How to reduce flaking by Badboy

[Solomon]

Got this from Badboy's forum, I truly belive that he is right with number 1, the more time you spend, and build a connection the less likely a girl is to flake, does it mean you can't get a day2 of a 5 minute talking/approach? of course not but IME the more you stick around and there is genuine connection, the easier it is to smash!

Badboy
I will be so kind and help you..
I don't have enough information ( details I need), Because flake area is wide. many things you do can result as a flake....
I will write mini quide for you list that you may be doing wrong....
try to focus on those/fix them, and you will see problem will be solved.

1)stay with a girl for 30-45 minutes, talking, change venues if possible ( creates rapport)

2)don't talk about her or about yourself ONLY. on the end, she should have feeling that she knows things about you, and you know things about her.If you only talk about her, she will feel she doesn't know anything about you.

3) 3-5minutes before you go for a phone close, do a future date planning...based by the info you gathered in 45min, plan to do something, that goes along with her hobbies/dreams... not solid plan (too much pressure for her), but more like "wow, we both like this, we should do this together one day..." and leave it open.

4) phone close
after you feel there is enough attraction and connection between 2 of you, do :
" this was very interesting conversation, lets continue this some other day.... here write down you phone number... I will call you"

5) Nick name her * and use that name to save in your cellphone.
"aghh, I have too many people with your name in my cellphone, so we have to nickname you....you have any cool nickname?
In most cases, there won get anything out from her.
give her some funny nickname, ( not insulting) but cute & funny. Something from conversation or dressing style
so if a girl is slim, perfect body, I will call her fatty Grin
If she has a lots of cats/pets..... "Zoo girl" Smiley
If she is not going out alot/staying home ....."Miss advanture"
Or standard once : My future girlfriend, GF material / Booty call#5 ....

why nicknames??
because you are linking whole date/meeting with that nickname...
when you call/text her.... you just mention that nickname, she will know exactly who is it... anchor!


6) Once you type in that number, CALL HER
you are checking is number right + she will have your number
sometimes I take her phone, and write dowb my name in her phonebook ... hehe

7) Once you get number, don't eject/leave (It will look like whole goal of it was to get her number.. result flake) but stay/talk +5 minutes after getting umber, and eject smoothly...." I have to go back to my friends, It was nice meeting you.."

Cool TRY TO NOT pickup other girls in front of her, she wont feel special/and you may get into player category, flake again.

9) don't build any sexual pressure on her for next meeting, that is big cause of flakes!

10) If you are calling them tomorrow and trying to get them to meet you , again you will get lots of flakes.
the right way is texting!!


sent text next day during afternoon...something like " hey (Nickname)... I was just walking down the street and I saw X(something), which reminded me on you...I am enjoying this beautiful afternoon,having fun with my friends. Hows your day? going out tonight as well?"

Its important to end text(sms) with a question!! so she feels obligated to reply.

11) do not invite her to day2 (meeting) in first 5 text's... they have it, and will flake for sure...
so, keep texting with her for a day or 2, and then invite her for a COFFEE... (this way you will have 100% smooth success)

Fallow this, and you will see you will get rid of flakes for ever!!
Keep me informed how it goes.

enjoy.

 

[Nutz]

Mostly standard community knowledge, but there's a few nuggets of wisdom in there.

 

[COD]

typos

women reject men for all sorts of silly reasons that are not always logical. If you over-stay your welcome in her presence, if you are on the phone and things are going south, you stand the risk of trying to compensate back to equilibrium. You have just entered the desperation zone. Looking for ways to gain her approval, showing indications of being needy, clingy, jealous, getting defensive, in short you went from a man to a wuss in under sixty seconds.

Trying to convince a girl that you are a great catch just to gain her acceptance is detrimental to your mental health. Forget trying to figure out what you did wrong, what you could have said differently, if only you used more cologne, do not self deprecate, etc. This is just a huge waste of time, it drains all of your energy, and you may in fact never discover the true answer.

Here is the cliché`…are you ready…WHO CARES, who gives a rats ass why she is not into you. Suck it up, take a short time out, recompose yourself and say the following words three times….I am da man……. NEXT. Seriously, if a gal flakes on you then you need to adopt the philosophy of it’s her loss, no need to inform her, just smile and move on. Sounds simple enough but there are so many guys that hang in there looooong after they should have left. You must learn that there are times when a man has to eject PRIOR to a situation going awry.

