about sex, they'd make sure that Jerks don't get to bang one beautiful woman after another and ugly, drug-addicted, drunken rock stars would never get to fvck thousands of hotties, after they did a few attached or married women along the way.

 

[jafyk]

All my life I have been lucky when it comes to meeting and hooking up with women. In fact, most of the time they would approach me. I never met an older one, one that was beautiful but more close to my age until this one. And so, needless to say, I was caught off guard and fell for the biggest trap. There are nights where I cannot sleep. I have nightmares. Not because I miss her, not because she misses me, or that I want to be with her. But because of what I have done. I am afraid that once I do get married, if my wife to be unhappy, that she will do the same to me. I regret every moment with that woman. Not because feelings but more about reprecussions. I believe in Karma. I believe that I may go through something like this. I don't think the husband knows, if he does, maybe he deserved it maybe he didn't but still I shouldn't have done this. I cannot believe I got involved. The fact that I don't have closure bothers me. The fact that I don't know if he knows, etc. I just can't forget about it. It haunts me everyday. Maybe if I was younger, I wouldn't care. But now that I am at an age where I too want to get married, I believe I have something bad coming to me. I am scared ****less not because of the husband, but because someone might do the same to me. I am not proud of what I had done. I seriously believed her when she told me she was done, that she was getting divorced, and that I was the best thing to happen to her. I have no idea what I was thinking.

Welcome to my world. That's how I felt.

 

[nismo-4]

Reap what you sow.

 

[joedmango]

Maybe as a married women, maybe she realize that all she was did is wrong, even though she has a feelings for you but on the first place it's all wrong and should never be done.

 

[joedmango]

As a married women, maybe she realize that all she was doing is wrong, even though she has a feelings for you but on the first place, it's all wrong and will never be done.

 

[DJDamage]

As a married women, maybe she realize that all she was doing is wrong, even though she has a feelings for you but on the first place, it's all wrong and will never be done.

heh she realised she was doing wrong as soon as she decided to have an affair.

The OP offered her a distraction from her life. Her relationship with her husband was breaking down and she needed some loving, that's all. She finally came to her senses when she realised that the price of divorce would be too high for her (financial reasons).

 

[ready123]

I've been in this situation before, lol. The cold reality is, no matter what she says, you're just an escape for her, that's it. Yea once in a while there are exceptions but I personally dont know any.

To put it in perspective - commitmentwise, she married her husband and took her vows to stick with him. With you it's just sex. From a standpoint of convenience, its easier for her to have you disappear from her life than for her to go through the negative social stigma of divorce/being called a cheater, and put her family through a shtload of drama. And as far as emotions, you're assuming she's logically grounded and knows what she wanta. A married woman cheating is hyper-reactive emotionally. No matter how assertively she talks to you, she's probably confused. The confusion will show itself by how she swings back in forth between her family and escaping.

and don't be too hard on yourself. Use the experience as a reality check to solidify your values

 

[DonGorgon]

She found a new lover.. your time is up... mainly cause you fell for her too hard women dont want you to love them just F them while they love you..

 

[Phenomenal One]

If the genders were reversed, we would have a typical married guy & mistress scenario. The married guy would always tell the mistress that he's done with his wife and will be getting a divorce "soon", but disappears into thin air one day, cutting all contacts.



Don't worry too much, buddy. If the enforcers of Karma were that strict about sex, they'd make sure that Jerks don't get to bang one beautiful woman after another and ugly, drug-addicted, drunken rock stars would never get to fvck thousands of hotties, after they did a few attached or married women along the way.

there are enforcers of karma ? if you happen to one day get in contact with them can you tell em i said they're doing a sh!!ty job lol.

 

[trent81]

Would any of you pursue her back then? She had such strong feelings for me. I think she found someone else. I didn't pursue it at all. Just a text one time. I left the ball on her court. I kind of regret that because "maybe she would have left him?" maybe a silly thought. But I never showed too much clingyness. I didn't even call her that much. She would make contact with me. Sure, I was available but you have to in this type of situation. She was in a very unhappy marriage. She said they weren't even talking to each other. I don't know, maybe I should have pursued???? I regret it a little bit. I listened to my friends and they told me not to. I just wish I would have sent a message or something saying "So you don't want to hang out anymore or what?" Or something along those lines. Or do you think it was a bad situation and I should thank my lucky stars??? Thanks for your opinions.