say you work with a girl, she LJBF's you, then starts dating someone. normally you could just peace out, but since you work with her you cant really avoid her. anyway-- say you always are doing fun/unique stuff, ie. hiking, car racing, going on overnight motorcycle trips etc. basically youre into something that most girls never do, yet would have a great(and very memorable) time if she did for once. But, since she ljbfed you, you dont really chat much except the normal work stuff. However, one day comes along and she asks what you did on the weekend, so you tell her about your amazing time doing whatever. heres the kicker, she responds with something like, "oh that sounds awesome, next time you do that let me know" What is your response?
ive had similiar situations come up and never had a 'great' answer. on the one hand i feel that bringing a girl on an action/adventure date, after the LJBF card has been played is a weak, AFC move. you want more than friends, she knows you want more than friends, and it gives her all the control, regardless of the actual funness of the date. you could always call her out on the LJBF, saying something about how you only show girls youre dating such a fun time. it would somewhat give you back the power, but also show her youre still bitter.
BUT... i also think you may beable to rock it if you take her out, forgetting about her bf and the friend card. you show her a great time, use some kino and typical c/f. then cut it short, drop her off and then go somewhat cold with her, without setting up another out-of-work rendezvous. let her see how she can be happy with you, but you are basically fine on your own and dont need her,or really care one way or another if she comes along again.
im interested in your thoughts and experiences with situations like this.
ive had similiar situations come up and never had a 'great' answer. on the one hand i feel that bringing a girl on an action/adventure date, after the LJBF card has been played is a weak, AFC move. you want more than friends, she knows you want more than friends, and it gives her all the control, regardless of the actual funness of the date. you could always call her out on the LJBF, saying something about how you only show girls youre dating such a fun time. it would somewhat give you back the power, but also show her youre still bitter.
BUT... i also think you may beable to rock it if you take her out, forgetting about her bf and the friend card. you show her a great time, use some kino and typical c/f. then cut it short, drop her off and then go somewhat cold with her, without setting up another out-of-work rendezvous. let her see how she can be happy with you, but you are basically fine on your own and dont need her,or really care one way or another if she comes along again.
im interested in your thoughts and experiences with situations like this.