Stop focusing all your valuable attention on one particular individual. Having options is the quickest way to recover from minor set-backs, it’s a time saver. Think of it like this; if she is quick to rule you out she may not be the cool chic you originally thought she was. She may be high maintenance or a complete dud. You are actually doing her a favor be ejecting early. You are the prize not her, stop acting like she is.

Now the next time you encounter a woman that is not that into you…….be aware there is another one that will be into you right around the corner. Now go find a lady who will enhance your life instead of hindering it.

SPIN MORE PLATES...........

SPECIFICS.............2 reduce fake #'s repeat her digits out of sequence or use her cell to call your phone.

REDUCE VOICEMAIL NON COMPLIANCE-text first with nic name

REDUCE EMAIL NON RESPONSE-send a clever "hey miss 2 busy 2 respond" email enticement

REDUCE NO SHOWS-text/call to confirm if they are going to be late, dont make date too far in advance.......things happen, plans change.

REDUCE NON REPONSIVE TEXT/IM-send a teaser, use the features on messager service (pings, buzz, smiley cons, WTF, etc)

 

[dbot]

Flaking rarely has anything to do with rejection... it has to do with unclear intentions or lack of direction. Allow me to explain:

If you're talking to a girl and you straight up ask for her number without preceding your request with a reasonable proposal, then there will be a high chance that she'll flake on you. Consider the following:

"May I have your number?" Even if you've been chatting with her for a few minutes, asking for her number without making your intentions clear makes it much more likely for her to be flaky or less responsive. It may seem obvious to you, but if you're not clear on why you want her number or what you plan to do with it, then don't expect much from her.

"hey I gotta run, but would you like to go out or something later in the week? [if yes] Great, let me get your number." See the difference? She KNOWS why you want her number... so you can call her later in the week for a date. She's already agreed to your tentative plans and will almost surely not flake on you (unless of course she has a legitimate reason).

 

[facadegeniality]

Solomon: Hi solomon, i tried to pm you but your inbox is full. May i know the url for badboy's forum? thanks in advanced

 

[Solomon]

www.direct-method.com

 

[COD]

CHICS ARE NOT THAT LAME...........hey can I get your number I just love bird watching.................

ANY BS REASON U GIVE..................chics know you have another agenda...........ya maybe we should hang out sometime, lets exchange #'s..............PULLEASE.................after you bang that chic ask her if she thought U were sincere in just being casual and just how innocent the asking her number was..........DUDE..............THEY KNOW THE REAL REASON.

I WILL CONCURE ITS HOW U ASK..............and timing..........a flake is very similar to a rejection. U asked her to call you she didnt, U asked to meet at bar XYZ, she stood U up...............Not sure but I think thats pretty damn close to a rejection. VERY FEW WOMEN SAY NO THANX, I THINK U ARE A LOSER.............most just dont respond (flake) stand U up (flake), reschedule (flake), change their minds (flake) all of which are a form of rejection.

ITS SAMATICS.........bottom line is there are like a BAZILLION REASONS why chics flake.........not just cause U speed seduced or quick number extracted.

Now If U got her digits and immedieatly split or hit on anotehr chic in her field of vision.............ya this behavior might be a contributing factor in her flaking. Being natural and smooth and appearring sincere.........dont be fooled if a chic is remotely attracted to you..........SHE DONT GIVE A RATTS BEHIND how innocent and sincere U were............SHE HOPES YOU WILL CALL, she KNOWS U WILL CALL, SHE IS EXPECTING YOUR CALL...........JUST LIKE ANY OTHER DUDE BEFORE YOU.

So if I walked up and said "hey let me see your cell phone for a moment".........then called my phone...........handed it back to her and walked away............then called her.......I to extract a date.

If I walked up to her and said wow thats a fricken cool purse, where did u get it..........was it on sale, blah blah banter, rapport, fluff, connection then at the end said we should get together some time and play some pool. It may appear natural............but in the end both would work just fine. Theres NO SCIENTIFIC EVIDENCE THAT SUPPORTS FLAKING IS DECREASE BY THE DURATION EXPOSURE................

I seen cool guys walk up do the hit me with your digits biatch and get laid that night and I seen the natural approach...........not convinced flaking is indicative of they way inwhich U asked or speed in which you extracted digits.

Way too many other outside variables to mention.