How would you play this

[confuscioused]

had a ONS with a chick, to make a long story short, we text back and forth the following days, she went out of town for four or five days which I didn't text her, she texted me couple days into it, had a friendly back and forth for 10 minutes than I blew her off for four days which I didn't text her. texted her and she basically said she doesn't want to talk to me, sorry. She left a valuable item at my house which she said she will pick it up at some point. How would you play this with this girl? I'm just going to not contact her until and if she contacts me to get her item she left which might never happen. I know not keeping in constant text contact didn't help things either after we had the ONS. yes I do have other girls going on but I hate any girl dropping out of my rotation as I do like her.

 

[MrNiceGuy23]

She texted you, you responded at first so she responded. You blew her off and texted her back later on which I'm guessing completely turn her off.

If you like a girl and she just blew off your texts for awhile and then messages you out of the blue, would you be mad that she blew you off and then acted like she didn't do anything rude to you?

Move on, she's gone.

 

[confuscioused]

I agree...anyway to get her back? I still don't know all the factors that contributed to her decision. how should I play it? I'm going NC because I feel she is very emotional right now with things going on in her life that I don't know about.

 

[AlphaAchiever]

had a ONS with a chick, to make a long story short, we text back and forth the following days, she went out of town for four or five days which I didn't text her, she texted me couple days into it, had a friendly back and forth for 10 minutes than I blew her off for four days which I didn't text her. texted her and she basically said she doesn't want to talk to me, sorry. She left a valuable item at my house which she said she will pick it up at some point. How would you play this with this girl? I'm just going to not contact her until and if she contacts me to get her item she left which might never happen. I know not keeping in constant text contact didn't help things either after we had the ONS. yes I do have other girls going on but I hate any girl dropping out of my rotation as I do like her.

You said you blew her off, what does that mean in this case, that you didnt answer her last message? Also, what did you write in your last text when she ditched you and how long did it take her to answer that?

 

[confuscioused]

had a friendly back and forth for 10 minutes than I blew her off for four days ...I ended the back and forth texting that Saturday night with "have a nice night as well" than I went 4 days without texting her. When she ditched me Friday the last thing I text her was "sorry you feel that way, you will be missed, take care" and she text back 5 minutes later "take care "

 

[Tiguere]

She riding the c0ck carousel. Leave her alone.

 

[SamTheHobit]

She riding the c0ck carousel. Leave her alone.

It's posts like these that keep me coming back to Sosuave xD +1

 

[confuscioused]

She riding the c0ck carousel. Leave her alone.

she indirectly hinted at getting back with her husband with "I completed my relationship with my ex" who she is separated from and has a 2 yr old with. I agree with what you are saying, but she is a very confused chick but so much fun in the sack..LOL...what does that statement mean? never heard it before.

 

[MrNiceGuy23]

I agree...anyway to get her back? I still don't know all the factors that contributed to her decision. how should I play it? I'm going NC because I feel she is very emotional right now with things going on in her life that I don't know about.

I'm not sure if getting her back is possible. Why'd you blow her off if you really like her?

Considering you two said your goodbyes, going NC probably won't do anything unless she is really messed up or you left a big impact on her, but you just had a ONS so she probably won't dwell on it.

If you go back to her you're going to look desperate considering what recently occurred.

If you really want to try I guess you could invite her out and try to build the rapport again, worst case scenario she blows you off and you're on to the next one.

Best of luck.

 

[confuscioused]

I'm not sure if getting her back is possible. Why'd you blow her off if you really like her?

Considering you two said your goodbyes, going NC probably won't do anything unless she is really messed up or you left a big impact on her, but you just had a ONS so she probably won't dwell on it.

If you go back to her you're going to look desperate considering what recently occurred.

If you really want to try I guess you could invite her out and try to build the rapport again, worst case scenario she blows you off and you're on to the next one.

Best of luck.

Thanks for the input. I delayed in texts, guess I got ****y and have her chase me or didn't want to come off as desperate or just sabotaged it because I do things like that. Fact is I think she might have gone back to her husband as they have a 2 yr old together. She also left a valuable item at my place that she said she will pick up in time. I think she thought I was dumping her so she dumped me as revenge and than throw in the back to the husband factor. Situation is complicated and there is stuff going on that I don't know about and probably never will afterall it was a ONS. I feel bad about the way I handled it because I like the girl but I think inevitably it would have ended sooner than later and subconsciously I knew this as many of my ONS do. It seems like for every 7 or 8 random hookups there is always that girl that has a little extra that intrigues you aside from how you met her where you sit back and just say wow that was a nice piece of ass and she knew how to use it and work it in the rack. LOL

 

[MrNiceGuy23]

She has a kid? You don't want to deal with that, that's way too many issues to delve into with a girl you had a ONS with.