HaveNoClue
Don Juan
Okay, my story and it's a big one for me as I've never experienced anything like this before.
Back in 2006 I started a YouTube account to start making videos and I caught the eye of a gal who started messaging me. We'll call her B. B was 24 and a single mom and lived in Florida while I was 36, divorced (for a couple years at that time) and generally was not looking for anything when I met her and lived in Montana.
B and I hit it off pretty good. We exchanged phone numbers and started chatting via MSN. We also started playing online games together. This was August. B was always uplifting and complimenting me about different things. She would send me random love notes and emails and that sort of thing. She would often tell me how my wife made a huge mistake when she left me.
As time passed Oct. 2006 rolled around and we were chatting/calling everyday and doing lots of online stuff together. It got to the point where we decided I should fly down to FL and we should meet.
By Oct. 22nd of that year I was going to go down but she wanted to talk to her little boy and make sure he was okay with it. The next day she flaked. She said she wasn't sure if I should come down because her little boy thought I would take her away from him. And then she had a list of things she should be doing instead of starting a new relationship with me and that we would have to part ways.
I asked her to reconsider and she said no. I didn't hear from her for a little while.
The first weekend of November she messaged me how much she missed me and loved me and she couldn't be with out me.
The same thing happened again. We got really close and by my birthday (Feb.) in 2007 I was ready to fly down again. She flaked again and it wasn't a good time to come down as her dad was having medical problems. This time she didn't tell me we'd have to go our own ways and we continued communicating.
Something else I need to add here. In December of 2006 she told me she had lost her cell phone so she had them stop the number. I believed her. She said she hated phones anyway. As the weeks passed she got a new phone and I asked if I could have the number. She said maybe and was coy about it. Through out the rest of the time I've known her I never did get another phone number.
Through out 2007 B and I spent a lot of time together and she had a cancer scare in July where she had to have surgery. It was ovarian cancer. I was "there" for her whenever she needed me. I was too damn happy to have her as a "potential" girlfriend. Also, we would spend a lot of time talking about the future and planning a life together. Where we would live.
Fall of 2007 she told me she had been accepted into Colorado State University (CSU) and that she wanted to move to Fort Collins so she could be closer to me. I was stoked. Fort Collins is like seven hours from me by car. We'd talked about me moving down in the spring of 2008.
She come online one day in Feb/March of 2008 and said she was in Colorado looking for land to build a house and checking things out for school. I was stoked. I asked her if she wanted me to come down and help. She said no. I didn't hear from her for a few weeks but then she said she and her son had went on a road trip an hinted that they had gone to Canada. I was shocked. In order to go to Canada from Colorado via road they'd have to go through Billings, MT where I live. I asked why they didn't stop. She said that they didn't have time on the way up. So I suggested that they stop by on their way down and I'd take them to dinner, my treat. She said that she would talk to her son about it and see.
A few days later she was back in Tampa again. I asked her why they didn't stop and say hi. She said that her son didn't want to. I was shocked and pissed. I don't know how many times she has told me she loves me and how much she cares for me. How could she not stop and say hi when they drove through my own town, twice? I let things be but I was upset.
Eventually she moved to Colorado and still I was stoked. She had a house built in Fort Collins. We started chatting as she got ready for school. But she started meeting new people and we had kind of a "break up" where she told me all the stuff we'd talked about for our future wasn't true and she was never the girl for me. Of course I was devastated and heart broken. I'd argued and pleaded with her to reconsider (bad idea, I know) but that was that.
That happened through the summer of 2008 but she would always come on line and wanted to chat with me. So we would chat and play games on MSN and I would always wait and hope she would change her mind.
The September rolled around and we had a bit of a heated argument (online) and she stormed off. I was pissed to so I didn't care. That was on Sept. 15th a Monday. I didn't hear from her until the 19th (a Friday) and she dropped a bombshell on me. The cancer had come back and spread and she only had a few weeks to a month to live. I was devastated.
For the next month I would be there when ever she needed someone to talk to. However, there were a couple strange things that happened. When she broke the news she told me that she didn't want to talk about it when I asked how long and that her brother who had flown in from Florida when this happened, we'll call him R, had talked to the docs and knew how long she had and what her situation was. Apparently he had thought it important enough to call her parents and they were going to fly in the next week. Again she wanted me to come down and get married to her so she could die married to me and be happy. I was willing to do this as I wanted to get married to her all along and I'd do anything for her last wishes. Of course the next day those plans fell through.
She told me when her parents came she had a big fight with them and they flew back to Florida the next day. This sounded really strange to me. The other thing was that she sent her brother home about two weeks after he'd gotten there. I asked her who would take care of her and wasn't he worried that she might relapse. She informed me that he didn't know anything and she'd been keeping it all a secret from him. I told her that she'd told me that he knew everything and she'd not talked to the doctor. Completely opposite of what she told me. She said that she'd been lying to a lot of people lately. She also said she was going to stop treatment too.
