I am not to take a break from dating

[Covey21]

I need to take a break from dating

Ok fellas whats up? I am new to the board and first off would like to say that for the most part seems like most of you are on top of your game and this board is awsome!! So here we go I took this woman out on a date here is the numbers 21 years old divorced and she has a kid. Sp we go out and I can honestly say that I have never had a date go this well and it seemed like it was the same for her. So we close the date give her a hug and nothing more but we set up our next date like a week in advance. So the day I am suppose to go out with her a get a call and she tells me that she is just not ready to start dating yet. She said that she has been apart from her ex for a year but she has only been divorced for a month! So to make this long story short she said that she needed some time and I played it off like yeah I can understand that and call me when you are ready and if there is anything I can do in the mean time to help let me know! But damn man I felt like I had just got run over by a train! So fellas I am going to ask do you think this is ligit or was this just a nice way of saying I dont want to go out again? And also how much time do you feel a woman would need in this kind of situation? Thanks guys

 

[HuuBinh]

imo, since her divorce, she has turned into a "profesional dater," one critical mistake u made was you set up the next date a week in advance, this reduces mystery & challenge. another thing is that u only got a hug in end, did u go for a kiss? and i wonder who pays the evening. all this just seems like that she just wanted to use you for some attention and a dinner. oh yea, don't waste anymore time on her and move on, if she does call, i wouldn't go out w/her again.

 

[Gangster Of Love]

This could have been legit, or just a nice way of saying 'Im not interested in you.' You'll never know for sure. The truth is, even though she might not be ready, in her head, somebody will come around that she's so attracted to that everything else won't matter, she will be so into him, without her trying to make sense out of it. This could happen in a few months, or it could happen next week.

It is also possible that her ex wants go get in the picture, and they will always look for ways to give him a chance, no matter what. Yes, I know it is not logical but that's the reality, specially when there are children involved, at least that's how they justifify it logically when they go back to a bad relationship.

So I think its a little bit of both. If her interest was a lot higher, all that wouldn't matter. Since her interest is not as high as you would like, then she would need to be totally open and ready to date, in order for her to be into you. One of those things my brother.

 

[-HPNOTQ-]

21 years old and newly divorced? from my experience, a newly divorced woman is another word for newly SINGLE woman.

like HuuBihn said, she's a professional dater now. more or less, she's going to hook up with any guy that gives her attention. she's needy right now and probably isn't looking to get into a committment again, since her last one didn't work out.

if all you want is a FB, than, she might be good material for that. if you want an LTR, i'd look somewhere else. chances are, if she's looking for an FB in you, then, she problably has an FB in someone else too.

-HQ

 

[drZaius09]

She married, had a child, and divorced, all before being legally able to take her first drink.... Okay, does anybody else see a problem here?

This girl is used to diving head-first into situations she has no idea how to control. Hence the reason why she went out with you, then told you a week later she's not ready to "date" anyone. Why go on a "date" with you if she's not ready to "date" anyone? Don't let her screw with your mind any longer! You've only wasted one day on her, consider yourself blessed and get the hell on!

 

[LouieVaton Don]

This is definately someone you should forget about, as far as im concerned she IS a red flag. Shes got issues and baggage, she knows this, you know this. Just consider it as shes doing you a favor by cutting off the cancer before it ever gets to spread.