How to strip the 'power' of the girl when approaching..

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For all the great advice on this site, I'd say most people lose all this great wisdom in their mind during that moment they see a girl they want to approach and talk too. Obviously, fear kicks in. I've experienced this many times in my life.

If you have, then try this.

I would like to think that most of you guys have achieved some great things in your life. Achievements and experiences that you are proud off. Through hobbies, interests, career etc. etc.

All this is lost when you want to speak to that girl though. Fear overrides. Anxiety kicks in and you don't show your best self - Even though you've accomplished many great things in your life.

So, we need to feel good before we approach. A lot of us carry phones which stores pictures. Now pick a photo which shows you at your best. Not one of you posing in a selfie. A photo that you are really fvcking proud off. Eg. Maybe an image of you skydiving, a place you travelled too, a pic with your team mates winning a cup, a graduation photo...etc. etc.

Save it on your phone.

When you see a girl you'd like to talk too. Look at the pic on your phone - relive that great moment briefly and approach the girl, smile and say 'hi'. Ask for her name. She will most likely be curious and ask about you.

You see, you are still the same person but you are now approaching in a position of strength backed up with good feelings. Feelings based on something that you've achieved in your life which she probably hasn't done. You are subtley showing that you are at least level with her or above.

She will recognize this good feeling. She will realise your lack of fear.
She will notice your confidence.

She will respond with a smile.

If you haven't got any good pics of yourself or haven't got any great accomplishments......then I suggest you build a life through hobbies and interests. It's never too late.

Try it out guys. It's worked for me.

Happy approaching.
 

TheShrew

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NLP anchoring. Having a picture as an anchor is for sure better than some kinesthetic thing or dancing around since it just looks like a normal look for the time or a text message. ´

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El Payaso

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BraddH said:
Deep down you know that you are doing this just to get her. She has the power.
Isn't approach to "get" a girl? It's about how you do it not why you do it.
 
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BraddH said:
Deep down you know that you are doing this just to get her. She has the power.

Well obviously.......I'll always approach something that 'attracts' me just for the benefits of gain.

It's called clarity and honesty in myself.

If she comes along for the ride......great.
If not......see ya.

Guys are deluded if they approach randoms just to be random.
 

Yewki

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My biggest accomplishment is getting 3rd place at a costume contest during the Star Trek convention in 95... but whenever I look at the picture, I just cry. Oh god, this is not helping.
 
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