How would you have played this situation?

[bobbob]

I was at a bar that has very long sofas the other night, and seated a few feet away from me were 2 very attractive girls. Unfortunately 2 guys were there, seated across from them. The girls didn't look too interested in them, but the guys never left so there wasn't a good opp to go up to them.

However the space next to the girl closest to me was unoccupied, and I could have moved myself over a few feet and sat right next to her.

I'm just wondering what anyone here would have done ... maybe some good ideas ... gonna go back there some time and the same situation might pop up again.

 

[allan976]

"the space next to the girl closest to me was unoccupied, and I could have moved myself over a few feet and sat right next to her."

Step 1: seat yourself in the unoccupied seat right next to the girl.

"I'm just wondering what anyone here would have done..."

Step 2: talk to her. Try "how are you doing?" "hey, what's up?" "hi," or "hi, my name is bob, what's your name?" "what are you drinking?" get it?

Step 2a: smile.

Step 2b: speak loudly, confidently.

Step 3: if she smiles and looks at you, keep talking.

Step 3a: if she seems lukewarm, keep talking.

Step 3b: if she seems lukewarm, try talking to her girlfriend.

Step 3c: introduce your friend to the girl or to her girlfriend if you want a wing.

Step 4: keep talking until you develop a rapport with the girl.

Step 5: introduce some kino. easy does it. Wait for her to go into a sexual state (read Gunwitch).

Step 5a: when she goes into a sexual state, isolate or semi-isolate the girl ('let's save some money on drinks. I've got some at my place).

Step 5b: if she raises objections, keep talking and introducing more kino.

Step 5c: if you're too drunk to get it up, get a number for later. If you're sober enough to remember your night and enjoy it, take her somewhere private.

Step 5d: move on to another set if there are no SOI from your current set.

Step 5e: repeat until the bar closes or until you close with a target.

Step 6: after you fyck it up, go home and read the DJ bible and the gunwitch method again.

Step 7: don't make me outline the DJ Bible and Gunwitch again. What the hell have you been doing in between your 119 posts?!

 

[bobbob]

So you wouldn't have given a crap that there were already 2 guys there huh? Ballsy, I give you props.

 

[allan976]

Bob, if those guys were wearing hell's angels jackets, then no. If the guys and gals are spooning, no. But as you put it:

"The girls didn't look too interested in them..."

Why not befriend the guys AND gals and find out the score? No need to ask directly, but either the guys or gals might drop a hint as to whether they're coupled up or not. If they are, you can eject and open up another set elsewhere. I'm in the middle of bootcamp, and a couple of times, I've started up convo's with a girl when her guy was seated right next to her or to me. When it was her boyfriend, he gave me a quick, polite, but definite hint that she was taken so that I could eject without losing face, and without him escalating into a more confrontational stance. Also, if you see the girl avoiding eye contact and deferring to the guy you suspect of being a boyfriend when you talk to her, that's another hint that she's taken.

But, you never know until you approach.
If they're NOT coupled up (that is, the male turns out to be a gay friend, or some loser she dragged along so she wouldn't have to go out alone, etc. etc.), hey...that's the situation you were looking for in the first place right?

Good luck with round two and post a field report.

PS: were these girls sitting across from the guys on the couch the ONLY pretty girls in the entire joint? Seems like you shoulda opened up some more sets, or at least looked around for more targets, unless it was a very, very slow night at this particular bar.

PS2: a while back, I was at a bar in the midwest and had one drink too many. I saw a girl who looked reasonably attractive and chatted her up for about 5 minutes. She was friendly, but seemed a little uncomfortable with the situation. Standing to my side was a guy with a drink in his hand, patiently watching us both with a shy, embarrassed grin. After I gave up on her, I started talking to my friends again. I turned back to look at the girl, and the guy who had been watching us was all over the girl, hugging her, kissing her, laughing, and so on. Yup, her boyfriend was polite enough to wait for me to finish with my set! This was a bar in a friendly midwestern college town though, so I don't recommend you try this just anywhere.

 

[bobbob]

Heya ... the girl closest to me kept looking over in our direction but made only the briefest eye contact ...

It would have been the 2nd CA of the night and the first one didn't go over. My balls weren't big enough at that moment to inject myself into a group of 4 people.

Ya they were pretty much the only attractive girls at that place that weren't obviously taken.

It probably wouldn't have been a big deal to go up to their whole group. I gotta stop constructing mental blocks in my head!

I'll post an FR if I go out this week ... good luck with your boot camp!

 

[allan976]

Should you approach girls in mixed two or four sets? Check it out:

http://theasianplayboy.blogspot.com/

 

[blinkwatt]

the only thing we should ask ourselves when we run into this situation is
"is there a ring on her finger?"

 

[scordate]

well, how about trying this;

standing at the bar, then going quickly down to them, standing behind the guys, adressing the prettier girl;
hi there, Joe the bartender up at the bar said he had time for you to check for your lost ear-ring now, giving her a good wink and a big smile

if she goes to the bar, go with her and say; ok seiously it was the best I could think of in the spur of the moment, but you looked that you were having an awfull time so I thought I'd rescue you if only for 5 minutes !

/ scordate