How to re-establish FWB?

[-deejay-]

A little over a year ago, I had a FWB. It was probably the best FWB I've had. There was never any drama and it was always known between us that we would never be in a relationship with each other. I met her on match.com.

I then met someone on match as well (who ended up my GF later) and I ended the FWB situation with the other girl by disappearing. I remember I had updated my relationship situation on Facebook and the FWB liked that status update.

Well, the relationship ended in May and since then I've gotten back on match.com. I noticed that my FWB is still on there with an active profile.

I still have her phone #.

Is it possible to rekindle the FWB with that girl? If so, what would be the best approach? Just call her out of the blue? Text? Email?

Thanks in advance.

 

[alpha_ash]

Mistake #1 You don't add FWB or GF to facebook. You pretend like you don't use FB.

Mistake #2 Giving up the FWB.

Mistake #3 Over-analyzing your decision to contact ex-FWB

 

[-deejay-]

Mistake #1 You don't add FWB or GF to facebook. You pretend like you don't use FB.

Mistake #2 Giving up the FWB.

Mistake #3 Over-analyzing your decision to contact ex-FWB

#1 - this happened over a year ago, so it's kind of moot that they were added to my Facebook page. The ex has been removed but the FWB is still there. I hardly use FB anyway.

#2 - so you recommend keeping a FWB in a relationship? hmm... What's the point of being in a LTR then?

#3 - so what you're saying is to just hit her up?

 

[alpha_ash]

#1 - this happened over a year ago, so it's kind of moot that they were added to my Facebook page. The ex has been removed but the FWB is still there. I hardly use FB anyway.

#2 - so you recommend keeping a FWB in a relationship? hmm... What's the point of being in a LTR then?

#3 - so what you're saying is to just hit her up?

Absolutely. Call and just ask hows it going, and invite her come to your place or vice versa.

 

[-deejay-]

Ok, cool. Will do that. Thanks.

 

[-deejay-]

You guys were FWB, not bf/gf. Any contact you make with her has only one motive, and she knows it. There's nothing wrong with that though, but just so we are clear she is going to know why you are hitting her up. Any small talk you make is just fluff around the big picture of getting in her pants.

Contact will let her know you are single and mingling for some juice. Whether she is willing to play or not is what's going to make this fwb a salvageable situation.

That's true. Good point.

Let's say she does ask, point blank, why I'm hitting her up. I'm not sure what else to say except "Because I wanna hang out". You think that would be enough without saying too much?

 

[-deejay-]

She may ask you this simply to distinguish herself from the common wh0re. She knows why you're hitting her up, but she doesn't want it overtly communicated. This is why you must respond with something like "saw xxxx the other day when I was out and it reminded me of you. By the way, how have you been? It's been a while." Something that's not too invasive and eases your way back into conversation. After she is done spouting off whatever random sh!t she has been up to you can take a deep breath and ask her: "Cool cool sounds like we've got a lot to catch up on! Let's meet up during the week for a quick drink."

If you do it right, you've eased yourself into an opportunity where you can at the very least, reconnect. Like I said though, she is aware of why you are meeting. If she is just a true jumpoff though and seriously the only times you hungout were during the 2 minutes prior to secks, 3 minutes of secks, and 1 minute after secks, then you can be a lot more blunt about it and just say you want to "meet up like old times."

Sound advice. Thanks again!

But, when we were "hanging out", at times there was more than just "2 minutes prior to secks, 3 minutes of secks, and 1 minute after secks". Occasionally, there were instances where either she stayed the night at my place or vice versa. oh well.

this may be a good "experiment" for me as i feel i have nothing to lose.

 

[Harry Wilmington]

This is gonna sound like the dumbest ploy ever, but I've had it work for me before...

"Words With Friends."

Download the game on your phone, hit her up and see if she's down to play the game with you. Then, during the game, be a ****y S.O.B. telling her how much you're going to beat her, cracking jokes on her, etc. Basically, showing her you're still the fun guy she used to hang out with.

After a couple of games (i.e. once the rapport is back), THEN hit her up. Now you have something to talk about - "Yeah, beat you on those two games, I knew you didn't have a chance!" - then talk about some other stuff and then mention how it would be cool to see her in person again so you can gloat some more.

I tried this on a girl I used to bang during my college days and hadn't seen in 3 years. Sure enough, next time I saw her we were gettin' it on like rabbits. It's the less-direct way of getting back with an FWB, but hey - I'm just giving you what worked for me!

 

[-deejay-]

This is gonna sound like the dumbest ploy ever, but I've had it work for me before...

"Words With Friends."

Download the game on your phone, hit her up and see if she's down to play the game with you. Then, during the game, be a ****y S.O.B. telling her how much you're going to beat her, cracking jokes on her, etc. Basically, showing her you're still the fun guy she used to hang out with.

After a couple of games (i.e. once the rapport is back), THEN hit her up. Now you have something to talk about - "Yeah, beat you on those two games, I knew you didn't have a chance!" - then talk about some other stuff and then mention how it would be cool to see her in person again so you can gloat some more.

I tried this on a girl I used to bang during my college days and hadn't seen in 3 years. Sure enough, next time I saw her we were gettin' it on like rabbits. It's the less-direct way of getting back with an FWB, but hey - I'm just giving you what worked for me!

That's actually a pretty good idea. I'll have to try that. But, if she doesn't have Words with Friends, I'll have to call her up. lol.