Lonely? Depressed? Bored?
Humans being social creatures we “NEED” other human contact to be stay physiologically healthy. Being isolated has many negative impacts on a person’s life, even in the animal kingdom a social animal needs its own kind to socialize with in order to live a happy and healthy life. This is why it is difficult to breed some animals in captivity. A person can actually physically feel pain from prolong isolation.
But the good news is you don’t have be alone. Even if you don’t have any friends right now, this guide will help you build your social circle from scratch. Before we start there are couple of things that we need to commit to. You have to want some people in your life, you have to be willing take some risks and put your self out there, your going have to be very flexible with your schedule. And most importantly you have to commit to having fun and not letting small things get you out of state of being a cool guy who is awesome to be around. Now that we took care of that, lets go meet some new friends. Ill tell you guys the exact steps that need to do get people become your friends, (for those of us that may need a little instruction on how to do it) in different situations.
The very best place to meet new people are at college, in fact this is were most people find there life long friends and spouses. The best places to meet new people in college;
Freshmen orientation
In classes
Library or study center
Clubs
Sporting events or school events
Dorm
Non academic classes (Boxing, yoga, weights)
Obviously you can meet people anywhere but these places are most common places.
Freshmen orientation- In most universities freshmen orientation takes place the day before classes are scheduled to start, at this point hardly any one knows any one else. So every one is basically on an even playing field, as fare as social groups are concerned, this is by far the easiest place to make new friends because no one will have any. Just start talking to the people next to you, make guy friends first, believe me if you build your social circle strong enough girls will be easy to meet after. Talk to the guy sitting next to you for a while introduce your self, and try to find some thing common that you both share. “oh no way bro, I played football in H.S too“, share a story or two, bla bla bla. After you a have rapport going with your new friend get the guy on the other side of you involved too, introduce your new friends to each other if they haven’t done it already. And there you go you just started building your circle.
Library/study center- Take you home work, to the study center, and sit at a table with some one on the other side or next to you. (go when its most busy, with the most people) This is all you have to do to get a conversation going, look at the book that person next to you is working on and repeat the title back to him in a impressed sort of voice. “oh man, physiology 101” smile make eye contact, most likely he will say some thing about the class, and you just pick it up from there. Go get some thing to eat after you guys are done studying. (if its some thing small offer to pay for it, do you cheap basterd)
You can probably already see a the formula from the above example, Ill break it down some more for those of you who likes step by step directions.
1. Go where people of your own age and interests will gather.
2. Break the ice, assume rapport
3. Establish commonalities
4. Go get some thing to eat, drink, or what ever.
5. Call back in a day or so(you did a number right), don’t wait for them to call you first, people are lazy.
6. If some one invites you to some thing, just fvcking go, so you don’t want to go to a lame ass party, suck it up until you have a group of friends that your style.
At work do the steps and be cool, friendly guy. You can do this just about every where but school and work has the highest demographic of people in your age range. Cheers J
Humans being social creatures we “NEED” other human contact to be stay physiologically healthy. Being isolated has many negative impacts on a person’s life, even in the animal kingdom a social animal needs its own kind to socialize with in order to live a happy and healthy life. This is why it is difficult to breed some animals in captivity. A person can actually physically feel pain from prolong isolation.
But the good news is you don’t have be alone. Even if you don’t have any friends right now, this guide will help you build your social circle from scratch. Before we start there are couple of things that we need to commit to. You have to want some people in your life, you have to be willing take some risks and put your self out there, your going have to be very flexible with your schedule. And most importantly you have to commit to having fun and not letting small things get you out of state of being a cool guy who is awesome to be around. Now that we took care of that, lets go meet some new friends. Ill tell you guys the exact steps that need to do get people become your friends, (for those of us that may need a little instruction on how to do it) in different situations.
The very best place to meet new people are at college, in fact this is were most people find there life long friends and spouses. The best places to meet new people in college;
Freshmen orientation
In classes
Library or study center
Clubs
Sporting events or school events
Dorm
Non academic classes (Boxing, yoga, weights)
Obviously you can meet people anywhere but these places are most common places.
Freshmen orientation- In most universities freshmen orientation takes place the day before classes are scheduled to start, at this point hardly any one knows any one else. So every one is basically on an even playing field, as fare as social groups are concerned, this is by far the easiest place to make new friends because no one will have any. Just start talking to the people next to you, make guy friends first, believe me if you build your social circle strong enough girls will be easy to meet after. Talk to the guy sitting next to you for a while introduce your self, and try to find some thing common that you both share. “oh no way bro, I played football in H.S too“, share a story or two, bla bla bla. After you a have rapport going with your new friend get the guy on the other side of you involved too, introduce your new friends to each other if they haven’t done it already. And there you go you just started building your circle.
Library/study center- Take you home work, to the study center, and sit at a table with some one on the other side or next to you. (go when its most busy, with the most people) This is all you have to do to get a conversation going, look at the book that person next to you is working on and repeat the title back to him in a impressed sort of voice. “oh man, physiology 101” smile make eye contact, most likely he will say some thing about the class, and you just pick it up from there. Go get some thing to eat after you guys are done studying. (if its some thing small offer to pay for it, do you cheap basterd)
You can probably already see a the formula from the above example, Ill break it down some more for those of you who likes step by step directions.
1. Go where people of your own age and interests will gather.
2. Break the ice, assume rapport
3. Establish commonalities
4. Go get some thing to eat, drink, or what ever.
5. Call back in a day or so(you did a number right), don’t wait for them to call you first, people are lazy.
6. If some one invites you to some thing, just fvcking go, so you don’t want to go to a lame ass party, suck it up until you have a group of friends that your style.
At work do the steps and be cool, friendly guy. You can do this just about every where but school and work has the highest demographic of people in your age range. Cheers J
