I am so fvcked

[JessicaBunny]

I am so fvcked.

I friendzoned a guy when I was in highschool. Told him he was my best friend. Which he was to me. I did everything wrong in the book for 20 years.

I even got married last year. I told him how I really felt and now he's gone ghost on me after a few months. He called me a liar and a slut and all the derogatory names for women you guys throw around every day.

I've accepted it. I told myself if I still want him after all the name calling and pushing me away and telling me to never contact him again, then there must be something really wrong with me.

But I've hit rock bottom. I want him and only him. Every day I die another death from knowing how much I fvcked up.

I never told him how much I loved him. I never told him I'd have children for him. So when I told him he called me a liar. I've cried every day for the last year and still crying. He doesn't believe a word I say and said he couldn't trust me any more.

NC for 6 months and I still want him. Only contact was to see if he was ok during the hurricane. Nothing else exchanged.

I know that if I pursue this then it would be a mountain to dig.

I don't want an orbiter. I don't want just a fwb. I want everything. Marriage. Kids. Rest of my life with him.

I know this is probably a lost cause. But I need to hear it again. Tell it to me straight.

 

[spiegel549]

Jessica, as you know everything about this forum is getting the female to pursue the man. For the man to play the role of Alpha male and not take any **** from any woman. If she ****s up then its her loss because he can find plenty of others that would be willing to date him.

On that note, I am sure there is more to the story but you don't want to write the whole thing. If this has been a longgggg period of time were you denied him then his interest level is in the negatives. It would be very very hard to get him to swing a 180 and come running into your arms.

To give it to you straight, if you approached him already and said listen straight up I know what I did, and I understand what I did. I LOVE YOU and I want to be with you forever, please forgive me, please.

If he gives you the same ****, brushes you off, IT IS DONE. MOVE ON JESSICA!!! MOVE ON!!!!

There are PLENTY of other men out there that would want to take you out, make love to you, have kids with you etc. TRUST ME!

You need to stop moping around and crying all year long and GO OUT and meet a NEW MAN!! You can do it! I know you can!

 

[ArcBound]

1. You are only trying to attract him cause you need the validation that he still likes you. And deep down you know this to, you friendzoned and strung him along for 20 years and you certainly didn't do it by accident.

2. Actions speak louder than words. You friendzone him and then proceed to fvck and marry another man. It doesn't matter if you claim you loooooooove your highschool friend, he knows by your actions all that he needs to know about you.

 

[Skalioppe]

He's angry because you crushed him by FZ-ing him, he was probably devastated and took him years to come to terms with it. Then when he's finally accepted it you go and tell him you really do want him after getting married. If I were him I'd be super p1ssed off too. He was venting anger and frustration at missed opportunity - a perfectly reasonable response given the situation you've put him in.

My advice.... email him a link to this thread with the description "I don't know what else to do..." "Please can we talk?".

If you hear nothing within 2 weeks it's done and there is nothing you can ever do to change it, if he contacts I believe it is salvageable, but you'll get some more vitriolics from him first.

You women really are the biggest head-fvcks.....

 

[Renegade357]

I even got married last year.

LOL, WTF? Your poor innocent husband has my deepest sympathies. Does he know about your little infatuation with another man?

 

[Solomon]

Pictures of yourself with a spoon or I will neg you

srs

 

[st_99]

LOL, WTF? Your poor innocent husband has my deepest sympathies. Does he know about your little infatuation with another man?

:crackup:

 

[perseverance]

This Jessica is using too many SoSuave words like 'NC' and 'Orbiter'. Fee-fi-fo fum, I smell the blood of a troll.

If this is a legitimate posting, then send my sympathises to your Husband, this will only end in heartbreak and mayhem.

 

[Purefilth]

This Jessica is using too many SoSuave words like 'NC' and 'Orbiter'. Fee-fi-fo fum, I smell the blood of a troll.

If this is a legitimate posting, then send my sympathises to your Husband, this will only end in heartbreak and mayhem.

she's been here since august - would've thought she had posted before - but plenty of time to learn the phrases

 

[For_F]

You fvcked up atleast two men in your story yet the typical b1tch that you are attempts to play victim. I hope your friend improves as a man and does not give you a second look and I hope your husband is spinning plates.

 

[youngmack]

You fvcked up atleast two men in your story yet the typical b1tch that you are attempts to play victim. I hope your friend improves as a man and does not give you a second look and I hope your husband is spinning plates.

Lol I agree

 

[flashpoint]

you bored with your marriage? why did you even marry the other guy, did you love him too? or not? so ... how do you even know now that you love the highschool guy? i mean compared to last year has anything changed besides you marrying another guy?

and why would he call you names, all you did is tell him you love him. seems an odd reaction to me. at least for someone i call my best friend. maybe he thinks he cant trust you, but still it's a bit harsh.

anyways. easy solution for that. get a divorce. you dont love your husband (or at least not as much as you should) and you can prove to the other guy that you are serious. or you are not. but that is your decision.

 

[JohnChops]

Lol NC works hahahahaha. This is stupid, goes to show.how far girls will go for validation and attention. Oh I lost my main orbiter and now he's ignroig.me, I'm merried but I WANT HIM. Insane if you ask me. Please don't reproduce.

 

[HeadLightsOn]

I have to take a 'no sympathy' stance with you as well. If you're a troll I take a 'go fck urself' stance.

Anyway I'm sure you get the message here. Now you can't have this guy, and he has lost interest in you totally, you want him in your life. And now you're married.

You are sick.

Leave your husband, he doesn't deserve to be treated like this by you. Have the guts to be on your own, and move on. You don't need to tell your husband about your little secret. That's your cross to bear.

And accept that you have zero chance with trying to attract this other guy. He sees you for what you are and has forgotten you.

The end.

 

[foreverAFC]

lame fake thread, no female would actually ever feel bad about friendzoning a guy and realizing he was decent later on, that just does not happen

 

[floydb25]

Sounds like a selfish-ego entree, mixed with a high dose of low self esteem, and some crazy on top. With a spice of sympathy-seeking to rid the guilt on the side. Just glad I dont deal with these immature-indecisive, "want what you cant have and **** everyone's mind in the process because you only care about yourself" types anymore. Some of them never grow out of it, either. They just become worse as time goes on. Trash.

This is precisely why you dont sympathize with people, and look at the facts instead.

 

[Scars]

I can't tell if this is a troll or an actual women. There does seem like a lot of emotion here, which is a woman trait. Key words like: Cried, loving, emphasis on the "slvt" name calling, "pushing me away", etc.. So I'll give OP the benefit of the doubt for now and assume she's just an HB5 who's been lurking for awhile.

I think OP only wants him because she's a typical woman and they always want what they can't have. He probably spent most of his HS years kissing her @$$ and she treated him like dog sh!t the whole time. She also probably failed to mentioned he's probably successful now and made a complete turn around, thus her sudden "attraction". She had him in the palm of her hands and then he manned up and said "I don't want to be your emotional tampon anymore. Go fvck yourself", and it confused the living sh!t out of her.

I'll have to agree with all the other posters above me who said they don't have any sympathy for you, because I sure don't.

-Scars

 

[spang]

boobs or gtfo

 

[JulieWatson31]

Is the OP going to respond or what?

She needs to rationalize her thoughts. hmmm

 

[SemperDJ]

Sound like the last girl I dated, Kicked her ass to the curb with no hesitation" that's how ****ed up she had me feeling.