Conversation Tips, all from the DJ Bible;
-) Observe/Comment on something she has/wearing/doing, broaden the topic after.
-) Give unique complements.
-) Have a real curiosity to find out about the person in front of you.
-) Be a good listener and hear what she is saying, this will lead to numerous topics. You lead, she follows.
-) Intrigue her, make her think. Ask 'daring' or 'silly' questions. Open the topic and make her laugh about it.
-) Ask opinion on: the present situation, clothes, hobbies, likes/dislikes. sex, kissing, food, the future, past, family.
-) Have fun and it will all work out. Be a talk show host, keep it going but let there be moments of silence.
-) Let her do most of the talking. All you do is prep her and let her go. You come in where you need to and keep it rolling.
Question & descriptions. Ask 'What..?' 'Have you ever..?' 'How do you feel...?" questions.
-) Question her on the same subject, stick to the subject. If she just went to Hawaii, ask a bunch of Hawaii questions.
-) Rephrase whatever she says and feed it back to her; 'so you think I should cut my hair?' 'so, you believe he did it?'
-) "My girlfriend Sharon told me I should do some modeling before I go into the army." Topics: 1)Sharon2)modeling3)army
-) Open up her answers. Her: "I like a guy with muscles." You: "How does a guy with muscles make you feel?" Her: "Protected." Now you can do that.
Connecting through Understanding and Relating
Integrate Paraphrasing, Word Substitution, Experience and Preference Relating, and Delayed follow up Questioning;
Her: I went to France for a month.
You: How was it over in France?
Her: I liked it. I visited some of my relatives in Paris.
You: I haven’t been to Paris yet. I wonder if I’d like it there …(she might interject with ‘you’d like it, it’s nice there’)...how often do you visit your relatives over there?
1) Words used in Substitution:
‘France’, ‘Paris’, ‘Visit’, ‘Relatives’… - (demonstrates listening, basic paraphrasing and superficial understanding).
2) Experience Relating:
‘I haven’t been to Paris yet…’ - (demonstrates listening and understanding)
3) Preference Relating:
‘I wonder if I’d like it there …’ - (demonstrates listening and understanding)
4) Delayed Follow-Up Questioning:
‘…how often do you visit your relatives over there?’… - (demonstrates basic listening and paraphrasing)
