How to tell your girl to lose weight?

[Naked_Elephant]

Going out with this really gorgeous babe but let's say she could lose some weight...

How can I tell her that she would look drop dead gorgeous if she slimmed down a little?

Thanks guys

 

[check_mate_kid_uk]

rather then telling her get her in to some kind of sport, then you dont have to tell her, telling her is bad as it seems like thats all you care about, so just get her to do sport with you, could go swimming or jogging or cycling etc even to the gym.

 

[diablo]

Anything Else...

 

[undesputable]

The first thing you want to take into consderation is that you want to tell her she needs to loose weight for her own benefit, not yours, and approach the subject in a mature way. What i mean by this is that all people no matter if is your girl, your wife or your mom, care more about themselves and about what they want, whats good for them and what they should do, than what you want, what you think is good for them, or what you want them to do. So you got to make her want too loose weight for her own benefit.

Now that you know this, come up with a way to tell her.

 

[Alpine]

Leave her.

All birds lose 20 lbs when they are out of the comfort zone and have to pick up a new bloke, (and that's after binging on chocolate for a few weeks).

When she's thin consider taking her back so long as she promises never to get over a certain weight.

Weigh her regularly, if she is over have a three strikes your out rule, that should stop her filling her fat face

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Did she gain the weight while you were dating or are you trying to play the game that women play of trying to change their mate? If she was already overweight, why did you start dating her if you didn't like it? That's kinda weak.

 

[CableLight]

Know what a reall good workout is? Sex. You burn many, many Calories doing it, especially if you can go for a while. It's science.

Suggest she takes up the "Bonefest 2005" diet and watch those pounds melt away!

 

[Naked_Elephant]

thanks

Thx guys.
Some comments...

She was already a bit chubby when we first got together.

Francisco, what is wrong with wanting to change her even though I already do like her? I´ve been going to the gym regularly and am quite built and defined, I like her, and I think it wouldn't be wrong for me to want her to care for her body as much as I do.

If she didn't want to, then that would be something else.

 

[Naked_Elephant]

hehe

Originally posted by CableLight
Know what a reall good workout is? Sex. You burn many, many Calories doing it, especially if you can go for a while. It's science.

Suggest she takes up the "Bonefest 2005" diet and watch those pounds melt away!

I'll try that, we've only been together once and I did most of the exercise... I'll change that next time Thanks

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Re: thanks

Originally posted by Naked_Elephant
Thx guys.
Some comments...

She was already a bit chubby when we first got together.

Francisco, what is wrong with wanting to change her even though I already do like her? I´ve been going to the gym regularly and am quite built and defined, I like her, and I think it wouldn't be wrong for me to want her to care for her body as much as I do.

If she didn't want to, then that would be something else.

I understand what you are saying and it's commendable that you chose to date her based primarily on personality. Given that, it could be taken as a bit deceitful to start to date her and implying that you like her appearance then once she is committed, you let her know that you would like her to change. It just seems a bit underhanded.

I'm not saying that wanting a fit woman is a bad thing. It's one of my prerequisites before dating a woman. That's why I focus my efforts on women that already are trim and who exercise regularly.

I just suggest that you handle this very carefully or you will hear this same conversation from your girl sooner or later. Instead of focusing on her need to change her habits and lifestyle, try telling her that you want to share in one another's life (yeah, that's womaneese).

Go out and do thing together that's active AND fun but not seemingly like work. I ride my bike a ton, rollerblade, play tennis and volleyball more often than I work out in a club. You don't want her to think that you are so focused on her weight, you just want to spend more time together.

If you're lucky, she'll see and enjoy the improvements in her physique and will want to get into a true fitness regime. Also don't forget to make an effort to eat balanced meals together using portion control.

One last thing, be prepared to change something about yourself if she is the type of person who plays tit for tat. If she has to change something you don't like, you should change something about yourself that she doesn't like. I'm not saying it's right, but some women think that way.

 

[Naked_Elephant]

thank you

By your clarification I see I agree with you. And you've also opened my eyes to a couple of things. I have complimented her on her body despite the fact I think its "improvable", so I'm guilty as far as that goes.

I'm ready to change anything about myself as long as its for the better. That´s what I am all about, that's my spirit. Being the best I can be.

Thanks for your reply Francisco.

 

[Bonhomme]

If you have the old type of bed...

... the kind with the bed boards underneath to hold the box spring and mattress in place...

Move the bedboards so they are right on the edge of their tracks, so when she jumps on the bed ... CLUNK! ... the whole bed falls down.

JUST KIDDING!!!

I could not resist. But seriously, I'd go with the exercise and good diet thing. You're cut, so that should not come as a surprise to her, right? Wait for her to bring it up, so you can come across as helpful, rather than insulting or negative.