How to tell if girl is interested or being friendly?

[wannab2008]

Hey guys need your help. I know this girl back from college and she knows that I am interested in her because I told her so over email. Fast forward a few years she is in a different city to which I will be visiting. I contacted her to see if she wanted to get together and she does and even gave her number. Now I don't know whether this is friendliness or interest. Thanks!

 

[GuanYu]

There's no real way to know until you go out on the date. Since you already told her you're interested maybe she's curious to see what you have to offer. It's up to you to show her how much you like her and see if she reciprocates.

 

[EvilAgenda]

Like Guan said,,you can't tell for sure from this. You can only guess.

But hey,,since she did give you her number,,and if she does meet you,,that means she made plans to be out with you.

Then it's going to be your job to communicate to her your high status,,and be on the look out for clues whether or not she is interested.

 

[wjh]

and be on the look out for clues whether or not she is interested.

That just seems so feminine to me. Look for clues as to whether or not she's interested?

You can play that dumb game for hours/days/weeks/months.

You have to be proactive and seek what you want, and if you don't get it within an allotted time frame, you move on and stop wasting your resources (time/money/energy). You can't simply date and be reactive to little signs she may be throwing out at you (or not!).

 

[Tazman]

The question isn't relevant..........yet.

 

[wannab2008]

re:

well I have never spilled my guts to any girl. I was just being direct and told her that I was interested in her. That is literally what I said. The only reason I got interested was mainly because I thought she was interested in me first. I prefer being direct even if get shot down, doesn't matter to me. So then am I wasting my time, should I just not meet up with her?

 

[wannab2008]

re..

oh yeah she did reach out to me through facebook, I didn't initiate anything she did, thats how we got back in contact after like 4 years.

 

[edger]

I was just being direct and told her that I was interested in her. That is literally what I said.

This is so basic, that you never tell her you're interested in her first. Unfortunatley this is how the game is played, or else you lose(her interest that is). I haven't heard of it played otherwise, with a good outcome. I would guess you knew that, but just lost control of yourself and f*cked up.

 

[wannab2008]

re....

also me and her were never friends in college, barely acquaintances, we never even hung out once. So are you guys saying that I should not waste my time and energy and just not meet with her then? I'm so lost.

 

[Rhoto]

Touch, body language and level of laughter will usually determine that.

Though - interested is a very broad term. Chicks are interested in meeting guys, period. If you were a cool guy to her, then ya she probably wanting to see you.

You need to make sure to touch or generate some sexual tension to get her to picture you in that regard, rather than some average nice guy.

Ask her out for drinks.

 

[horaholic]

Nobody's telling you NOT to do it. Even if you knew she wasnt interested, its worth going out with her once to see if she changes her mind. Stop analyzing it, and assume the sale.

 

[Jitterbug]

If she's friendly and wants to catch up, she might be interested. Just assume that she is, go with the flow until she says no. Easy peasy.

 

[Freeman]

She isn't into you. She already knows you like her since you spilled your guts to her in college, yet never reached out to you once. You two were friends and she's agreed to meet you as you pass through town like friends do.

Why should today be any different then years ago? You don't think she hasn't been riding local c0ck this whole time?

Show up with a dozen roses.

lol!funny as hell but so true-not saying that you dont have any chance of getting some-but just dont count on it-broads have a way being able to do "interest deception" sometimes and you have to be alert to this sh*t. What I mean is that sometimes a woman tell you things that you wanna hear to make you THINK something is going romantic between the two of you when in reality she is just using you like a magazine at a doctor's office..

Remember: Dont pay attention to the MAGIC and watch the ACTION

 

[wannab2008]

re

she can be banging local **** all she wants, good for her. The only reason I literally said "I was interested in you" was because I figured I would never ever see her again so I didn't care. Just so happens that I will be in the same city as her so I asked her if she wanted to meet up.

 

[Maxtro]

I've read somewhere that you should assume ALL girls are interested. Then you have to SHOW them that you are interested. If you don't show them your interest soon enough the interest that she had in you will drop. The funny thing is that even though her interest level in you has dropped she may still want to spend time with you. Beware that trap. You don't want to go through what I did.

I don't know who said it first but, "Make the ho say no."

 

[DonGorgon]

You cant tell... you just have to run your game and make ur moves.. womens state changes constantly. so one minute she wants to F you and the next she does not...