I am a 21 college student.I need some serious help about my jelousy problems.

[joy]

I am a 21 college student.I need some serious help about my jelousy problems.No its not about my girlfriend or anything.Its like when girls do not pay attention to me or do not respond to me as I want and do it to other guys I get really very jelous.And it lefts me feeling ashamed,depressed,frustrated.Sometimes so much that I do not even go out of my house these days because I fear that I will again feel these feelings.

I have never had any girlfriend but I am always angry at some guys who are good with girls and I always have a thought in my mind out of nowhere that they will still my girlfriend away from me and my girlfriend will leave me without hesitating.

I have also contacted many doctors but they all say only things like "Don't worry!You will have a girlfriend!Just wait for fate and everything else will take care of itself!You are a good guy" and "It's all in your head"

Is there any help for me?Is there any book that you have that deals with these problems?

Joy Partho.

 

[Juan_Man]

Every time you talk, ask out, date, enter into a relationship with a girl, go in with absolutely NO EXPECTATIONS. That will help you deal with jealousy issues. When you become more confident, then you can change this mindset.

 

[DarthAngel707]

Hey I get that to sometimes since women can be two-faced, but I realize that the more jealous you become the more power that women have over you. You need to rid yourself of that "deadly horseman" as Napoleon Hill calls it since it can corrode your life until you're emotionally broke.

Think about it: if you're not jealous and just accept that there are women out there for you, you will give off a much more satisfied, non-desperate vibe which women will find irresistible.

 

[daygameguy]

I have also contacted many doctors but they all say only things like "Don't worry!You will have a girlfriend!Just wait for fate and everything else will take care of itself!You are a good guy" and "It's all in your head"

lol.. they might be thinking "WOW. where do such guys come from!" lol.. but no disrespect dude.. being a good guy will get you good relationships with friends and family.

Jealousy will not go away until you get your OWN success. Try reading inner game stuff.

 

[abcd_z]

I would strongly suggest checking out CBT: Cognitive Behavior Therapy. Long story short, you've got automatic thoughts running through your head. Interpretations of the events, which in turn cause your unhappiness. Right now you need to change your thoughts and expectations before worrying about the interactions themselves. Otherwise you'll be coming into it with validation-seeking behavior, the interactions will get worse, and the problems you've been having will just be compunded.

Best of luck.