Back in 2006 I started a YouTube account to start making videos and I caught the eye of a gal who started messaging me. We'll call her B. B was 24 and a single mom and lived in Florida while I was 36, divorced (for a couple years at that time) and generally was not looking for anything when I met her and lived in Montana.
B and I hit it off pretty good. We exchanged phone numbers and started chatting via MSN. We also started playing online games together. This was August. B was always uplifting and complimenting me about different things. She would send me random love notes and emails and that sort of thing. She would often tell me how my wife made a huge mistake when she left me.
As time passed Oct. 2006 rolled around and we were chatting/calling everyday and doing lots of online stuff together. It got to the point where we decided I should fly down to FL and we should meet.
By Oct. 22nd of that year I was going to go down but she wanted to talk to her little boy and make sure he was okay with it. The next day she flaked. She said she wasn't sure if I should come down because her little boy thought I would take her away from him. And then she had a list of things she should be doing instead of starting a new relationship with me and that we would have to part ways.
I asked her to reconsider and she said no. I didn't hear from her for a little while.
The first weekend of November she messaged me how much she missed me and loved me and she couldn't be with out me.
The same thing happened again. We got really close and by my birthday (Feb.) in 2007 I was ready to fly down again. She flaked again and it wasn't a good time to come down as her dad was having medical problems. This time she didn't tell me we'd have to go our own ways and we continued communicating.
Something else I need to add here. In December of 2006 she told me she had lost her cell phone so she had them stop the number. I believed her. She said she hated phones anyway. As the weeks passed she got a new phone and I asked if I could have the number. She said maybe and was coy about it. Through out the rest of the time I've known her I never did get another phone number.
Through out 2007 B and I spent a lot of time together and she had a cancer scare in July where she had to have surgery. It was ovarian cancer. I was "there" for her whenever she needed me. I was too damn happy to have her as a "potential" girlfriend. Also, we would spend a lot of time talking about the future and planning a life together. Where we would live.
Fall of 2007 she told me she had been accepted into Colorado State University (CSU) and that she wanted to move to Fort Collins so she could be closer to me. I was stoked. Fort Collins is like seven hours from me by car. We'd talked about me moving down in the spring of 2008.
She come online one day in Feb/March of 2008 and said she was in Colorado looking for land to build a house and checking things out for school. I was stoked. I asked her if she wanted me to come down and help. She said no. I didn't hear from her for a few weeks but then she said she and her son had went on a road trip an hinted that they had gone to Canada. I was shocked. In order to go to Canada from Colorado via road they'd have to go through Billings, MT where I live. I asked why they didn't stop. She said that they didn't have time on the way up. So I suggested that they stop by on their way down and I'd take them to dinner, my treat. She said that she would talk to her son about it and see.
A few days later she was back in Tampa again. I asked her why they didn't stop and say hi. She said that her son didn't want to. I was shocked and pissed. I don't know how many times she has told me she loves me and how much she cares for me. How could she not stop and say hi when they drove through my own town, twice? I let things be but I was upset.
Eventually she moved to Colorado and still I was stoked. She had a house built in Fort Collins. We started chatting as she got ready for school. But she started meeting new people and we had kind of a "break up" where she told me all the stuff we'd talked about for our future wasn't true and she was never the girl for me. Of course I was devastated and heart broken. I'd argued and pleaded with her to reconsider (bad idea, I know) but that was that.
That happened through the summer of 2008 but she would always come on line and wanted to chat with me. So we would chat and play games on MSN and I would always wait and hope she would change her mind.
The September rolled around and we had a bit of a heated argument (online) and she stormed off. I was pissed to so I didn't care. That was on Sept. 15th a Monday. I didn't hear from her until the 19th (a Friday) and she dropped a bombshell on me. The cancer had come back and spread and she only had a few weeks to a month to live. I was devastated.
For the next month I would be there when ever she needed someone to talk to. However, there were a couple strange things that happened. When she broke the news she told me that she didn't want to talk about it when I asked how long and that her brother who had flown in from Florida when this happened, we'll call him R, had talked to the docs and knew how long she had and what her situation was. Apparently he had thought it important enough to call her parents and they were going to fly in the next week. Again she wanted me to come down and get married to her so she could die married to me and be happy. I was willing to do this as I wanted to get married to her all along and I'd do anything for her last wishes. Of course the next day those plans fell through.
She told me when her parents came she had a big fight with them and they flew back to Florida the next day. This sounded really strange to me. The other thing was that she sent her brother home about two weeks after he'd gotten there. I asked her who would take care of her and wasn't he worried that she might relapse. She informed me that he didn't know anything and she'd been keeping it all a secret from him. I told her that she'd told me that he knew everything and she'd not talked to the doctor. Completely opposite of what she told me. She said that she'd been lying to a lot of people lately. She also said she was going to stop treatment too.
