how to take it to the next level

[Packers2010]

ok. i have a big problem right now..

i see the girl. I go into my head. I get that feeling ( the bad kind that fooks you up, you know the one i mean) then i don't approach



How do i get past this

i need something a little more then... just approach that's like telling an alcoholic.. just don't drink...

i need a way around this. i see girls EVERYWHERE! since I have started the game i see the way more.. I feel like i am close to getting there but something is stopping me. once I get passed this, i feel like i will have so much success so quickly because i have so much game crammed in my head.

i also have the problem of not going out. I just came back to Perth and i am now studding , so i am going to be here for awhile. I told one of my afc friends about the game today. he has a sick job and makes some good money he's a cool guy and i think he will benefit from the game. i also asked him to be my wing, so once i get him started on the videos and he sees what's possible I think he will want to go out heaps.

my brain still thinks talking to girls is wrong. like if i go say hello, it won't be a pleasant exp. my mind needs to change.

what could I do to help me get over this. i feel I am close to my leverage point and it's going to snap soon. i just need that final push

 

[Purefilth]

Bootcamp?

 

[Aristippus]

I'm personally not a big fan of the bootcamp mentality. I think a person shouldn't feel like every time they're out and every time they go somewhere they're supposed to be approaching women. Sometimes you just need to relax and enjoy yourself and not think about them.

I think it's far better to integrate it into the things you normally do. And to also decide that you'll also give yourself mental space AWAY FROM WOMEN. Otherwise you'll start killing the enjoyment of simply being able to have your leisure time without putting pressure on yourself everywhere you go.

Off the top of my head, here's one way you could handle this. For one or two months, you are NOT to ask for dates. You simply have conversations with women who are near you. Just simple, innocent conversations. You don't make special trips anywhere or take a chunk out of your day to do this. You simply do this during your everyday routines. Like having a little conversation with a cashier if you're grocery shopping or talking about a book you enjoy to a woman at the bookstore. Do this until having conversations with them becomes comfortable.

That's step one. Step two. After a month or two of becoming comfortable talking with women, start noticing if there are women you are having really good conversations with or that you're getting very good reactions from. If you're having a good conversation and/or if the woman is flirting with you, end the conversation on a high note and get her number.

You only get the number from women who are responding favorably. That's the rule when it comes to timing. If your conversation is awkward and the whole interaction feels awkward and she seems indifferent, just end the conversation without asking for a number.

If you want to practice your conversation skills on a lot of women in a short period of time, try dance classes. Dance classes that require a partner. Like ballroom dancing or Latin dance classes. You'll put yourself in a position where you get to talk to a lot of women and it will seem perfectly normal. In fact, in that setting, not talking to them would be considered rude. You're basically creating scenarios where it's easy to practice your conversation skills.

When getting a number, I like to get the number as part of an invitation. "Hey. I want to try this new place out. You can join me if you'd like. What's a good number for me to reach you?". I also will sometimes offer my number as a way to test her interest. "I want to try out this new place. If you'd like to go, just give me a call. Here's my number.". Sometimes she'll offer her number once you give her your number. Other times she'll call you. Other times she won't call. Either way, you've just tested her interest level.